I am in a long-term relationship. He actually moved in with me a few months ago. I got divorced a few months before that, and I had been seeing my boyfriend for about 8 or 9 months prior to his moving in. He was seemingly the "answer to my prayers". When we first stated dating, well even for the first year or so, he always told me i was beautiful and that he wanted to have a family with me and get married and all that. He made me feel so special, and I guess gave me hope that I would have a great life even after a very hard divorce. It seems like I'm starting to see a different side of him though. For the last few months, he has been so moody, even going days without talking to me in my own house. It's not like we had a fight- he will be fine one minute, then just freak out over something like I didn't tell him I used the last of the milk. This leads to days of the silent treatment. If I try to talk to him during these periods, he basically implies I'm stupid. What gives? I love him.
2007-02-11 08:54:16 · 9 answers · asked by stacyand jim 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like there is Something "deeper" happening inside of him. Either he has some emotional problems going on or there and is just not happy. Try to sit him and down and talk about it, if that dosen't work, try counseling, and if you can't get him to do either I would suggest kicking him to the curb! I know you love him but if he loved you he wouldn't continue hurting you! I have dealt with this before and made him go to counselor. Turns out he had major anger issues that in turn turned into depression or vice versa. Anger and Depression pretty much go hand in hand! Just try and convince him to get some help!
2007-02-11 09:04:02 · answer #1 · answered by ckverzwyvelt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actions speak louder than words, if his actions towards
you does not make you feel secure with him after such a
long relationship then you need to think again do you just
love this man or in love with this man. With his mood
swings and seemingly getting mad over trivial things it
should send up a red flag to let you know maybe you
need to think things out before you continue your re-
lationship with him. If you are as you say love him very
much then you must work on your relationship with him
and sit and explain to him what it is that bothers you and
how you would like him to change, this will also give him
a chance to change and if the relationship still continues
the way it is then maybe it's best you move on , as he
may not be the one for you. Good luck.
2007-02-11 12:59:10 · answer #2 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's an extremely uncommon social amassing that a male would not want intercourse. So it incredibly is not ok for a girl to confide her problems in yet another male till the he's a family members member of hers or maybe then it can be a mild rely, or that's ok if she is seeing a expert psychologist, or she has regular that male for many some years and not something has ever transpired with that individual and he isn't jealous of any relationship she has, etc. Frankly, i do no longer think of her confiding in yet another woman is recommended, returned till that lady is a expert psychologist and he or she has set an appointment.to aim to clean up something. particularly some human beings slip however and confide in the incorrect human beings and we could continuously supply them some slack yet provided that they understand who they could be confiding in. in specific circumstances it relies upon on the subject rely of the boldness.
2016-10-01 23:38:21 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like the honeymoon period is over and reality is setting in. It sounds like he still doesnt love you the same way he did when you first met or moved in. Time to do some real deepsoul searching here as to whether you want to stay in this relationship or if youre better off moving on. I seriousily dont think this is going anywhere but will end up in disaster. Time to cut your losses and chalk this up to experience and move on and hopefully finding someone better suited to you. Good luck
2007-02-11 09:42:19 · answer #4 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not normal behavior. In fact, someone who ignores you for days on end elther completely lacks respect for you or has his own emotional problems or both. If you love each other, try talking it out. Explain that you cannot live with someone who treats you this way and ask him if he is willing to work out a way that this does not need to happen anymore. He may, of course, attribute some bad behaviors to you, but, it's all about compromise. If he won't really talk it out, you may need to get counseling.
2007-02-11 08:59:59 · answer #5 · answered by astralpen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may be having some problem adjusting to living together or it's a personal trait you haven't seen. either way, you should have him sit down when he's not moody and have a good talk and figure out. be fair and cautious not to be judgemental, finger pointing, emotional. tell him how you feel and try to figure out what's really on his mind. until then, you can't love him 100%. good luck!
2007-02-11 09:01:03 · answer #6 · answered by xyz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All that and the last thing you wrote is, "I love him".
He's right. You are stupid.
He treats you like dirt and you love him! Awe! How sweet! Maybe for Valentine's he'll get a bj and video tape it for you.
Get a clue! Grow a backbone and kick him out! He's no doubt cheating on you anyways.
2007-02-11 09:00:55 · answer #7 · answered by me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe hes just getting bored...bc i kno im in a long term relationship right now and actually its a little diff bc i hardly see my bf when u see urs everyday....maybe hes just getting bored of the same stuff everyday cuz i kno i am..this boy realy loves me and he tells everyone but i just cant understand y i dont so maybe u shud try and change stuff up a bit....good luck
2007-02-11 09:01:07 · answer #8 · answered by meagan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
longdisance relationships do not last long
but miracles can happen
2007-02-11 08:58:03 · answer #9 · answered by Savannah the Great. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋