Where does the ...loner attitude come from in human behaviour?

Answer 1

Usually through the structure of the personality in the childhood years...This is based on the individuals character structure and whether he/she is supported enough in their environment the result of this will effect whether the person becomes introvert ......or on the other polarity...... extrovert.

Answer 2

In pack animals "loners" serve several important functions.

Sometimes the lone wolf was a strong pseudo-leader that stands up to the leader. Often he loses and is ostracized, but by standing up to the leader he gets others in the pack to sit up and pay attention.
He is the voice of challenge.

A lone lion was often the rival for a lioness' attention. The loser of a very close fight, he often leaves the pack to hunt (contrary to popular belief, the female lion does all the hunting the males usually fight) on the outskirts of that pack or another. He is tougher and more independent than any of the other males. Often he will chase off other stray male lions or hyenas that could threaten the pride that he is the satellite for.
Sometimes he even challenges the leader of a different pride and becomes their leader.
He is the voice of change.

Groups of rats, rabbits, and other rodents have independent members that will go and search for new food sources when the food gets scarce. The lone rats take the risks for the others and test out new discoveries to find out if they are edible. If food has been tainted by strange smells (like man) these members volunteer to eat the food in case it may be poisoned; the other rats and especially the mother's will not partake of it, even if they are starving, until the lone rat proves it is safe.
He is the voice of exploration.

Answer 3

I don't think of it as a personality defect- some people become very self sufficient and don't depend on others or crave their approval or attention. In many ways loners can be of a happier disposition because they are content in their own company. When it goes wrong and a 'loner' commits some henious crime- suddenly all loners are branded as weirdoes.

Answer 4

Each of us is born somewhere on a sociability continuum -- that is, people vary (genetically) regarding how social they are -- or rather, they have a natural range within which they usually spend most of their lives.

Stuff that happens to you can move you (usually not very far) up or down, but most of the time you're as sociable as you were born to be.

There are things that happen that might make you be a loner for a while (such as grief or trauma or other circumstances), but, as a rule, you'll be drawn to people or not to the degree that your genes have laid you out to be.

Answer 5

I don't know...the first time it happened to me, I was about 16. All of a sudden I didn't want to see my friends after school--and spent the time doing homework and watching TV. It was winter, so maybe I had that winter depression type thing.

When the spring came around that year, I wanted to be around people and do things all the time, and that lasted for a couple of years.

When I was with my first husband, I had little contact with friends and family--those were a miserable 7 years.

After that, I again wanted to be out partying, and around lots of people. Then I got together with my "real" husband, and he and I both enjoyed having company and going out often--even when the kids came around, we brought them to all kinds of places.

Now...I'm kind of a loner again. I do communicate with and see some of my (now adult) children each day, but I don't really like anyone where I live enough to socialize with them (a lot of crime around here--and I'm looking to move).

Answer 6

Probably a feeling of not fitting in with others. You don't find peoples jokes funny and vise versa, you think they're weird, you don't like doin the same stuff or hangin in the same places. Some people just prefer thier own company.

Answer 7

A lot of the time it's because they can't relate to the people around them and would rather just be alone because they can relate to books/music/other stuff.

Answer 8

people will tell you it's because they can't relate to others, but for people with social anxiety, that's not the case; they want to fit in with others, but they feel too nervous to socialize, so they avoid it

people with schizoid neurosis likely at one point did have social anxiety, but they learned to push out feelings of sadness from it by choosing not to place value on socialization

Answer 9

When you can't trust anyone or you rely more on other objects than society. Not that it's a bad thing, it's just how it is.

Answer 10

contentment with ones lot, unfortunately i'm not but would be happy to be.