My sex life is ruined. My bf does not believe in foreplay and believes rather in going for the home run- I have stopped wanting to have sex with him. Can our relationship last if we have bedroom problems?
2007-02-11 07:39:12 · 18 answers · asked by BitterEnding 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Tell him to stop being selfish, tell him to let you get gold for a change, he sound really self centered, dump him and get someone that wants to please you as well as himself!!!!
2007-02-11 07:43:05 · answer #1 · answered by anney 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex is only part of a relationship....albeit a very important part.
But...there are things you can try before getting as serious as thinking of ending it.
The old analogy is so true, men are like microwaves and women are like ovens..that men heat up quickly and are a short ride wheras women take longer and need more stimulation but once they heat up, can go for a very long time.
If you haven't already done so, talk frankly to your BF about the foreplay issue, tell him how much it will improve your relations together. And then try, when you two get started to tease a bit, maybe massage one another, and perhaps even try dancing for him, etc. Men are very stimulated visually, in fact they are mostly stimulated visually, so keep that in mind when trying out techniques, maybe some sexy lingerie would help, or provocative clothing....
Lastly, if you give all this an earnest try and he still skips right to the main event, it means he is very selfish and doesn't care enough about you to try and change. If this is the case, as a last resort, as painful as it may be, you may want to end things.
2007-02-11 07:51:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If sex is an important part of the relationship, then no, it cannot last unless the problems are resolved. It appears he is a selfish person since his intentions are focused on his own pleasures from his "home run". If he fails to see the importance of foreplay, then it will never get better. It may be time for a new bf.
2007-02-11 07:46:17 · answer #3 · answered by S H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your relationship if he does not change will deteriorate. When I was younger I was like your bf but now that I am old I love foreplay even more than sex sometiimes. There is nothing as neat as watching a woman become aroused and bringing her to a mind blowing 'O' right before your eyes.
2007-02-11 08:09:21 · answer #4 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This could be a problem. I dated someone like this and finally broke up. Tell him that you need foreplay to get you in the mood. If he isn't willing to please you he is being selfish and I would move on if I were you. There are a lot of other men out there that would be happy to accommodate you I am sure.
2007-02-11 07:43:58 · answer #5 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guess I'm wierd but foreplay gets me way more turned on!!
When you have deep feelings for your lover you can't help it!
Your BF is missing out on the good things in life!
2007-02-11 07:53:23 · answer #6 · answered by redman 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what.... guys love foreplay chances are the newness has just worn off of your love life.. tonight try something new some thing unexpected by him. if you are normally quiet try dirty talk. if you go to bed wearing sweat pants and a t shirt try some sexy outfitt. think back to when you first got together remember what you used to do that got him in the mood and try that. to often women change how they act in bed over time and then try to pin the change on there man
2007-02-11 07:48:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i could be prepared to guess particularly some the frustration stems from subject concerns with coping with the infant, and he's focusing on the orgasm now because of the fact it became something that used to happen greater truthfully. So its merely yet another sign of differences because of the infant. Plus he's probably additionally afraid that while you're actually not orgasming as truthfully anymore which you will start to enhance into bored in having intercourse as in many situations. i had to function that I in no way enable myself have an interest by whether a woman has an orgasm or no longer till she is in touch. i've got been with women the place that they had have diverse orgasms each time, controlled to hit simultaneous orgasms, and yet with my spouse she has in no way had one in accordance with intercourse on my own without "mechanical intervention". She would not care, and in no way had one with any guy till now we've been married the two. As an theory you are able to attempt doggie form with him on an identical time as making use of a vibrator....
2016-10-01 23:32:43 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men don't realize that women need the foreplay in order to have an orgasm. Since women don't normally achieve an orgasm from penetration alone, we need the extra stimulation. Try experimenting with different positions, you might find one that gives you the stimulation you need.
2007-02-11 07:50:05 · answer #9 · answered by aqx99 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, That happens a lot in relationships. I suggest that you guys break-up because, this problem is going to escalate, believe me. He just want to have it and leave, and I think that is not right. There should be some playing around, kissing, hugging and you know, some love too.
2007-02-11 07:43:47 · answer #10 · answered by ~*Marie~* 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
foreplay is excellant , but most young men just want to hurry up and get their rocks off , not me the more licking and caressing the hotter the sex .
2007-02-12 05:11:02 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋