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Question

Hey i have a friend that tells me that being bi is just a face and that later on the person will decide to either be straight or gay.

I personally don't agree with it because I'm bi and yet i have an attraction for both sexes.What do u think?

Answer 1

Ugh . . . friends like that give friendship a bad name.

Tell your friend that bisexuality is a real, valid sexual orientation, and there are many bisexuals around to confirm that (including me!). We are, however, a very maligned group of people, with so many stereotypes, misperceptions, myths, and outright hatred against us! I just wish I could tell everyone that we are NOT:

1) Greedy.
2) Confused.
3) In a 'phase'.
4) Indecisive.
5) Horny or sex-addicted or nympomaniacal.
6) People who want to have their cake and eat it, too.
7) Necessarily polyamorous or in open relationships.
8) Commitment-phobic or unfaithful.
9) Really gay or straight and in denial.
10) Really gay or straight but getting perks/avoiding condemnation by being bisexual.
11) Necessarily into group sex.
12) Necessarily equally split in their love of each sex.
13) Necessarily experienced with both sexes in order to call ourselves 'bisexual'.
14) The spreaders of disease from the gay community to straight.
15) When it all boils down to it, any different from anyone else.

And no, not everyone is 'a little bit bisexual'. I believe strongly that there are people out there who are 100% straight or gay, and never dally along the lines in between. However, a good deal of us are somewhere in the middle, even if we don't acknowledge it with the label of 'bisexual'.

Hope that's helped you understand bisexuality; we must constantly fight biphobia and bi-invisibility.

Answer 2

A lot of gay and straight persons feel this way. It isn't easy to understand someone who is different than you are, and people are often afraid of what they don't understand.

I think that until you've lived it, felt it, it is hard to understand.

So long as you know who you are, and are comfortable with who you are, don't worry about what other people say.

If your friend's comments are constant, and/or are really bothering you, tell them to lay off. Friends don't make friends feel bad for something that is beyond their control. He has his opinion, you have yours. As friends you should be able to at least agree to disagree.

Answer 3

I'm bisexual.
I have a husband and a daughter, but we have an open marriage in that I am able to entertain ladies from time to time.
I have been in relationships with women, no men, and I was unsatisfied. I have been in relationships with jealous men who wouldn't let me 'dally' with women, and I was unhappy. I am happiest in my current situation, I think.

I hope this helps!

Answer 4

It really doesn't matter what anyone else thinks mate, its your life, you live it how you want too, as long as your not hurting anyone or yourself, whats the problem, as long as your happy, good luck !!!!

Answer 5

I think that every individual is different. I accept that.