How does a person teach people how to treat them?

Answer 1

By letting them know through your personality and values that you deserve to be treated respectfully. The way you talk, things you say, how you act & react to situations around others, as well as how you treat others shows them what you expect in return. There will always be those who will try to push your buttons & push your reaction. Don't ever let someone elses actions change who you are. People will see that you are someone that values yourself as well as others and will treat you accordingly.

Answer 2

By treating yourself the way you want others to treat you. For example, if someone should treat you rudely, let's say a store clerk, don't lash out with a cutting remark. Would you like it if you were treated that way? Instead, acknowledge her obvious distress with something like "I can see your having a bad day." Then stand up for yourself (self respect) "But, I don't understand why you feel the need to treat me rudely. I've not done anything to you to be treated that way." Most of the time, that will diffuse the situation and you will see the clerk visibly relax and usually apologize.
In other words, don't accept less than the best for yourself. Others will respond likewise.

Answer 3

Start inner. Treat yourself with dignity and respect. You have the most control over your own happiness. *Most* people will be able to see this. How people percieve you plays alot into how they treat you. As an adult the golden rule changes a bit. In most circumstances treating others with kindness, dignity, respect, and forgiveness will gain you the same in return. The issue lies with the people that are so unhappy they only feel better by attempting to bring others to their level. In these instances, stand your ground, while trying to maintain being the bigger person. It isnt always easy but the people who are just going to bring you down you are better off without them. As for the occasional jerks you run into, just blow them off.

Answer 4

first; recognize in each relationship what you're interests are. So, do the following: of every close relationship you have, make a so-called SWOT-analysis (Strengths, Weaknesses, Opportunities and Threats of and in the relation). Is this relationship giving you want you want? Is it they way you want it to be?

You now have a list of all your relationships, and a list of all of those SWOT's. For each particular relationship, do the following:

1.based on the SWOT-analysis, ask yourself: where would you like each relationship to go? Be fair and realistic here. For example: I might like my girlfriend taking on two jobs so I can stay at home all day long with her two far hotter twin sisters, but that's not fair to either her or her twin sisters, and it's not realistic either. If, however, I would like my girlfriend just to spendmore time with me since we've both been working so hard we hardly know eachother anymore, then I have both a fair and realistic wish.

2. Decide on a strategy to get there. So, I might say to me girlfriend: 'honey, I need to talk to you...'. If people really care about you, they will most probably react to this. If not, ask again in a more pressing manner: 'There's been something on my mind for a while, and I really need you to listen to it...'. If there's still no reaction even after you've tried very hard to get the other to listen, then apparently your wishes are not important to the other (OR the other doesn't know how to listen, in both cases the following strategy is wise), which means that there really is no relationship. Then feel free disengage from the relation.

3. If you get the other to listen (which will usually happend), express your feelings towards the other, but also be carefull to express your feelings about the problem you have with how the relationship is functioning now. This is basically stating your boundaries. You can then ask the other if he or she would like to comment or is willing to change his or her behavior towards you.

4. Once the other knows your boundaries, you can monitor the other's behavior: are they respecting your boundaries or not? If they don't resepct your boundaries, 'punish' them, by showing that you've noticed them crossing the line and are not willing to put up with it: show some anger, walk out of the room, don't call back for two days, whatever you do. If people value their relationship with you high enough, then this is punishment for them: they care about you and wouldn't want to see you hurt - they've obviously hurt you themselves, so they realize that that is against their intentions towards you.

If you feel really insecure about marking your boundaries, then you might consider to go into therapy or assertiveness training.

Answer 5

Beating them down into the ground and then helping them back up.


Kidding.

It depends on how the person wants to be treated. Different people do different things and end up getting different results. For example, I know a girl who's pretty much a b-i-t-c-h but everyone pretends to be her friend because she can make their lives hell. But I also know another one who is the nicest person I've ever met, has few enemies, but few friends as well.

Answer 6

You teach people how you want to be treated by how you react to their treatment of you. If you don't like how someone treats you, tell them that you don't accept that.
The way you regard yourself, is very apparent to others. If you have respect for yourself, it will show, and other's will respect you for that.
How you treat yourself has a large impact on how others treat you.
If you treat yourself badly, others will see this, and think that if you treat yourself like that, then it's ok for them to do it as well.


You show others how you want to be treated, by how you treat yourself. Respect yourself, and who you are. Others will follow.

Also- the way you treat others says a lot about what you think of yourself. If you treat others with respect, then you will most likely get it in return.

Answer 7

To every action there is a reaction. But the reactions are based on personal perspective and perception. To one person, someones self esteem and astuteness may appear more as conceit and dominance. Whereas, to another, they may view it for just as it is intended. How someone perceives us is as much up to the other persons perception as it is our own. We don't always have control of that.

There fore, I believe we need to embrace our own individualism and diversity, and just live the best journey we can in life. Self respect and Self esteem are key to me. Treating others with the same respect and honesty with which you wish to be treated is the best way I know how to say, this is who I am, and how I choose to be treated.

Accepting others for who they are, and not accepting negative behavior from those around you, may not always "teach" someone else how to treat you. But it will at least, set the guidelines for what is acceptable to you. Others will choose to respect your boundaries or not, based on their own characteristics.

Answer 8

The golden rule. And people also see what you put up with will know how they can treat you. Just have respect for yourself, treat others the way you want to be treated, and you should be fine.

Answer 9

Yes, it starts by treating others the way you want to be treated. But the next step is not to tolerate being mistreated. You have to stand up for yourself and express your feelings with dignity. Sometimes you simply need to cut your losses, and stop interacting with a hurtful person.

Answer 10

Be the best person you can be without allowing it to take you down... Don't let others walk on you but conduct yourself with dignity and respect when dealing with others, if confrontation arises... If they think they can treat you bad, they may try, not all will but some most certainly will...
When you stand up for yourself, others will see they need to respect you for who you are...
There will always be those times when you have to defend yourself, even to those closest to you... Best wishes... ♥