Well my sister has been out for a while now but my little girl is just old enogh to start asking. So i did not thing any thing about it and told her well that night at church my little girl told some of the older women and ant one that would listen now every one is looking at me funny what should i do?
2007-02-11 07:35:16 · 12 answers · asked by High or Something 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Talk to your daughter and explain to her that her aunt likes women. That most women like men but your sister prefers women. That there is nothing to be ashamed of but that some people at church don't like hearing about people who are not like them. Keep it simple depending on how old your child is. And be straight with her.
As for the church ladies? Screw em. Your sister is who she is and that has no reflection on your parents or you as a person or a mother. Just ignore em!
2007-02-11 07:45:03 · answer #1 · answered by mistyfan69 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your church is treating YOU differently because your SISTER is gay, then that is not a church that you want to be involved in any more. If they are acting that way than they are forgetting Christ's love for others and the love He showed them.
In their minds homosexuality is the "worst" sin, yet when Christ walked the earth, the only people Jesus got angry at were the religious fundamentalists of the day. Why did he do that? Because they judged others. Think about it.
2007-02-11 07:43:20 · answer #2 · answered by Aaron H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You look at them funny right back. I'm assumung that you're Christian & if they believe in the Bible they are sinners too. I'm a Christian but I believe that the Bible was written by man. It depends on what kind of personality you have. For me I'd be a sarcastic ***** & bring my sister & her girlfriend to church with me & cause a scene but I'm alittle crazy, so you can just ingnore the looks or find a new church. Please tell your daughter that your sister will not burn like I'm sure she'll hear. You can just say that people have different opinions & the people at church are not nice people
2007-02-11 07:45:01 · answer #3 · answered by gitsliveon24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know we don't always want our Church friends to know all about us. I am in the same boat at my Church with a son in prison and I understand that we do not want to be judged by other people for what our relatives do or have done. It is not their right to judge that is up to God alone. but what I did was to go talk to my pastor about the situation because some people found out about my son. He was 23 when he went to jail and at that age I had no control over him, he did not live with me anymore. My Pastor told me if it was brought up to him he would defend me, that he knew that this was not anything I could change. And if anyone else brought it up I told them about it and how God brought me through it, to strengthen my relationship to Him. I also am very involved in Church, Trustee board member and I lead a children's Bible Club. After the shock where's off it will be fine. I will pray for you
2007-02-11 07:49:52 · answer #4 · answered by Mary B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them that you're not the gay sister. It's the other one. Or, better yet, move to a church that is accepting of all types of people like the United Church of Christ.
2007-02-11 07:40:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two things pop to mind for me: 1) it's imperative that you model your support of your sister to your little girl. This is a great opportunity to see what a sister's love is, that 'gay' is okay, and that you are a strong and independent woman. 2) if you are waiting for 'strange' looks you're gonna find them. I'd not let it affect me, go right on with my thing until someone actually says something. Jesus' best friend was a prostitute. He was supportive of her... If that's the case then how can your support of your sister (who is, in no way comparable to a prostitute, mind you) be anything less than Christian?
2007-02-15 07:28:45 · answer #6 · answered by tomi27410 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a congregation of less judgmental people. Do you honestly want to be around people that look at you funny just because you have a gay sister? You can worship the divine(s) anywhere you choose. It doesn't have to be at such a hostile place. (And yes, if it's causing you to feel uncomfortable then it is hostile.)
2007-02-11 16:26:44 · answer #7 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with changing churches. Why would you want to be so closely associated with such bigots? There are many churches, of pretty much all faiths, that are accepting of gays (and those that are related to them)... There's no reason to be a member of one that isn't.
2007-02-11 07:46:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider changing churches. Not because there is anything wrong on your part, but because maybe your fellow church members are being more judgmental and self-righteous than would behoove their "Christian" label. If a talk with your pastor doesn't resolve matters, consider looking elsewhere.
2007-02-11 07:40:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't have to do anything. It is your sister that is gay. You should not have anything to hide or be embarrassed about. You do not need to approach the subject if you do not want to. If someone brings it up to you, tell them that if they have any questions about her lifestyle, they should talk to her. If they say anything negative tell them "I'm sorry you feel that way. Please do not make those comments about my sister. She is my sister and I love her."
2007-02-11 07:42:57 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋