Valentines Day Card, Is This Wrong?

Question

My ex split with me about 4 months ago, we were together for almost 4 years.

I found out that she's been seeing someone else for the last month but I'm still very much in love with her and I know she cares for me a lot still.

I've written her a long letter saying things that I should've said to her when we were going out with each other and telling her how much I loved her and how much she ment to me.
I've also written about mistakes I made when going out with her, lack of communication amoung other things.
I basically open my heart to her and say that regardless of the fact that she's seeing someone I still love her and that I want her to know how important she is to me.

I've put the letter in a Valentines day card that I will give to her on monday when I see her.

I admit that what I want more than anything is for her to go back out with me but regardless of that I feel I have to tell her how I still feel.

Is any of this wrong? Does this sound like the wrong approach

Answer 1

If reconciliation is in the picture, you have already taken the first step to make that happen, so now leave it alone. If she responds favorably, good for you, if not, do not contact her again. No begging, women see that as weakness.

Answer 2

I'm afraid to say, it's wrong.

You have to move on. You split for a reason. Look, if you drop a plate and it breaks in two, you could glue it together again, but it'll always be broken.

The same happened to me a few years back. I was in a relationship longer than yours and the other party instigated the split. You have to find a way to move on. Pick yourself up, dust yourself down and put your chin up. Do different things to what you did before to meet new friends. The right one will come along.

I didn't believe that I would know how to love again or trust someone with my heart. And if I thought my ex was brilliant, my god! my partner now is 10 times better!

I'm exceedingly happy now and my partner and I were married 18months ago! I am lucky to have someone who respects and loves me so much!

You will find your special someone, but not in your ex. Your ex seeing somebody else should be your wake up call that they have moved on & you know that in their heart, it's not you who they care for. It's heartbreaking I know, but it's also what you need to realise that there is a new path ahead of you now and you just have to see where it takes you.

Be happy! It just takes time. I thought I was over my ex but when we met up for a chat 13mths after we split, I realised they cared about somebody else. It was my wake up call, it felt like a chapter had closed in my book and I truly felt free!

A month later I met someone else on a friendship basis, and before I knew it, my feelings developed. We married 21 months after we met, and as I said, we've been married for 18mths and have our own home & are very much in love. It can happen for you too.

Take a deep breath each morning and take each day as it comes.

Love finds you when you least expect it!

Answer 3

I don't think this is the wrong approach. In fact I don't think there is a right or wrong way of doing this.

The way I see it. You are telling her how you feel and that's the best thing to do. By doing it this way instead of by other methods such as face-face or phone, you are also preventing any uncomfortable situations like putting her on the spot or under pressure for an immediate answer or response.

This way she will be able to read your letter and think about it before making any radical decisions.

I also think that its best that you tell her exactly how you feel now, as this will help prevent any feelings of regret at a later date. Also by doing this you will hopefully find out her true feelings.

It will either prompt the response you want or the complete opposite so you have to be prepared for it to go either way.

But one thing's for sure its better to have tried and failed then to have never tried at all.

Hope it all works out for you.

Answer 4

Oh no, this is the perfect approach. The only thing is, is that I think that you should sit her down and tell her, not write it in a letter. I think that if you told her, it would leave room to talk instead of waiting for her to respond and her not knowing how to react. You guys were together for 4 years this should be something that should be talked about face to face. If the love is really still there, go out on a limb and know that you gave it your best effort to reconcile.

Answer 5

I think is sounds ok. You need to get these things off of your chest and then it's up to her what the next move is. I think you should defo give her the letter, it's important to let somebody know how you feel otherwise it will continue to eat away at your inside and you would go through life always thinkiing what if!?!

Answer 6

I think its very romantic, personally I think there is nothing wrong with you letting her know how you feel but keep in mind that she is seeing someone else right now and may want to get to know this person a bit more. Good luck, I hope it works out for you.

Answer 7

Of course it is not wrong to give her the card once you do realise that she is seeing someone else and may have moved on. She may just thank you for the card and say goodbye. You have to be prepared for this. Good luck

Answer 8

yeah its the wrong approach theyre not supposed o know who the cards off. post it.
ok seriously the way i find it best to say things is to write them then that way nothing can put you off the track you want to go when your trying to say it verbally. i wouldnt put it in a valentine card though aas i said post either through the door or royal mail. if she does still like you then good luck and i hope it doesnt go the other way and break you.

Answer 9

If she is seeing someone else then she might have moved on, and do you know if she wants to get back with you. sending her that might cause you to stop being friends or could get you back together, but you broke up for a reason and unless you and her have truely changed then it might happen again. Do what your heart says but remember that it could go bad and that you should prepare yourself for both futures.

Answer 10

I don't see anything wrong with it. It is better to do it when she is very early in a new relationship with someone then if they were committed. If they were in a committed relationship then I don't think it would be appropriate. It may just be what you need to get back with her.

It's better to try and say you failed then to never try and wonder what could have been.


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