i love my girlfriend loads and i know she does the same and we get on 90% of the time and make eachother laugh a lot but when we argue she tells me to leave and then as soon as i go to leave she says she wants me to stay. what's up?
2007-02-11 06:54:13 · 17 answers · asked by William M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i think she really loves you. if you get on 90% of the time then i don't really think you have anything to worry about. it's natural to have arguments in a relationship. maybe she's insecure and when she tells you to leave its not because she wants you to go its because she thinks that you're better off without her and then when you do go to leave it scares her and she realises that she wants you more than anything but sometimes doesn't know how to handle situations. hope this helps William. xxxx ;p
2007-02-11 08:34:41 · answer #1 · answered by Nikita R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we say things that we don't mean when we are angry. like you said you are happy with her 90% of the time that should tell you how much you would be missing if you are not together. look at it this way every person comes into a relationship as a package. its unfortunate that's part of her package. let her know that saying things that that does not help the relationship and remember how close it feels when you make up. arguments spice up relationship. good luck.
2007-02-11 07:06:24 · answer #2 · answered by cutiesweetie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is trying to get you to see things from her point of view when you dont or argue she tells you to leave,it is a form of control she try to manipulate you to do what she wants in hops you will change your opinion in order to stay, when she sees that your gonna leave she knows she is busted and makes you stay, but the thing is by making you stay after she tells you to leave and if you do stay she wins either way next time leave and give her time to think about her controlling behavior..
2007-02-11 07:01:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok since ur guy this might be hard for u to understand...girls are very emotional beings...and altough she is telling u to leave she doesnt mean it...she wants u to chase her...it makes us feel like the person really cares...so when she tells u to leave and u do...its hurtful to her becuz u gave up so easily, and then on top of that she has to ask to come back...which is akward for both of u...next time this happens regaurdless of how crazy she is making u...stay there go to her and wrap her up in a big hug and tell her u love and ur sorry...(even if u didnt do anything....if u dont believe in apologizing for things u didnt do...apologize for upsetting her and not for wat u were fighting about) just be the bigger person...i knoe for a fact that something this simple could just erase problems in my relationship...i wish i could send this to my bf.lol....i really hope this helps....good luck.
2007-02-11 07:15:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the heat of the moment we all say things we dont mean.
When she tells u to leave she doesnt think u will & then when u do, she gets scared & by telling u she wants u to stay, its her way of admitting that she didnt really mean it.
2007-02-11 07:01:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when a girl says get out, it usually means "I want to feel like you want to be here"
Next time she says get out, kiss her and tell her she's the best thing that happened to you.
Me and my boyfriend had a really heated argument once and I called him a spoiled rich brat and he started laughing and hugging me and telling me that he loved me. I was so confused I couldn't argue anymore it was kinda fun.
2007-02-11 09:06:53 · answer #6 · answered by Rhuby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like she is testing you just to see how much you love her. She's probably wanting you to turn around and say "please, lets sort this out" etc, and doesn't like it when you leave. It's like you're calling her bluff. Don't let her do this to you, show her you mean business, then maybes she will stop being so silly!. Good luck.
2007-02-11 10:46:04 · answer #7 · answered by Solista 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When she tells you to leave,what she is actually saying to you is 'Fight for me! Tell me you don't want to leave!' She needs reassurance basically. Tell her you want to be with her-through the ups and downs.
2007-02-11 07:10:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she loves you but just gets angry and dose not know how to cope you are a lucky guy loads of luck and best wishes to you both xxx
2007-02-11 07:05:48 · answer #9 · answered by stirling silver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thinck she love u, but she cant help her attitude, just sit her down talk to her, hopefully, I thinck she will change.
2007-02-11 07:00:48 · answer #10 · answered by Sammie T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋