2007-02-11 06:32:40 · 27 answers · asked by Bride2Be 8/30/08 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How can they learn to be happy and learn to love a man that treats them right for a change?
2007-02-11 06:33:21 · update #1
By doing almost the impossible, which is to make intelligent choices.
Women barely run on intellect, they like being victims of their emotions.
2007-02-11 06:36:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Most women have always liked, wanted, enjoyed a bad boy. First, he excites them and makes them feel dirty to a point. He challenges them in some ways, such as breaking the rules. He also allows them to play the victim, for he will use them and then dump them. They get to enjoy the ride then get to whine or be the victim when they cant make him theirs and he leaves them. Women love to get to be the victim. Infact, I argue that they have a craving or need to be so, in order to always avoid being responsible for what happens or takes place. With a good man, it is harder for the women to be the victim, for he isnt doing anything that they can be the victim of.
Other things to consider:
1. Give a woman five minutes and she will usually change her mind about something, possibly multiple times. Half the time, a women herself has no idea what she wants or means.
2. Women often say what they think someone wants to hear or what will make them appear nice or good, not necessarily what they mean. Read the ads on dating sites or personals. They sound like one person wrote half of the ads, do they not?
3. Most women like the bad boys, but have the fantasy that they can be the one to take the bad boy and make him a family man.
4. Many women wont get a good man because they have nothing to offer or entice a good man and keep him. Why would a good man want a woman unless she is a good woman, and in more then her own view or that of her freinds?
5. Women usually have a fairytale or fantasy idea as to what a man is and should be, how he should act and treat them. Most men cant live up to that fantasy just as most women cant meet the standard of snow white.
6. Most women do not understand the love and care shown by many things a man does. Women seem to think that unless something is done the way they think it should be or the way they like or understand it, it isnt loving. For instance: he may not work 12 hours a day because he likes it or wants to work that much. It may simply be because he knows he has a wife and family who need him to do his job, for them depend on him. She thinks he doesnt care because he isnt home, when in fact, if he was single, he could probably work less and at something he likes even more.
2007-02-11 07:03:45 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. JW 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not all women are like that. Try not to focus on just one attribute, or fault of a man. Look at the big picture. Look at the future with the man. Look at your life with him 20, 30, 40 years down the road. Women like the ones in your question are why there are so many divorces, and kids in split families. It's time to grow up.
2007-02-11 07:16:53 · answer #3 · answered by mojojo66 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that women love the challenge of a "bad boy"...but it rarely lasts once the challenge is over. Subconsciously, some women just don't believe that they deserve a nice guy. Other times, they find a nice guy and it seems "too good to be true" so they again subconsciously sabotage the relationship. Maybe something good in their past was ruined, and it was traumatizing to them, so they think they will feel the hurt of that loss in anything "good or nice" again...sort of like protecting themselves. This is probably something that each woman must really analyze within herself. She must re-learn that she is worthy and deserves to be loved and respected, and that she doesn't have accept any less.
2007-02-11 06:39:50 · answer #4 · answered by sassy_395 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think it is because women are not attracted to "needy" men, but rather confident, self-sufficient, men that can take care of them (not vice versa). Women want to make you happy, they don't want to support you - at least in terms of basic subconscious human nature.
So, a nice guy is a lot closer to a needy guy than is a bad boy. The bad boy seems confident, and sexually vigorous. The nice guy seems, well, not as confident and not as sexually vigorous.
I am not saying women think this consciously. It's just a visceral thing.
2007-02-11 06:40:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
As a nice guy I'm gonna tell you. I laugh at all these gals that get dogged out by their badboy boyfriends. You get what you ask for you want a bad boy get ready to get dogged out. I have had more then one gal leave me cause I was just too nice. I don't fuss and fight I'm laid back go with the flow. Same on the dumb chicks that chase badboys only to get hurt!!!
2007-02-11 08:16:12 · answer #6 · answered by David J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It has been my experience and observation that for many women, it is next to impossible to be satisfied. It seems that once they have what they want..... then that's not good enough any more, and they want something different. There may be women out there who can recognize and appreciate the stability of a "nice guy"........ but I really can't say that I've seen many of them. No matter how much... you never have enough.
2007-02-11 06:45:38 · answer #7 · answered by dathinman8 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
ahh the nice guy syndrome... i used to suffer from this a lot in my early realtionships, whne i was nice and girls said i was a nice guy... lol...
in my opinion women get bored because.. they associate the thrill of going out with the 'dangerous guys' and think they cna have fun with them, settling with nice guys reminds them they are getting older, it also reminds them that this is how life is going to be... and some panic pretty much like most men do.. and say oh ****..... i dont want to sobre just yet...
my advice for women to usually grow up... and men... never ever show ur entire hand... if your nice hide it... that is what i do
2007-02-11 06:40:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I surely have the answer..haha fortunate me what a stuck up snott f**ok i'm... women those days like the undesirable boys.. the assholes that get less than their dermis. It gathers their pastime for the guy. Being a efficient guy is boring.. your too goddam lenient. Too lenient and easygoing that its not that straight forward to flow get laid. The ahole takes the ladies shield down and then the lady feels unimportant, unlike you seem... and he or she tries to electrify you. Don't be propose to the lady all the ******* time, practice her you nevertheless surely delight in being round her countless the time. yet create debatable because us men and females human beings have *diverse minds.. And after a lengthy time period, shell be whipped on your cocktail. quite in case you comprehend you're warm.. Ik im a asshole, yet im cherished because i shop it authentic. women are ******* assholes too, they're in basic terms not that spread interior the popluation yet. its the way God made it, not my fault.
2016-11-27 01:19:40 · answer #9 · answered by sussman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Becuase women "like" the security that a nice guy can give them. But they "love" the thrill and excitement of bad boy c0ck.
Then when the bad boy gets thrown in jail, they'll sit on this forum and ask how to keep thier marriage alive while the hubby is in jail.
Go figure.
2007-02-11 06:36:07 · answer #10 · answered by Billy Bob D 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋