Abortion (when you allready have kids)?

Question

Hi, I am currently pregnant with my 3rd child. If you read may past post, it is unplanned, and unwanted. It is way too late for an abortion, but since I am obssesed with "what if's" and "I should haves" I am wondering ; has anyone who allready has kids had an abortion?? I was terrified that I would never be able to face my kids again. Is this so?? Also it would have been somewhat of a late term abortion, has anyone had one??? Thank you, just trying to put my mind at rest.

Answer 1

hi, i did have an abortion after having my two daughters.
my oldest was 3, my little one was 7 months, i just couldnt have another baby at the time. i didnt feel guilty at all after having it, i looked at my DD the same. it was on my mind a little, but sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do. i didnt have a late term abortion though, i was only 9 weeks.
you do whats right for you!! and dont let anyone else tell you diffrent!!
take care

Answer 2

Wow, I feel for you. This would be an extremely difficult situation to be in. Can you give us a little more information? My questions are: How far along are you? What are the ages of your other two children and do they know you are pregnant? Are you married - and if so, what are your husband's feelings about this pregnancy?The answers to these questions would be helpful in order for us to better advise you. I was 23 when my first son was born. He is now 28. Due to complications with that pregnancy, I was not given a whole lot of hope of being able to have any more children. Seventeen years went by, and then all of a sudden, at the age of 40, I got pregnant with my second son, who is now 11 1/2. Both of my boys are truely blessings. If your pregnancy is truely unplanned and unwanted, I would maybe opt for having the baby and then possibly putting it up for adoption. But then that gets complicated with your other two children because you would have to explain why you came home from the hospital without a baby. I don't think I could go through with a late term abortion, because at that point, the baby already has a heartbeat. And then again, if your other children are old enough to understand what is going on, you will still have to explain to them what happened to the baby. There really is no easy answer for your situation, considering you will probably have feelings of guilt no matter what you decide to do. I wish you all the best. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Answer 3

This makes me very sad to read your post. I have three children and couldn't imagine my life with one of them not here. I wish I knew more of the situation to give you the best advise. I think because you are already a mother and if you have a late term abortion would be very sad. I don't know how far along you are, but I feel (and this is my thoughts) that you will probably feel very guilty over doing it. Also do the 2 children that you already have know that you have baby in belly? If so, how would you explain that it's just gone. So sad to hear of a baby being unwanted. I didn't plan any of my pregnancy and have since gotten my tubes tied, but once I let the thought of a little one coming home with me, I made the best of it. These are going to be very hard times as far a decision making goes. Abortion for me was never an option. I don't believe in abortion for myself. Anyone else, totally there own choice. What does your religion tell you. What about putting the baby up for adoption? I know so many women who cannot have children. I have not read you past posts so I am sorry if this doesn't help you out too much. I just felt I needed to try to reach out to you the only way I know how. I did not intend to offend. Good luck with your decision making.

Answer 4

Here's what happens in a late term (partial birth) abortion:

This is what Nurse Shafer saw:

" I stood at the doctor's side and watched him perform a partial-birth abortion on a woman who was six months pregnant. The baby's heartbeat was clearly visible on the ultrasound screen. The doctor delivered the baby's body and arms, everything but his little head. The baby's body was moving. His little fingers were clasping together. He was kicking his feet. The doctor took a pair of scissors and inserted them into the back of the baby's head, and the baby's arms jerked out in a flinch, a startle reaction, like a baby does when he thinks that he might fall. Then the doctor opened the scissors up. Then he stuck the high-powered suction tube into the hole and sucked the baby's brains out. Now the baby was completely limp. I never went back to the clinic. But I am still haunted by the face of that little boy. It was the most perfect, angelic face I have ever seen."

So, I would say you need to repent to Jesus of the sin of even thinking about doing that to your own child. Of course your other children would have been angry, maybe even hated you if you had had an abortion. You would have murdered their brother or sister. Their own life would seem of less value to them if you could so easily do that to their sibling.

Answer 5

If it's too late for abortion you can always put the baby up for adoption. If you can't handle another baby there are plenty of people that would be more then happy to have a baby. I'm sorry but I don't think anything could really make you feel better about going through with a late term abortion. It also comes along with risks for you. Babies can be delivered as young as 22 weeks gestational age and survive. If you are further then that you would be killing a viable baby. Please reconsider.

Answer 6

If its done before your kids know about it, it shouldn't harm them, but consider adoption or a tubal after this prenancy is over. Plus there is adoption, plenty of people give up children after they already have children. Just explain to them that someone else needed a baby and you carried it from heaven to earth for the other mommies and daddies. I can't seem to get pregnant in the first place so I don't know from experience but I watch a lot of Discovery Health and I have seen people do it on there. The best of luck to you. I don't agree with abortion and I hope you don't choose to do that as there are plenty of couples out there that would love that child, just please consider that first. Just try to imagine your life without the two angels you already have.

Answer 7

Instead of focusing on the what if's, try focusing on the u r's! You are going to have a baby and should get ready mentally for this! I do know women who could deal with having children after an abortion! I do not know any who had one after kids! I do not think at this date, they will do an abortion, but I could be wrong on that! Get some counceling on this!

Answer 8

You might want to take a look at this article, "Are Later Children Affected by Abortion?" Although it does not fit your situation exactly, much of the information in it is relevant:
http://www.afterabortion.info/hope/arti8.htm

If you want reassurance that you did the right thing in not killing your baby, take a look at this:

Photos and Video of Abortions, Including 1st Trimester Abortions:
http://www.cbrinfo.org/Resources/pictures.html
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-4-video.html

Photos and Facts About Prenatal Development:
http://www.justthefacts.org/clar.asp
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-2-prenatal.html
http://www.studentsforlife.uct.ac.za/foetal%20dev%20photos.html
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/in_pictures/3847319.stm
http://www.lifeissues.org/ultrasound/11weeks.htm

Pain Perception in the Unborn:
http://www.advocatesfortheinnocent.com/fetalpain.html

Abortion Risks:
http://afterabortion.info/complic.html
http://www.abortionfacts.com/reardon/effect_of_abortion.asp

Abortion Deaths:
http://www.lifedynamics.com/Pro-life_Group/Pro-choice_Women
http://www.afterabortion.info/news/abortiondeaths.html

Answer 9

i became interior of an same situation as you... my coverage needed a $5000 deductible on the $400 technique! there turned right into a alleviation fund set up at planned Parenthood that allowed me to pay $270 complete and that became for a surgical abortion (i became at 6 a million/2 weeks on the time). if you're nevertheless having complications coming up with that I propose using for a mastercard and putting the technique on it. i comprehend that sounds like a poor concept, yet in case you quite won't be able to have the funds for the technique yet like it done, it is going to likely be your staggering wager. for sure you'll probably ought to attend yet another week, yet a minimum of you'll comprehend that's in basic terms about over =)

Answer 10

This happened to one of my friends a couple years ago but instead of aborting the baby she decided to place him in an adoptive home in an open adoption so she could receive letters and pictures of him through out her life. She knew she would regret the abortion but not if she allowed him to live and have a family that could take care of him. I hope that you consider this for your child. My husband and I are waiting and waiting to adopt a child and we would be so ecstatic if someone in your position decided life for their child and gave someone in our position a chance at having children. Please consider it for your child. Email if you'd like to talk. I would love to hear from you!