How does one stay optimistic and hopeful when nothing is good?

Answer 1

I know exactly how you feel. I feel that way all too often right in my own little bod.

However, whenever you can you have to try and do something optimistic and hopeful yourself, even if it seems small or insignificant. There is always something optimistic that you can do. There is always something you can do that makes somebody feel hopeful. When you see the effect you are having then it can make you feel the same way. But you have to feel okay about yourself, remembering whenever possible that the best things in life are still free.

If you only wait passively for good to come your way then you are dependent on that good rather being independent. If you let yourself be the source of the hope or optimism then you are independent and that is one of the best antedotes to pessimism, depression, anxiety, hopelessness, etc.

My wife and I were feeling a little hopeless for about ten good reasons recently. So three things together picked us up. In all three things we took the hopeful or optimistic action ourselves. To keep it short I will briefly mention two. Our neighborhood has had a pest problem this winter due to cold. Rather than call the pest control we used a 'Have-a-Heart' to catch a mouse that has been living in the house for months. He trusted us. So we decided to think carefully about where we would place him. With an optimistic outlook we narrowed down the options and headed out. In short we found the perfect spot for him in a local park. We put food in his hole under the roots of a tree and left him in a well-protected place.

Even though it seemed like a small issue, the truth is that taking a positive attitude toward the life of even a tiny creature made both of us feel optimisitc about the creative work we had to do together. So the difficult creative work went well. Part of the subject dealt with a crime. We found ourselves treating the subject of crime with less pessimism. Everything in life depends upon your response. It seems that good rarely vanishes completely. It is always waiting to be reborn somewhere. You just have to be sensitive so you can detect it.

Last night we didn't want to leave the work and go out. But we had to video an R&B band at a local university. The lead singer, a black woman from nearby, was singing in front of a television monitor that was on. CNN was showing incredibly violent footage of a history of terrorist attacks from all around the world. I decided to come in very tight on her face. She was not only beautiful. She was fiercely strong and fiercely optimistic. I stayed tight on her face and eyes as she sang "Rock Steady" and "Respect" by Aretha Franklin. I cannot tell you how she made me feel. Afterwards all I could do was hug her. When you are optimistic, optimism comes back to you - not always instantly, but often enough it is pretty quick.

Anyway, it is better to take an action than wait for the good to come to you. You don't have to force it. But you have to feel it and go out and meet it. I think it takes some courage to be optimistic and to promote hope. I think it takes guts to support what is good. You have to feel that optimism is a force that makes things grow just like the sunshine makes the plants grow.

B. Lyons

Answer 2

My such gloom. How can nothing be any good? Maybe you are expecting more than you should. Get involved in charity work, or help an elderly person do shopping . Do something. Sounds to me like you just sit around whining about poor me. Life is good, but you have to respect it. Maybe if you learn compassion, then you will see that its not that bad.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

You wait till something is good.