hey ..in my marriage i think husband & i are friends .. but i defintely dont see [passion .. love etc. iv been married more than 5 years but i have NEVER had the courage to accept it to even myself ... but i think thats the fact. Although husband thinks differntly..so he doesnt want to try to work.... i dunno ... i feel bad!!
2007-02-11 08:47:57 · 5 answers · asked by barley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
welll my QUESTION is that ...
do you know what possibly could be the remedy to my problem?????
and.. dont say counselling.
2007-02-11 08:55:48 · update #1
i had an arranged marriage. no wasnt really in love! And if it helps i get bored with him too at times ... just like to watch movies with him or chat if there is something to talk on...else nothing much! but i do respect him admire him.
2007-02-11 09:20:39 · update #2
I have a hard time understanding your problem.
Did you marry without love, or did love go away. It matters.
When I was going out with my "to be wife" I didn't love her, but I instictively know, she was someone I could live the rest of my life with and love was not necessary on my part. I think we were married about 15 years before I could honestly say I loved her.
Remember now, I always liked her, we had fun, I respected her, but not love in my way of looking at it. So I didn't marry for love but found I had it at 15 Years
Did It Last, Don't know, It's only been 37 years so far
Hope this is you, but if you were in love and aren't now, I don't give you too much hope.
2007-02-11 09:15:40 · answer #1 · answered by bob shark 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the exact same position. I care about my husband, I respect him, he's a great person, but there is no passion. Mine will also not get counseling, and I am struggling with this. I think being friends and having that respect for one another, truly liking one another is what will allow a marriage to last. Is that enough for some people to keep them happy? I don't know. I also want to feel passion and excitement, although those will fade with time. I think in a perfect world we would be able to have both, but it seems to me we have to make a choice. Friend and companion for life, or passion and excitement for a short time with many different people.
2007-02-11 18:01:40 · answer #2 · answered by meh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps your bond when you married was more lust than love and the hard truth has begun to rear it's ugly head.Happens alot.
2007-02-11 16:56:03 · answer #3 · answered by Direktor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Five words;
Shower curtain and baby oil.
You'll both love it!
Have fun!
2007-02-11 16:56:01 · answer #4 · answered by me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
and your question is???
2007-02-11 16:50:47 · answer #5 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋