i am not happy with my husband but he loves me should i leave him anyways?

Answer 1

Now...just because you are unhappy doesn't necessarily warrant divorce and I don't know your unique situation. However, what bothers me is the fact that your decision seems to be focussed on him and not you.You have to do what is right for you. You have absolutely no obligation to him, whatsoever (except honesty). You should never make yourself a slave to another person's happiness. Relationships are like business arrangements that pivot around a core of individual self-interest. You don't fall in love with people randomly nor are you in love with a person *for their sake* (and if you were, that would make your partner a charity case). You get into relationships because other people bring a lot to the table in terms of augmenting your happiness and overal state of well-being/satisfaction with the world. When you get to the point that your happiness is irrecoverable, you need to move on because that contract has been broken. Think of it like a Pepsi dealer supplying a mini-mart. They both have contractual agreements to provide certain things at a certain time. If the mini-mart decides to simply not pay the delivery guy...then the delivery guy has NO obligation to go in debt or keep providing AT HIS cost. That is the position you are in. Do you want to be free or not or do you want to let the prospect of someone else's unhappiness keep you in bondage? In short...your happiness or his? You are the only person inside your own head. You live and die alone as an individual consciousness. As such, you are only one half of the relationship and you must look out for yourself. Anything else is rolling the dice.

Answer 2

Do you love him? If he loves you and you stay with him anyways even if you don't love him, you aren't being fair to him or yourself. You would be unhappy and therefore probably make him unhappy. But if you love him or still have some romantic feelings for him, you should try to save your marriage. Talk to him about everything, before you make a final decision, either way. It could be something easily resolved. Why aren't you happy? Only you can truly decided whether or not to leave him, just make sure you know how you feel about everything. Leaving him might not make you happy. Especially if that's not the reason you're truly unhappy.

Answer 3

You two should do everything you can think of to try to make this work. I'm assuming you were happy with him when you married him so you can get it back if you both truely want to. My husband and I did, we joined a Church of Christ and got God back into our lives and we became better people and us becoming better people fixed a lot of our problems in our marriage. There is too much divorce and too many people that could be happy together give up to easy, not that they are lazy but because divorce is so acceptable and normal in todays world. You must still care about him or you wouldn't worry about leaving hurting him, you obviously don't want to hurt him. Just try everything to make it work. You will feel better about yourself then even if it doesn't work out. You will know that you did everything possible to make it work before you left.

Answer 4

If you are not happy, even though your husband tries to love you, I think you should leave bcos things will not work out. I am speaking from experience. I have been married for about 8 mnths now and she isnt happy despit a handful of efforts. It will go nowhere and all you will do is resent him more and more like my wife resents me. So I say its better you two just call it quits before things get ugly.

Answer 5

If you feel you have to in order to be happy than do it. You shouldn't stay in a relationhship your not happy in, why fake it, when you can really be happy elsewhere. I take it your thinking of leaving him, love is not what matters, its about happiness, he will love again. Being in love with someone is what holds you togeather not just the love you feel. I'm sure you love him as muh as he loves you, talk with him and let him know of your concerns within the relationship or with him, so that he understands why you want to leave. Is there something he can change, show or say, to change your mind? If so or if not let him know.

Answer 6

If you're not happy with him there must be a reason. I would either have a talk with him as to why then perhaps there's a chance that things will work out.....If you're not happy and there's no changing whatever is bugging you then I would leave him. You being happy is what matters...not making someone else happy.

Answer 7

well are you anhappy because of whar he does you dont like. are you still in love with him, also how long together is a consideration.and children are there any, and who gets custody.but if you are so unhappy and cant tell why and work it out you have to be true to yourself. you are the only one to choose,he might stop making you unhappy if you talk to him about it. if he dont want too let him go.together you both should be happy. if either one is unhappy and there is no give and take anymore go. no relationship should exsist if someone is unhappy.. sometimes things just dont work out, but remember he maybe unhappy too
anyway i hope this helps, but remember,all the truth,is in your heart. and for you to be happy you have to answer it

Answer 8

Sure, go ahead and run off and get a divorce just because you aren't happy. I'm sure he's not happy either. Sure, go ahead and throw your marriage vows away! Everything is disposable these days, it's sad. Grow up and stick by your husband! You're a selfish baby.

Answer 9

No, you should try to work things out. Communicate! Tell him why you are not happy and you both should be able to change a few things to make you happy to be with him.

Answer 10

ya know what? if you truly aren't happy with him then let him know. Don't keep it from the poor guy. And he will ask why so you gotta have a good answer. Once you let the guy know either he'll try and work on it or he'll say sumn stupid, that depends on how much he truly loves you.