we have 2 teenage kids and they want to stay with friends to finish school with them.I just dont know what to do,He has worked the whole time weve been together because i have degenerative disc disease and im always in pain,i have no income for myself but my sis has offered to help,im just confussed but tired of the ****.I need some advice!!
2007-02-11 08:47:02 · 9 answers · asked by Jeni 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do not stay with a physically or verbally man, and yours is both so you deffinately need to get away. I can't believe if your children know this that they would still want you to stay and put up with it so they won't have to change schools. They have obviously been brain washed and think this is perfectly normal behavior and will end up treating their spouses like this or letting their spouse treat them like this. For your safety and theirs you need to leave. They will get over changing schools, I did and I had to move my senior year. It sucks but then you realize that high school is such a small insignificant part of your life that it won't matter after a while.
2007-02-11 09:00:22 · answer #1 · answered by HereIAm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there r many social services that will help check around in your area. no one should ever stay in an abusive type of relationship and 18 years is 18 years to long.
if ur sister wants 2 let u stay with her then go. but also make sure u get counceling and any help your area offers. its may take a long time 2 get on ur feet but it will be well worth it.
good luck
2007-02-11 08:55:51 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Geo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
pray to God for help and get out while you're still alive to do so. Accept others' help. You have put up with so much for so long and now it is time for you to take care of yourself. Find a battered women's shelter for help to get out if you need it, even if it's only to get some emotional support. You are doing the right thing. I survived an emotionally abusive marriage and am now moving on with my life and very happy. Good luck and God bless you.
2007-02-11 08:59:35 · answer #3 · answered by lizz_ 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-28 23:34:41 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please get some help ,first of all , nobody has a right to abuse you ; get some counseling since you are hesitating on your situation , it will help you see trough , it is NOT right to be physically and verbally abused by anyone especially by the man your are married to .:-(
you sister is offering to help you out ? go there for a while ...try to get some financial help from social security
,more than likely with degenerative discs disease ,you will qualify for it :-)
be strong and give yourself a chance for a calm and better life .......
go back to a health clinic , get a doctor evaluation and get on this link to see how to get it :
http://www.ssa.gov/disability/
if you are unable to do it on your own ? please ask for some help .......
good luck to you , take good care of yourself :-)
as for you husband ? NO COMMENTS ...........
2007-02-11 09:07:25 · answer #5 · answered by HJW 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing I would do is to get some counseling. It helps to define the limits of how ppl should and should not treat us. That will help give you the confidence to go forward and get out of this situation. They can also tell you of help available locally.
2007-02-11 08:56:23 · answer #6 · answered by Kay N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know the answer, you worry about the future and change, that is natural, but you must do what is best for you emotionally and not materially. Take each day at a time, you will be suprised how solutions will come for your questions and concerns
2007-02-11 08:58:48 · answer #7 · answered by onlinedreamer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce him and take him to the cleaners.
2007-02-11 09:05:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF HE'S ABUSIVE, WHAT THE **** ARE YOU WAITING FOR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! DIVORCE HIS A SS! PLEASE LISTEN TO ME!!! DIVORCE HIM! YOU CAN'T LET YOURSELF BE ABUSED! YOU DISERVE BETTER THAN THAT! SHOW EM WHOSE BOSS! GO GIRL! DIVORCE HIS ***!
2007-02-11 08:53:30 · answer #9 · answered by Drea 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋