why are people so mean to me?

Answer 1

You are telling people how to treat you by saying that you don't care about yourself, by plastering your sexual history and your victimization all over your profile and by ASKING people to abuse you. You are not claiming any power here. OWN who you are. Things may have happened to you that ARE NOT YOUR FAULT. But, who you have sex with is totally your responsibility. Continuing to share you body with any and every body tells people that you are nobody and that they can use and abuse you.

Begin my changing your screen name. Then you might show some self respect and remove all the information about your sexual history. This is not the business of people all over the world reading your profile. I'm trying to help you here.

You can start today and make tomorrow different. You don't have to allow people to use you. But if you continue to disrespect yourself why should they behave differently?

You can't change the past. Things happen to us that hurt and embarrass us and we can't go back. But you can do everything about tomorrow. But if you insist on carrying the past with you, wearing it for everyone to see, you will never be free of it. You will never be able to escape it and you are doomed to repeat it.

Decide what kind of person you would like to be. Look to others who have the qualities you would like to have. Find out how they went about it, how they got where thay are. Learn to love, learn to care. Love yourself. When you begin to care for yourself, others will care for you too. You can't expect them to if you don't. Show them how you want them to treat you by treating yourself that way. Expect only good things. Tolerate nothing less and let go anything that isn't positive. But do let go of the past and stop trading on what happened to you before. You want love and admiration. Not pity.

Answer 2

FOR "I no longer CARE about myself" girl,
Question Details: YOU need to go to a hospital and ask them to contact social services. GOING into SEX and drugs and self mutalation is the way OUR MINDS TRY and COPE with what has been done to us. It is a way to PRETEND that what happened was an OKAY thing. I HAVE LIVED YOUR LIFE~ I am 44 now, and my most recent assault was in June 06 the NIGHT before I burried MY MOM> Please go to the hospital and ask for help. Tell them YOUR life and REFUSE to leave until they call a cop to take your statement. DO THIS GIRL. LIFE SUCKS BIG TIME, but IT also makes YOU stronger and as you grow up... you will be able to get the past behind you. IF YOU HURT YOURSELF THE BAD GUY WINS> debrazgalaxy 360 blog for answers

Answer 3

You're nick-name troubles me.

I see you are only 14. If it's coming from your peers, teens can be very brutal. My 2 sons are adults now, but they took their share when they were young.

I don't know for sure, but it's my understanding girls your age sometimes get worse treatment than boys.

Please talk to your parents, or a trusted adult, and see if they can help you seek counseling. You are much too young to feel so badly about yourself. You need to find someone who cares.

I too was treated badly in my youth because I was short, fat, and clumsy. I later grew quickly and I'm very tall and powerful now, but I still feel I'm useless and a waste of space. You don't want to go through life feeling this way.
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Answer 4

I wish I knew why they were so mean to me. Here's what I think, though--they are mean if you let them be mean. They will step on whoever lets them do it. Talk loudly, firmly (not necessarily rudely) and look people in the eye. Don't be meek or shy. See if that works.

Answer 5

Because they're unsensitive jerks. They don't realize that sometimes people don't need their sarcastic rudeness, and that it's offensive to others.

I wouldn't pay any attention to it. Focus on the people who are nice and trying to help... and ignore the others.

Answer 6

Because you probably let them. Seriously, pull up your big girl pants, take a deep breath, and stand up tall. People can only hurt the outside, they have to be invited to allow you to hurt inside where you live.

Answer 7

Sometimes people don't know that they are hurting the feelings of others. Sometimes they do it because they do not feel good about themselves

Answer 8

People are mean and sinful. God loves you!!!

Answer 9

you too,join the club. i feel the same way.

Answer 10

I always ask that too....don't feel bad, it's not you. IT's them