So do people just skip on courtesy and manners these days?

Question

Just curiosity here. My husband and I had a night out last night (first time in a while, it was my valentines day present :) he arranged everything, including the sitter). We went and saw a movie and then decided to go out to eat. The wait to be seated was 35 minutes, reasonable enough on a Saturday night. My question pretains to the rudeness of the other patorns waiting for a table. There was only one bench on which to sit (big enough for about 3 people). Now I don't like to make big fusses and my husband offered to speak to the people sitting (which would have really embarased me). Every time the poeple sitting on the bench got up and I stared towards the bench (I was less than 5 feet away) more people swooped in (2 of them pretty much pushed me out of their way) and took the seats. At least 3 sets of these people had children (all over the age of 8) with them. A nice group of people even tried to help me get a seat on the bench but to no avail.

Am I wrong in my belief that people should let a pregnant woman sit (at this point there is NO chance of not being able to tell I am pregnant, I'm 8 months) and that poeple should teach their children these manners? I get up for pregnant women when I am not pregnant as do my husband and 2 older children. Just wondering?

**Also, it wouldn't be that big a deal to me but I get VERY bad Braxton Hicks contractions and back pain when I stand for more than 10 minutes. I ended up having to go outside and sit on the steps of the resturaunt in 2 degree weather.

Heh, people are even less likely to give their seat to someone with a child! I should know, I have 3 older children (6 1/2, 5, and 1 1/2)

youngmomma's comment reminded me of something I forgot to mention lol. When we were called for our table (my husband waited inside in case you couldn't hear from outside). I got up and opened the door to go in, a flood of people came out and just *expected* me to stand there and hold the door for them! Now tha I find to be beyond rude. I'm soooo glad I'm not the only one who feels this kind of thing is rude, it gives me hope for the world lol

Answer 1

Some people act like heathens and while you can't change their behavior, keep setting your examples at home for your own children and they will grow up to be respectable adults. I remember last time I was pregnant one of my kids was in a gymnastics class. All viewers had to sit upstairs and watch the kids down below through plate glass windows. This particular lady had kids in a couple of the classes and would perch her other children on the viewing seats. Her children would then take out coloring books and crayons and hog the viewing seats (also at the exlusion of pregnant women like myself who would've simply liked a seat at 8 months). There was a play area for the kids to color in but she wouldn't make them go there and give a seat to a parent. As you can tell this was very irksome to me especially coming from another female and from someone who KNEW how it felt to be 8 months pregnant. I told her off one day and she didn't even seem ashamed. I teach my kids manners and that's the problem with the world today not even close to enough people teach politeness anymore.

Answer 2

I had the same thing happen a few weeks ago. The first time I went to take a seat, the other woman who beat me to it was bigger pregnant than me AND holding a child, so I let it go, but I started to get annoyed after a while. Finally another mom found me a seat and I talked to her for a little while. I think other moms are more likely to be considerate, but some people are still really rude. I'm not the kind of person to get pushy about what I want/need, so I end up just dealing with it but being really pissed off!

I swear I'm about to get a sign on the front of my car that says "I'm pregnant, please don't cut me off and take that good parking space and make me walk." In 6 weeks my doctor will give me a "stork parking" pass that will get me front-row spaces at the hospital and on the military installation where we live. I can't wait!

Answer 3

I understand exactly what you mean. I'm nearly six months pregnant and have an eleven month old. I think it's rude when your back is aching and you have to carry a big ole boy around when no one offers you a seat.

I was at the same resteraunt, I think (lol) a few weeks ago. I swooped in after my husband spoke loudly about me sitting there even having to physically grab it out of a middle aged man's hands. Excuse me...did no one teach baby boomer's any manners?! Or, did that go out when a woman burned her bra?

I always offer my seat to a pregnant woman when not pregant. If a new mom is carrying a carseat I'll give my seat just so she can put the carseat on the seat.

Some of us are civilized and have manners. I wish other people would!!

Answer 4

Ugh - my number one pet peeve for pregnancy. I take the train every day and you would be appalled at how many times I've had to stand, either while waiting for the train or while riding the train. I suppose it just doesn't even occur to some people to offer their seat - or maybe they are really so spaced out that they don't notice that I'm 9 mo pregnant. But there are definately times when I see someone (who is seated) staring at my bump, then when I catch their eye they look away. I can't imagine why they would be so rude and selfish. Of course there is the occasional person who will insist that I take their seat - which is very kind - but they are few and far between.

Answer 5

Yes, you are absolutely correct to consider rude. For 35 minutes! I always get up when elders are standing. So the same should be with pregnant women! I would've asked (nicely) if I could sit down. I mean, your husband could have stayed standing. Next time, just say "Excuse me, but may I have a seat?" or something like that.

You have nothing to lose!

Answer 6

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Answer 7

I have see this too. I've seen people let their kids use up space on a bench when there's elderly people around. I always notice this at the Olive Garden. Yes, it seems like people are out for number one these days. I guess people just quit teaching their kids to have consideration for others. I am like you, I might have been pretty embarased to have my husband say something to them and ask them move. However, at 8 months pregnant, I might have gotten so tired of standing, I might have asked them myself. lol!! It is awful how people are so selfish these days.
Hope the rest of the evening went a bit better for you. : )

Answer 8

I KNOW I KNOW, i work at the airport and we have to take a shuttle bus to get to the parking lot, and a bunch of rampers had all the seats, im clearly pregnant (37 weeks) and I had to stand, not a single guy offered me a seat, and we go over 4 speedbumps and I could fall, but guys just arent gentleman anymore. It was 8 guys and pregnant me, rediculous!

Answer 9

yup, people are rude.
I was about 8 months pregnant and I was headed for the open "Expectant Mothers" space at Wal-Mart. I watched a vehicle pull in. So I waited.......and 2 young guys got out! I rolled down my window and yelled "so which one of you is pregnant?".......they immediately moved the car and said that they did not see the sign........yeah right.
People have NO respect for pregnant women sometimes.

Answer 10

yes you are so right to think it is rude. wait til you have the baby and ppl walk by you struggling with opening a door while pushing a stroller. i always hold the door, give up a seat, etc when i see a women with children or a pregnant woman, bc i know how it is! and, thats how i was raised! other moms help out more often than men, but even they can be extremly rude too! its sad. there are so few ppl nowadays with comon courtesy!