I told her that we don't want the soup. So then she just ordered one for herself. Then when she got the soup she gave it to me and said "I didn't want the soup". So I said, "then why did you order it, I certainly didn't order it and I don't want it". Then she kept nagging me until I ate her goddamn soup.
What is her problem? Anyone else experience this?
*I'm a guy, 19 years old
Would like feedback from the women.
2007-02-11 09:57:15 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
*This was on top of my regular order, which was enough by itself.
2007-02-11 09:58:37 · update #1
Note: I don't think this has anything to do with eating healthy because what I ordered was already like 1.5 as much as I really need. Adding the soup would just make me obese. (Some restaurants give large servings). I ordered something similar to what she ordered (a burger).
2007-02-11 10:18:54 · update #2
Jeancommunicates: I DID eat the soup, I'm just not happy about it and I think the whole thing was stupid.
2007-02-11 10:26:30 · update #3
I wouldn't care that much if it was an isolated incident but this is just typical behavior from her.
2007-02-11 14:29:20 · update #4
Your mum sounds a bit whacked but she loves you. Enjoy the fact that she is trying to take care of you even if she is just being controlling along the way. There would have been no way to get out of this situation without making a scene and you did a great job of keeping the peace.
Some people just like to have control over others, sometimes with children this is the only power they have. If it is just small things like the soup I would probably just have pushed it aside and say I was full, or ask the waiter to put it in a take out and hand it to her to have later.
I know this must irritate you because as an adult it annoys the heck out of me as well when my father continues to tell me what to do as well. He is eight-five and has always been bossy. I have just learned to let it go. It doens't pay to argue because it just makes me crazy.
Hope this helps. I have had years of practice dealing with a parent just like the one you describe.
By the way in restaurants my Dad lets me order for him now. Best of luck.
2007-02-11 19:27:07 · answer #1 · answered by Deirdre O 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The woman sounds like a control freak, you should not have eaten her soup. I dont care what her reasons are for wanting to order soup for everyone, the fact remains that she disrespected the people involved. She needs to quit this, because I am sure she would not like the same done to her
2007-02-11 19:24:06 · answer #2 · answered by Bonzai Betty 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mom wanted you to have something healthy. Apparently, what you ordered did not really please her, but since you are 19 and not a baby anymore, she couldn't order for you, This is just a Mom type thing. Try to get past it. She was just trying to do what is right for you. She wanted to make sure you were getting some good vitamins in that growing frame of yours. All good moms do things liken this. For Valentines. take her out for soup.
2007-02-11 18:11:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Since the soup probably came with the meal, some ladies just want to get their "money's worth" or if not, have to make some kind of statement even if they do not follow through with it.
2007-02-12 07:33:11 · answer #4 · answered by Sal D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you so angry? Your mother is the only mother you will ever have and when she is gone, you will wish you'd eaten that soup! And why are you calling God's name in vain? Your mother could be suffering from a mental condition. She didn't do anything mean, just annoying. Be thankful that at 19 years old you have a mother and dad that can afford to buy you soup or anything else. Be thankful.
2007-02-11 18:25:06 · answer #5 · answered by Jeancommunicates 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I'm sorry to hear you ate the soup. Why didn't you just say "No thank you" and push it aside, then ignore her nagging by changing the conversation , turning away from her and starting a conversation with someone else?
If she puts the soup in front of you, just put it where she can't reach it and carry on.
2007-02-11 18:04:13 · answer #6 · answered by Boopsie 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Is your mom a bit of a control freak when it comes to food? does she do ALL the food shopping and ALL the cooking and does she dictate what and when people should eat? I think you are old enough to simply say...ill taste it.,..but i dont want to eat the whole bowl...no thank you!
2007-02-11 21:48:07 · answer #7 · answered by motherhendoulas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess i am lucky with my mum. i would have just told her to "f-off with her bloody soup", and she would not have been offended. she would have just laughed.
if i had a mum like yours, i wouldnt have ate the soup. seeing you did it this time, next time she knows that she only has to nag a few times and you will do what she wants you to do. its like a kid at the supermarket who knows if he yells loud enough, mum will buy him the chocolate bar cause she just wants to shut him up.
2007-02-11 20:12:39 · answer #8 · answered by Minerva 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Parents tend to exercise their authority particularly when they think it is at risk gives a sence of self. You need to maintain a respectful distance to your mother, she will try to get over you anyway but you are in a safe moment for her not to get over you and let it roll and get it into a really big problem for you both.
THink of going with a psychologist
2007-02-11 18:15:00 · answer #9 · answered by Gerardo G 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Mama wants you to have soup so you don't get sick. Humour Mom, eat your soup. Be a good kid. At 19 yrs of age, parents can just bug you. She loves you, so try not to get too bugged.
2007-02-11 18:03:30 · answer #10 · answered by angel 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋