Oh ok me and my husand want to have a baby. But since my misscarge last year its been hard to get peg again. the doctor sayd that i have to take clomid the pill to get peg without it i cant get peg. Should I go ahead and have one or wait I mean we are getting married in march , and Ive been really want a baby. He wants to wait until a lyr or more . I just want to replace the baby that we lost . Are there any women out there that feel the same way i am right now? And if you are how do deal with the news its been a year now and its gets easier but sometime it hruts to see peg women wishing that i had my baby !
2007-02-11 08:44:08 · 6 answers · asked by Kat J 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
I had a miscarriage in October last year. It has been very hard. Recently, my sister has become pregnant. When she called to tell me, I tried to sound really happy for her. But, inside I was really hurting. I had to have a D&C, as I am sure you probably did too, and as I was waiting for the doctors to call me in, I must have seen 10 women with newborns. It was so hard. I cried for along time after finding out. It is still hard for me. My brother in law lives next door to us and his gf is due in May. It's hard to watch everything go well with her and wonder why it couldn't with me. We have 2 children already, so my situation is a little different. But, I know how you feel about wanting to replace the baby you lost. Although we have 2 children, I can't help but want the one I lost back.
2007-02-11 08:52:00 · answer #1 · answered by gtam4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your Fiance (not husband yet) want a baby. From the way you state it sounds like you are the one wanting the baby at the moment. I would wait until after the wedding when the baby will be truly wanted by both of you. I understand this is a hard time for you but it's only a few months away to start trying again. Good Luck and the Best of Wishes to you!!! Congradulations on your pending wedding!!! That would be a nice present, getting pregnant during your honeymoon!! Start taking the Clomid now but refrain from sex, unless protected. Plus if you abstain until the wedding it will make your wedding night very special! Clomid can take around a month to get in your system and start working so by the time you get married you should be plenty fertile.
2007-02-11 08:55:58 · answer #2 · answered by Bgus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aw big hugs!!! I can't say I know what you're going through inside having never been in that situation of haveing a miscarriage but I can only imagine and I don't even like to think about what life would be like if I hadn't had my baby! I think you just have to go with what is best for you and your fiance, you don't want to rock the boat too much too early but having another baby when he's not ready for it but at the same time you want a baby for yourself also, maybe you could talk about it and your feelings and come to a mutual agreement like keep trying for one anyway since it might take a while and even a year anyway and you'l both be happy, and in the meantime offer to babysit family and friends children lots so you and your fiance can get a good idea of what parenting is like and also you can have lots of time with babies and children until you get pregnant. good luck! xx
2007-02-11 08:53:23 · answer #3 · answered by jarellsmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun you can never replace the baby you lost. I lost two babies and had to take fertility pills, all that stuff too. Give yourself a break for a bit.Take time to heal from losing the one baby, then start fresh again.You want to be able to enjoy the new baby and your new future and you dont want bad memories weighting you down.Take this time to plan your wedding and to heal. Then start again fresh.
2007-02-11 08:55:00 · answer #4 · answered by dynamite136 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...this is really up to you and him, but my advice: Wait til you're married.... Why? Because then you don't have to worry about being in debt(wedding) and your family being all "You shouldn't have got pregnant until after you got married". That's just my opinion, tho!
2007-02-11 08:49:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't jump the gun, just wait until you are married for a few years!
2007-02-11 08:52:47 · answer #6 · answered by lisak0486 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋