How can I achieve happiness and see life in a positive light?

Answer 1

through cognitive alteration; cognitive alteration comes through recognizing and being able to understand whether your thought process and your beliefs about yourself aren't realistic (with depressed people they usually have beliefs about themselves that aren't true)

some people claim meditation can help; but the main thing that can gradually change (for the better) cognitive function is social things. movies and comedy usually won't help, because they don't make you feel good about yourself, it just feels nice seeing/listening to it.

happiness can only come through a desire for it; attempt to see the good out of little things in life, and try to be one of those people who do those good things; doing good things for others will make you feel better about yourself

Answer 2

Really all you need to do is 'start thinking' 'I'm happy' and 'life is good' ... and believe it or not, that will start to 'be the truth' the longer you do it. This is a type of 'self fulfilling prophecy' ... if you 'think' life is horrible' and that you are 'unhappy' you'll tend to see only the things that make that true even though they are actually 'mixed' in your life, and if you think that life is good and that you are happy, you'll tend to see only the things that make that true, while the 'bad things' don't seem nearly as bad. I don't think that you should try to be a 'total optimist' though, because that is an 'unrealistic' way to live, and so is being a 'total pessimist' ... but if you can get your life to show as more positive, and you think that you are more happy than sad, you will be.

Answer 3

1. You do not listen.
You do not listen to others or to yourself. Both parts of this statement are crucial to your happiness. If you don’t listen to yourself, then you are constantly out of touch with what you really need and want out of life.

2. You don’t take responsibility.
I am not talking about taking out the trash here. I mean that you spend far too much energy blaming others and too little time looking at what you do to create your own problems. If you have anything different from this, you are busy messing up your life! Blaming is an effective way of convincing yourself that you are powerless, weak, uncreative and helpless.

3. You don’t learn from your mistakes.
When was the last time you made an honest list of the mistakes you have made in your life and then tried to learn something useful from them?

4. You haven’t learned to love yourself.
Self-love is the single most important ingredient in the process of creating a happy and fulfilled life. If you don’t have the life you want, then you probably have too little self-love.

To sum it up, I suggest you you will have a life-changing choice -- to blame or to take responsibility, face your mistakes and learn from them, and when your self-hate gets too high, you will tend to become self-destructive and produce the various forms of unhappiness that have plagued your life. Self-love is the only antidote.

Answer 4

I can only share my life experiences and hope you gain something from them.
I work in the call centre industry in india i'am 32 unmarried with no woman in my life and yet i take pride in what i do because i love talking to people and solving there problems and a few extra words just for that human touch which is so lacking now.

I dont have a woman in my life but one day i hope she will come and we will tango because it takes 2 to tango.

Do what you think identifies with your heart and convictions stick to your values and principles in times of duress and you will find the happiness was just next door you just had to open it.

I dont know if this helps you but its the story in not so many words of an ordinary guy doing ordinary things but who never gave up dreaming.

Answer 5

Read the book Tuesdays With Morrie. Its a short book.

I myself dont really enjoy reading all that much but this book had me hooked. It was about a man who was dying and discussing life lessons/how to live life to the fullest. It totally changed my life.

Basically, you need to find what makes you happy. Cherish every moment you have with your loved ones, and realize that you can never take anything for granted because u never know what might happen.

Dont look too hard for what makes you happy. I have a saying, "We spend most of our lives searching for what makes us happy, when maybe what makes us happy is right in front of us."

Answer 6

happy or unhappy are come from the way you think, everything is in your mind.

I have been reading lots of books about Buddhism and its philosophy and i like it a lot. I also learn how to meditate just wanna give myself a try. it's a great experience. you can click on this web page to read a little bit about Buddhism.

http://buddhism.about.com/cs/fournobletruths/a/Happiness.htm

or if you wanna learn to meditate I will give you this website
www.dhamma.org

good luck :)

Answer 7

The self-help section in you library is filled with books on doing just that. There are some from the Buddhist point of view, some by psychologists, some philosophical, some just good reading.

Answer 8

Expect a lot less from life and people.

Answer 9

True happiness can only come from Jesus Christ.

Answer 10

go to church