i told him to stop,i only wanted to lose my vigninity to my boyfriend.but he laughed and started beating me up.then he raped me.i dont want to tell the police.
2007-02-11 07:46:40 · 25 answers · asked by scared_and_alone144 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i cant tell my boyfriend he will kill me.
2007-02-11 07:52:59 · update #1
i've been with my boyfriend for 3 years.why would his brother do something like this now?
2007-02-11 07:55:18 · update #2
its my fault.i did lead him on.
*frowns*hes told the whole story its in another post the link is in that.scum :(
2007-02-11 08:19:13 · update #3
You should tell the police as soon as possible trust me hun ive been there before when i was 16 years old its not easy to get over good luck xx
2007-02-11 07:51:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anna B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please talk to someone you trust, to support you.
You should go to the hospital to check (hopefully) you haven't caught any ST D's etc. Although you may not want to go to the police now the hospital will keep your records held on file so if you want to press charges you will have proof of force.
I was a victim and I will be honest with you, at first I did feel like a criminal when the police took my finger prints and a female took pictures of the wounds, they then ask me to write down what happened then sign it. The men have since been charged, I don't regret going to the police, spite awful things some women have said when they went to the police I didn't feel judged or felt they thought it was my fault (although I felt this about myself for some time). I'm just telling you this so you know what goes on at the police station.
It is NOT your fault you did not ask to be raped or beaten up.
2007-02-11 08:41:16 · answer #2 · answered by mya♣ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi S&A
You must know in your heart the truth & what you should do!
Rape is rape & at the end of the day it is you who will have to live with your decision, whatever that may be.
We all think you should , NO... YOU MUST, speak out to someone about what happened, NOW before you think to yourself that it is too late!
The longer you put off the more difficult you may find it do do.
If you do not want to go to the police & you are finding it too much to bear to tell your boyfriend face to face then at least
Call a rape crisis helpline ( you can do this in confidence) they will counsel you.
To do nothing will haunt you for the rest of your life.
If you love your boyfriend then you must tell him & hope that he is strong enough to stay with you, after all it was not your fault.
you will surely lose him if it comes out later & you said nothing now
Take a deep breath & find some confidence in yourself
Go phone NOW
the rest of your life is up to you...
2007-02-14 12:36:42 · answer #3 · answered by healer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hang on a minute - just reading your notes after your question.....IT IS NO WAY YOUR FAULT....whether you lead him on or not - you said NO. he has forced himself on you and thats very very VERY wrong.! do not stand for it.
I would speak to your boyfriend and explain what happened. If he has a problem with what happened or doesn't believe you then your boyfriend isn't worth sticking with.
You MUST tell the police.
Have you told any of your friends - maybe they can come to the police with you, and maybe have them there when you tell your boyfriend too.
Please dont just try to ignore this. If you still have the clothes you wore when this happened - if they aren't washed yet - then keep them - put them in a plastic bag and take them with you to the police.
If you dont tell the police this man might think he can get away with it again. You have to stop him - your the only one who can.
x
2007-02-12 01:40:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Out with my friends on a night out, a fella that I've known since I was a kid raped me... for similar reasons, I didn't report it, as I knew his mum was unstable at the time, and his father had just been diagnosed with cancer. But let me tell you something... Your boyfriend will either side with you (which he should) or his brother. Either way, you should not feel that you have to keep quiet. What about 10 years down the line, when you finally explode about what happened, your boyfriend can take it and files for divorce... you'll wish that you had informed him then.
PLEASE don't make a stupid mistake in not reporting it, as it will do no-one any favours, even the girl he next rapes, or when he rapes you again, as he knows he WILL get away with it. PLEASE.
I hope it all works out for you, and I hope that you at least consider my advice.
Be careful. x
2007-02-11 08:08:55 · answer #5 · answered by MARGARET T 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you are much braver then me.i told someone iwas raped 2 years after it happend.honey it is not your fault.i have read your questions and his.you were drunk,but you did not lead him on.and he had no right to force you,he knew you have a boyfriend considering its his brother.
he should've known better.dont you dare blame yourself.you must report it he could hurt you again.if your boyfriend stands by his brother then neither of them are worth knowing.you say you are 14?neither of them should be involved with you at all.how did you come to live with them?they are both older men you need to get away from them.your boyfriend is just as bad for being with you.3 years you said you have been dating him?whats he playing at you were only 11 or so right?get out of there well you can.
2007-02-11 08:58:01 · answer #6 · answered by cory_paige_davis 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I didn't tell the police about when something similar happened to me 9 years ago. One of my biggest regrets is that I have left that b@#tard out there to do the same to other girls & that he has never paid for what he did to me.
You are in the right. You have done nothing wrong. Talk to your mum (she will be understanding as you were a virgin before), get her to go with you to the police & nail that evil, scum of the earth man.
2007-02-11 07:53:20 · answer #7 · answered by ATP 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
rape?.. yes it is..
you said no .. you said stop..
you need advice from a rape suport centre..
you have lost your dignity to him who is a danger to society...
what you need now is the courage and support to go to the police and report him
look... at all the advice you are getting we all suport you and not one of us blames you ...and dont you blame yourself either...
to get over this you got to get it of your chest dont keep it hidden deep inside you as you will suffer and regret it later in life..
try and talk to some one ..your mother ..a relation.. a teacher .. a best friend..
you will feel a lot better by telling someone you know you will get there support and together you can go and tell the police..
hold your head up high girl walk tall report it
as for your boyfriend heres the real test in your relation ship.. tell him..
2007-02-11 14:37:22 · answer #8 · answered by andygames07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is serious you should tell the police or phone the rape crisis centre to get some proper advise, what he has done to you is immoral and illegal
You have to tell someone or it will just eat away at you and destroy your life
2007-02-13 00:58:28 · answer #9 · answered by red lyn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may not want to go to the police and rock the boat with your boyfriend but you've got to do something and if your boyfriend doesn't stand by you he isn't worth having. You also may be preventing the same thing happening to somebody else by reporting him. Just guessing but I bet he's done it to other girls and I bet he'll go on. Please please contact your nearest rape crisis intervention centre for support (they should be listed) They will help you to decide and support you through any decision you make even if you decide not to go to the police. You're in my thoughts.God Bless xxx
2007-02-11 07:56:29 · answer #10 · answered by LMac100 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋