I have been married to a wonderful man for two years now. He accepted my daughter as his own, and we have a great sex life. But I met a good looking man who say's he want's to sleep with me. I am so scared that I might end up sleeping with him, and I don't want to destroy my marrrage, because of a lust.
2007-02-11 06:27:54 · 13 answers · asked by fionna 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are going to meet guys that you are attracted to throughout your marriage.. likewise, your husband will meet women that he is attracted too..that is normal..but that doesn't mean that you can give in to selfish, immoral behavior to satisfy a momentary desire. You have to learn how to handle it now..before you destroy your marriage. Tell yourself that you are married, that you love your husband, that you respect him, that you made vows with him..he deserves your love and respect..anything less and your marriage is doomed. He is raising your daughter as his own. Treasure him!
2007-02-11 06:34:26 · answer #1 · answered by HENRY M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all i want to make something VERY clear here. How can you really say you are happily married if you end up cheating on your spouse? When someone is truley happily married and love their spouse the way they should they would not ever want to cheat on or hurt the one they love and are so happy with. You do not sleep with this good looking guy and remember how happy you say you are in your marriage and go have sex with your loving husband. Tell the other guy that you are happily married and that you are not interested in having sex with him at all and run from him and dont look back and never see or have anything to do with him again. You are so right what you are feeling is just that a lust and dont give into it. If you do you will regret it and hate yourself for it and it is not worth it at all trust me. What is happening here is NOT Carma it is temptation and do not give into it or fall to its wayss. Yield not to temptation for yeilding is sin.
2007-02-11 14:49:36 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then simply DO NOT DO IT? If you know the possible end result and you say you are happy in your marriage, why would you even entertain such a thought? Tell the man trying to seduce you that you are a happily married woman and to hit the road and focus on your marriage. Besides, how would you feel if your husband cheated on you just because some woman found him attractive and he told you, sorry, honey, it was only lust, it didnt mean anything.
2007-02-11 14:34:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take yourself out of the situation and quickly. Think of it as a test from God. Do the right thing, and lust is what your feeling. Karma has nothing to do with losing your husband over this. You already know what will happen. Karma could come back in your next relationship if you mess this up. Do the right thing.
2007-02-11 14:47:09 · answer #4 · answered by BABY GIRL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As hurtful as it is to imagine someone you love naked and sweatty with another...The feeling of being cheated comes from the fact that you are trusted with his most intimant and sensitive self...he trusts you to not cheat him ...cheating him of you...your time to make this lustful act to happen...your energy wasted when trying not to be caught...avoiding him from hurt that will in someway still effect him even though he doesnt know...Cause and effect...For every action...there will be a reaction...so tread cautiously...and think before you say that you fear giving in to temptation thsat isnt at all worth the consequence...
EVERY ACTION
has a
REACTION,....
being attracted to other people is going to still exist...marriage doesnt make you non human...and considering he should be your very best friend...considering you both have committed to one another...no matter what ...you experience it together...whether you discuss this with him or not...trust me...he knows something ...he may not think its along those lines...but still hes effected someway...so...be honest about the attraction...allow him tio be honest too...sure there will be frustrations...but the reward?....is a good thing...nothing better than knowing your significant other is wanted by others...because they cant have him.../...her...you two share what no lust will ever fulfill...
GOOD LUCK AND GOD BLESS
2007-02-11 14:56:56 · answer #5 · answered by JEM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If attention from other men means that much to you, then I think you have a self-esteem issue. Don't break your husband's heart over your selfish need for affection from a man who would just sleep with you and dump you. Come on now, I hope you're smarter than that.
2007-02-12 10:39:02 · answer #6 · answered by Mel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I do believe in carma, it's worked to my advantage. My ex-wife cheated on me. 2 months after our divorce she told me she caught genital herpies. Ha ha ha ha ha. Have CONTROL of your lust towards your guy friend. Or else carma will sting you.
2007-02-11 14:50:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES...i believe in karma. the sad thing is that my insurcurities get the best of me...as if i'm waiting for it to happen. and if it does i can not get mad. cheating haunts me. i look back and think how could i have don't such a thing. my hubby is still with me and he knows. my guilt got the best of me and i told him hours after it happened. i broke down mentally and ended up in the hospital. i thought my life was over. but God helped me. my hubby forgave me. i just never forgave myself. i still cry when i look at him. i don't want to rememeber. i feel like **** because i know that he doesn't want to remember either.
2007-02-11 14:36:42 · answer #8 · answered by Allahu a3lam 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Come on Fiona, you already know the out come of this. Once you cheat on your perfect husband, it will always be your fault when something goes wrong, even if he never finds out.(but he will, I promise) Why would you want to destroy the magic between you and your husband? Just fantasize your husbands pain when he finds out. Shame on you. I used to have that perfect marriage and my EX_HUSBAND stepped out on me. My hearts still aches.
2007-02-11 14:35:59 · answer #9 · answered by Baw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would make as much distance as you can between the two of you. It sounds like you have a really great life right now...that would mess up everything you have right now...think about how your daughter would feel, not just your husband.
2007-02-11 14:32:23 · answer #10 · answered by chikki250 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋