I am married, but things just keep going downhill. Unfortunately, divorce may be the only thing that saves the both of us from going insane! I have 3 kids- 7, 4, and 2. The idea of starting over seems impossible. Are there really men out there that would take on 3 kids not their own??
2007-02-11 09:00:07 · 33 answers · asked by scootzz777 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
OK, baggage was the wrong word, because I do not feel that my kids (or anyone else's) are...I have 3 awesome children. And I am not thinking about immediately finding a replacement. Was trying to keep the question short. To elaborate...my husband is a severe alcoholic who refuses to help himself. He has admitted that drinking is his #1 priority. The thought of being alone terrifies me, but I will do it to make sure my kids grow up in a healthy environment.
2007-02-11 09:20:56 · update #1
i would date you
i love kids
2007-02-11 09:02:33 · answer #1 · answered by Dr Universe 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The ages of your kids are a lot to deal with and it is understandable that kids would contribute to added stress in a marriage that is already stressful if your husband is a drinker. Does your husband want to divorce and be a part time Daddy? That is what happens usually. People divorce and the Dad gets a new life and still gets credit for seeing his kids every other weekend and maybe a night during the week. Try Christian Marriage Counseling first with your husband before you think about splitting the family up. If that doesn't work; then sad but true you may join the growing statistics of divorces. Then later down the line hopefully you would meet a decent man that would love you so much that he would love your kids a lot also.
2007-02-11 09:30:53 · answer #2 · answered by Tgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are men out there that like kids as many have said
but you need a man that not only likes kids but will also
be williing to take the responsibilities of raising those kids
and loving them as he loves you. It will be difficult to find
such a man but if you choose the right person for you
and he is truly a man then he will also accept your kids so
all of you can be togeather. It will take some looking as
you alread have 3 and you would probably have better
luck if you looked for another man that had kids also.
Either way it will take some work as you want the best
not only for you but for you kids also. Don't ever think
that starting over will be impossible because your kids
will be the drive you need to move on: Good luck
2007-02-11 12:49:35 · answer #3 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, there are some men who would get into a relationship with a woman who has three children, but there are also some men who would not.
Right now you should not worry about your prospects for after your potential divorce because you have enough to focus on with your current marital problems, your children's well being, and your own sanity.
Deal with your current situation right now, and once you have gotten through your current situation, then you can look at what your prospects might be, if in fact you do get divorced.
Don't put any more stress on yourself right now than you have to.
2007-02-11 09:11:36 · answer #4 · answered by Seldom Seen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are, it will be hard though because there are a lot of perverts out there looking for women like you. I would try everything to make the marriage work before I gave up, you know he loves your kids and would never hurt them. Growing up in a house with parents that can't get along isn't good for them either though. Just be sure you two have tried everything you can think of first. Try church, bringing God into our lives saved mine and my husbands marriage. We started to see the faults of our own that we needed to work on and not just the faults of the other. We noticed as we fixed these problems that our marriage was also being fixed. Good luck.
2007-02-11 09:06:00 · answer #5 · answered by HereIAm 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sure there are a lot of men who would want 3 step kids, but most likely not be interested a mother who isn't even divorced yet and is only concerned with finding the next man to unload her BAGGAGE onto. stop being so selfish. try whatever you can to make your marriage work. and if it doesn't for whatever reason -- then concentrate on RAISING your kids alone and not being worried about finding a new man. sheesh.
KIDS are not BAGGAGE!
2007-02-11 09:06:58 · answer #6 · answered by Curious_One 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are talking about divorce, but already thinking about your next serious relationship? Give yourself and your children time to heal and enjoy life. Before we can have a successful relationship, we must be able to live with ourselves. Don't jump into something, because you are afraid you can't be by yourself or because you believe your children need somebody.
That said, there are men out there that would have a relationship with women who have three children. If you go back into dating, be honest about your children and don't pressure them or the guy you are dating. It will all fall in place one way or another, we are just choosing the route
2007-02-11 09:09:48 · answer #7 · answered by baby_keks 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im sure that there are....it is better for your children to grow in a happy environment rather than one filled with anger and hostitlitly.....
my cousin has 4 kids at the time that her husband cheated on her he left her with a 4yr old, 2yr old and 6month old twins....you know she found it hard but now she is doing great...she has hooked up with a saint he has no baggage and he has accepted her kids...they have been together for 4 years now and the oldest is no 9 years old....
so there are people out there for everyone....
however what ever desicion you make...may your future be bright....
2007-02-11 09:05:56 · answer #8 · answered by askaway 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Possibly, but I think you should try everything you can to salvage your marriage...the grass is not always greener on the otherside, and your love life should not be your priority right now, you should not be worried about "if a man will take you and your baggage" but rather the emotional stability of your children, their well-being, and health and education.
2007-02-11 09:22:44 · answer #9 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
3 kids althout being alot are not a complete disqualifier from the dating world, i know of men that would not mind it, it does put on extra presure, but it is inconsequential compared to the benefits
imagine finding a guy that wants kids but can't have any and you come along with a whole family already
some men will shy away from it, but there are plenty of others that will take you and your kids on and be happy and content with the situation
2007-02-11 09:53:37 · answer #10 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are men out there that don't care whether u have children or not or how many!!! but you should worry more about being a mother now for your children and not if u are going to be able to get a man. try not to depend on a man so much u could do it u're self you won't be the first or the last to do it
2007-02-11 09:08:43 · answer #11 · answered by ynra BTB 4-18-09 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋