Yet she is the one who has the previous sex partners?
Yes, she is the only one I've ever been with. So I have to live with the thought of her and another man, but she can't handle it if the tables are turned.
2007-02-11 09:41:49 · 14 answers · asked by Billy Bob D 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She must be untrustworthy. Maybe in time she will see what a wonderful husband you are, and she will calm down on this matter.
2007-02-11 09:47:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there only on the other foot.I've been your wife.. and yes I did step out. My hubby and I have been there thru the turmoil. And you have to accept the fact and if she tells you that she is faithful now just let it rest. My hubby was very concerned that I might do this again. I was in a relationship with the other and he started to beat me. As in leaving bruises and it was hard to explain that till finally I got out of that and tucked my tail in and came home. I might be dead now if it had NOT been for my understanding hubby. He raised hell and broke a marble top table after he found out ...but we made amends and things are OK now. ITs a horrible situation when this happens.I dont want to wish this on my worse enemy but it was a learning experience.Let her know that you are there for her and NO dont get even..Just get back together. For my sake dont keep letting the past come between the both of you. God I hate what I did(crying now) I was seeking for something and God knows I had the best thing here at home. Lord help you and your wife cause you will need it. Best to you.
2007-02-11 18:41:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she cheated, she didnt want u. Yet, she doesnt want any other woman to have u either. Sounds like she is being selfish. She wants it all!
Tell her tough sh*t. She made the decision to cheat, u r moving on and gonna bang every woman u find that is more attractive than she is. lol
Bottom line is this.....she chose to make a fool of u. You dont deserve that....nobody does. Not even her. So, leave her, and move on to someone who will show u the same respect that you show them. She cheated, and she will do it again when she feels its safe. They always do.
Make sure u leave first though, because even though she did it, dont stoop to her level. Respect yourself more to know u were the bigger person. Just walk away and move on.
GOod luck to u. Sorry u had to deal with this. It sucks. But there are good faithful women out there. U will find her.
2007-02-11 17:53:57 · answer #3 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From your question, it seems your wife's partners were "pre-marriage", so it shouldn't affect you. That's just experience points. I think from what she said is that it would hurt her to know that you want to be with someone else in the FUTURE...
It sounds to me like she loves you, and wouldn't want you to stray. It doesn't mean that she will, or that she did, but just that you are the only one for her now, and she probably hopes you feel the same way.
I don't see it as insecurity. You shouldn't see it as a threat. I hope you don't. Just because she was with other people before you doesn't mean she wants to be with them again, or is looking for someone else. You don't have to think of past men. They are nameless/faceless (hopefully) men from her past. You may feel that you lack experience, and that may be true, but it doesn't mean something is wrong. If you trust her and love her, then it's all good. There are very few virgins around pre-marriage. You just happen to be one of them. She is with you now, and that is what you should concentrate on, not something that happened long ago, before you were married.
2007-02-11 18:08:55 · answer #4 · answered by catchernkeeper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look Bud. YOU got married. That means YOU said I love you and want to be WITH ONLY YOU. Whether you got married early or what ever other reason you didn't have any other partners. That was YOUR decision. If you want to be with other women leave your marriage, but do not try to construe it as your wife being selfish.
2007-02-11 17:50:52 · answer #5 · answered by Inquiring mind 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she may have some insecurities.She may be worried that you will find someone more interesting or attractive than her.She may also be thinking that because she was your first and only partner that you might want to see what else is out there.
2007-02-11 18:08:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means she needs to quit thinking of it, and either shes cheated on people before or shes been cheated on most likely.
2007-02-11 17:48:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree what is the difference now that you are married it is all water under the bridge.
2007-02-11 19:36:05 · answer #8 · answered by chiefs fan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over it, both of you. You're married to each other now, so what difference does it make?
2007-02-11 17:46:10 · answer #9 · answered by count scratchula 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her she's the only one you think about, don't leer at other women, etc.
2007-02-11 17:47:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋