Please Help!!!?

Question

Well im a 16 yr old boy and I need some help on how to tell my parents that I like the same sex and how I feel deeply about being the opposite gender. I am feeling really depressed keeping my feelings in every day and it is getting really hard and some times I get suicide thoughts. I would like to know how to tell my parents and what to expect from telling them. Also parents that answer how would you feel about this if I was you son. Please help! and thanks in advance for the help.

Answer 1

Hi, It's me, Rob....Still feeling bad Jes? Good advice from Da Ben Dan, and Ziggy as well, but you can see that their POVs are very different from each other. I think you should talk to someone in person Jes. Online friends and forums can only do so much for a person. Really. Talk to a school counselor. It's free, and confidential. Try out the words on him/her. You know....the "I;m gay" thing. See how it feels. Listen to them, or at least consider what they have to say. The other poster was absolutely correct..... You don't have to feel this way. Your thoughts have been corrupted by negativity and self doubt. Make the decision that you will talk to your counselor.....tomorrow. Don't put it off. Let someone else help you. Please? We don't want to lose you. I've spoken with you many times through emails. I know that you're a nice kid. You must take the first step by sharing your problem with someone in person. Your life is just beginning, not ending. Take care, Rob

Answer 2

Before you come Out to any of your family members, make sure you have a plan before you tell anyone you are gay or lesbian. Sometimes parents will react very well to news that their son or daughter is homosexual and sometimes they will react very badly. So if you are intent on telling them, make sure that you do these things first:

- Carefully think over all the positive and negative things that could possibly happen.
- If you are still dependant on your parents financially and live in their house, etc., ask a friend if it would be ok for you to stay with them if your parents' reaction is poor and they decide to kick you out of the house.
- Have some money saved up.
- Before you tell anyone, take some of your clothes to your friend's house & other personal things.... just in case. Not too many things, just enough to get you by, like a week's worth of clothes...
- Realise that it is a real possibility that this may turn out very good or very bad, or anywhere in between.
- Remember that parents many times will have their sons' & daughters' futures planned out for them, like wanting them to get married, have kids, become a doctor, etc.... So it may be quite a shock to them when they learn that their child is gay.

There are also other things to consider before coming Out. Give it careful thought. Remember that you should only come Out when you are truly prepared to do so and that means having a good plan.

After that... all you can do is tell them and hope for the best!

Answer 3

I am going to give you some piece of advice.

First off, go to the nearest church and begin to pray because youu are going to need a lot of help from the good Lord.

When speaking to your parents, please make sure that you speak from the bottom of your heart and that the message
is an honest one.

If you can convince your folks about this, then your battle is finished - - - well it is almost over because then you will need to go convince yourself that you like the same sex but also that you attracted to the opposite sex. in another words you are bisexual!!!!.

There you have my response as crystal as can be and don't forget that you are a bisexual person.

Answer 4

you should be ashamed of yourself to be either a homosexual or a bisexual person. if anybody, in general terms, says that to you then he and/or she doesn't know the first thing about being either a homosexual or a bisexual or much less has a heart to listen to new ideas. Remember every single day that goes by we always try our best to learn new things.

my response to you is: ignore everybody and you should be proud of who you are whether or not you may be a homosexual or bisexual.

Answer 5

Yes, talk to them . They may not like it at first, especially us dads, but they will love you in the long run.
You are in transition , teenage years is no time to make life decisions. Talk to your school counselor too.
There is good help online too.
Through all the noise, you want answers to some pretty serious questions. Is gay ok? Are people born homosexual? Is there freedom from homosexuality? How do I find answers to my questions? What is the real truth?

Exodus Youth believes there are real answers to these questions found in the gospel

Answer 6

contact your local branch of PFLAG (parents and friends of lesbians and gays) they are really good people and will help you if you want...If you persist in having sucidal thoughts..get medical help..it is available and you do not have to feel this way. Do it.