Sometimes I wonder if helping family out is more like a burden or intrusive. Help once for a mistakes, problems but if the person just keeps doing the same foolish things its more like a hassle, burden, annoyance...Or should family be there no matter what?
2007-02-11 10:05:44 · 10 answers · asked by Toothie 2 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Helping a person in need is one thing. But somebody who keeps doing the same dumb things over and over is using you. You become an enabler and are harming them instead of helping. Make the chronic problem stand on their own two feet. They will be better of for it.
2007-02-11 10:14:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family is "where they take you in regardless."
Family is the beginning and the end. It can be a burden or intrusive: It is what you make it.
If someone in the family is goofing up, and does it continually, maybe its time for a family intervention. It may seem truly intrusive, but then again, if it is successful, the feeling of goodness and satisfaction will follow you all of your days.
On the other hand, if it does not succeed, at least you will have the satisfaction of knowing that you did all you could.
You won't have the guilt that comes from not preventing an accident when you could have.
2007-02-11 10:10:57 · answer #2 · answered by The Parthian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, family first, or "the virtue of family loyalty" as I call it, has been so heavily indoctrinated in me that I don't know if I'll ever fully escape it. It rules all in my family, and it's that attitude that causes so much of the problems in my family. Personally, I think there's a line. It's a considerable bit farther than with the rest of the world, but I do have my limits.
2007-02-11 16:51:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is good and nice to help your family. And so you should. If someone is constantly in need, then maybe you have to draw the line somewhere. Tell them that you cant always be there at their beck and call. Make it clear that if they continue to screw up, then you will have no other choice than to say no. Stick to it, Be firm. You will only be hurting your self in the end.
2007-02-11 10:16:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ur question is too simple to answer...but it depends what u feel about ur own! Family alwayz comes 1st, weither or not its a burden or/and intrusive! Gees, I dont get dese idiots!
2007-02-11 10:09:37 · answer #5 · answered by quassy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one. I don't loan money, but I will sometimes help with a job like moving, or something like that. But I try not to waste weekends if i can avoid it doing chores for someone else.
I'm sure I will be helping my parents when they get older.
If siblings or other relatives only call you when they want something, it gets old very fast.
2007-02-11 10:13:48 · answer #6 · answered by PH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family is never a burden, or intrusive--in-laws are!
2007-02-11 10:09:34 · answer #7 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well try to ignore such types of question and also ask them not to interfere in your personal matters or u can ask him" why do u want to know about my family when its not even concerned with the business matters"
2016-03-29 02:36:53 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey if they're telling you to butt out....do it! You'll be better off in the long run.
2007-02-11 10:11:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes to both. They can be your cross to bear.
2007-02-11 10:14:32 · answer #10 · answered by Sophist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋