How has Life been for you?

Question

. . . and I am interested. People experiencing different things. And yet in the end you end up hearing that we're actually all the same. Some people just can't find a way out, or become used to 'a' way, that they try to apply themselves[attitude, morals, etc.] to it, by accepting things..the way that they see it... for good or worse, bad. This question might sound rather 'un-fixed'. But what do you think life has done to you, that made you into the person that you are today? Do you still feel that you find yourself 'stuck'.. even when you look at it from the surface, it actually looks fine? or are you already at a 'fine' place with yourself?

Are you what you made yourself to be when you are with other people? or do you still find yourself indenial with yourself, when with other people?

or, to make it less confusing, simply answer the question from the title :-)

Answer 1

How has life been to me? Interesting question.

Well, lets start with the beginning, when life was dictated to me before I could really change it for myself. I was accidentally conceived during unprotected sex by my parents which was probably aided by alcohol. I was born into a poor family with two alcoholic parents who had no parenting plan, philosophy, strategy, or anything of the like. I know because I've asked them. My family has a long history of depression (bi and unipolar) and schizophrenia, and I think that my unpredictable and sometime debilitating bouts of sadness and emptiness may be partly cause by my genes. The doctors think so too. I was raised in a home where beating and yelling were the only discipline methods employed, which made my pretty resentful of authority and temperamental. My father was mostly absent and my mother was financially inrresponsible, which lead to me having a nomadic childhood, which included evictions, living without electricity and sleeping in cars.

When I came of age and began to think and act for myself, I rejected many of the ideas and values I'd been taught. I try my best to be non-violent, tolerant, financially responsible and sane (the last in the hardest but I manage.) Life, as in the things that affect me that were out of my control, has treated me pretty badly. So I try to treat myself well.

Answer 2

I think past experiences and upbringing have huge influences on who I am. That said, I'm in the middle of making a lot of changes. I'm realizing that a lot of who I am has to do with the fear of being afraid to be who I am. I am just now at this point in my life able to realize how many things I have not done because I was afraid of what other people would think. Now that I'm starting to do some of those things, I can't believe how I could let other people's opinion's of me influence me so much. The funny thing is, most of the time, nobody cares.

So to answer your question, my life has been what I've made it. I'm happy to say that it is getting better every day. When it feels like I'm stuck, I try to remind myself that it is me that is keeping myself stuck. If I didn't want to be stuck, I wouldn't be. To be honest, unsticking oneself is a scary process. The fear of failure is sort of ridiculous when you stop and think about it, but it can be huge when you are taking those initial steps.

Anyway, there's my two cents.

Answer 3

Reading this question and the answers to it made me realize how much of my life I have wasted being mad, sad, and holding grudges on all sorts of things. Even though I have many years to live, I still feel like I wasted a large amount of time. Lesson learned.

Now to answer your question, despite the hard times, my life is pretty good.

I was born in Europe, lived there for 10 years, came to the US, my life totally changed (in a very good way), went through a lot when I first came here, but it's getting better and better each day.

Answer 4

Life to me has been wonderful, challenging, hard, inspirational to other's, sad, even though I look at the bad things, every hard thing I've been through I've made a positive out of it...I'm a living, breathing miracle, who shouldn't be alive today...from birth till now, and although I wasted years pitying myself, I finally realized life is what you make of it, not what is thrown at you, because, believe me, I'm writing books, that would make great lifetime movies...and though I've cheated death, been abused, been raped, been in hiding, ect...could go on and on, I live each day to the fullest, and enjoy the smallest of things, because, there was a time, when I couldn't even go to the bathroom by myself...so life has it's ups and downs, more downs, but, you have to always make a positive out of it, because believe me, there is always someone out there that has been through worse, or living worst, and it really beats the alternative...death...so, Life is what you make of it, and how you feel about yourself, not what other's think, because, some people pity me, because of all I've been through, and I'm in my early 40's, and used to model, ect...have done jobs I loved, have two beautiful kids in college I raised alone, and now, I'm alone, and it was hard at first being alone after all these years, and it still makes my day when they just call, but, I'm writing, and working hard, and going back to school, even though, everything I went to college for, I can't do for some reason or another, mostly physical things that have happened to me, and the profession I was in , like court reporting, I lost my hearing from my girls dad beating me, when they were babies, can't do that, was a paramedic, had a wreck supposed to have died, stayed in a coma, beat all odds, became a miracle of the hospital for living and supposed to have lost all my intelligence, but, didn't lose a lick...never gave up...and it was a long fight back to just talking, eating just from being a breathing human, who could still think but not move or talk, and have surgeries yearly, so, can't do that, can't lift, because, the wreck caused so much internal damage, I have no muscle left from the surgeries in my stomach, but, yeah, I let it get me down for years, and lost some of the best years of my life feeling sorry for me, and now, I feel sorry for my family, my kids, my brother's who stood by me, trying to let me see life wasn't over, it's just beginning a new and different chapter...just like a book, life comes in different stages, the good with the bad...and it's what you make of it...and to see me now, people think I've never had a care in the world, and say, I'm just so pleasant and happy all the time, what is the secret...and I tell them, LIFE...Breathing, seeing, can't hear, but, family, you get the picture...Life is a gift, and people take advantage of it, and should slow down and remember it is a gift, and things can change in one split second forever....you don't see it coming...but, it's what you make of it..so that's life to me..

Answer 5

A long race from a farm house in Texas in 1945. There was a 40 yr. wilderness where I went round and round and round the mountain. Married, two daughters, career, divorce, small business, caregiver to invalid mother and retirement. How I did it, I do not know, but I did it. I give the credit to the Lord, because He never left me.

Answer 6

best way to explain my life is being on a sinking ship. trying to have as much enjoyable experiences and memories as possible before i die. every year my life and all its struggles gets worse and worse. but i try and go out and have a blast before the obvious high point of the train wreck known as my existence. and as far as do i believe my life made the person i am today well i definitely believe that. i'm the twisted, short temperated, crazy s.o.b. i am today to do all the **** i had to deal with.

Answer 7

It sucks bad. So much stress and pressure, I wished that I was born in a third world country. I rather live a simple life working 60 hours a week with no internet, tv, phones, radio, etc and eat maggots.

Answer 8

my life has been a journey...paths going this way and that...i have experienced facial surgery as a child, divorce as a young adult, almost fatal disease during a 15 year period while raising my child as a single parent...i have taught thousands of people in my career and now find myself at 55 taking time to know myself...i have lost my parents and my child lives far away...i feel i have had a good if not wonderful life...i have grown leaps and bounds...i am happier in this older age as some things finally make sense...i was painfully shy as a child...humanity scared me...now i love humanity...i thrive on humanity...the one thing i miss is true romantic love...i know i am capable of loving now and i hope for romantic love to share in my old age...ps my aunt just knocked on my door to deliver my birthday present...i am blessed...

Answer 9

I totally hate myself- besides that though my life is really good. Caring people around me and a good home. Thx for asking! For anyone who's not having a good life- I'm supporting you- don't give up yet!

Answer 10

Like a emotional rollercoaster

I almost went homeless

i got accepted in to one of the best hughschools in florida

I am on probation ( on the verge of getting kicked out)

I out of probation

who knows what will happen next.................