2007-02-11 05:07:27 · 9 answers · asked by Rachel T. 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
think less of what others may think of you, instead do what you love to do and enjoy life as you would want it to be. Be kind to yourself, after all you are your own best friend. Once you are off self flagellation, your self esteem would rise proportionately...guaranteed.
2007-02-11 05:24:13 · answer #1 · answered by McDreamy 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
A good beginning is understanding why you need the external validation. Is there something you would like to do/accomplish that you cannot because you don't believe you can? Or because someone else believes you can't?
Attempting and failing gives you valuble life information. Not trying does not tell you anything.
Look in a mirror..."Did I do the best job I could?" "Could I have done better?" "How do I know this?" These are all good opening questions.
2007-02-11 05:31:42 · answer #2 · answered by wiscman77 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Worry less about what others think of you and what you think of you , really. Don't delude yourself. Look at what you've accomplished in your life , not just in your career but in your family and friends relationship.
Do you really think you're worthy of happiness?
Do you think of yourself as a 'poser' who if people knew the real you, you wouldn't be successful?
Do you really walk your walk and talk your talk?
Do you take responsibility for your life and your decisions?
Do you have integrity, can people trust your word and can you trust you?
Are you pro-active in everything you do or are you a reactionary, hateful of other people's successes?
Try reading a book by Nathaniel Brandon called the Six Pillars of Self -Esteem . when you can look at the six pillars and say yes to all of them,then you know you're whole and don't need to rely on external forces to validate you.
2007-02-11 05:34:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Rachel, build self-esteem in a positive way. nice 2 hear from felo survivor. IMO there r profesionals who deal w/ this. Known as Doctors & Therapists, many DO help. Problem perfect-n abilit b in moment, self harm. Self-esteem skills, competence & be coming part of society r benefits. Ask Dr 4 meds 4 depreson, ADHD if need. Avoid the rapists!
2007-02-11 05:41:33 · answer #4 · answered by PervyRetard 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Be happy with yourself. It all begins there. If you feel worthless by yourself, you'll fell worthless in a room of a thousand.
2007-02-11 07:50:20 · answer #5 · answered by redman 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do the best you can to better yourself and accept what you can't change. Ignore rude, hurtful people and what they have to say.
2007-02-11 05:17:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my God, if you can even THINK of formulating a question like that you're beyond hopeless. Quit thinking for 5 minutes and go out and DO something.
2007-02-11 05:13:47 · answer #7 · answered by KevinStud99 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
OKAY.
I did not understand that.
I understood every word, but i couldnt put it together in a question.
2007-02-11 05:15:12 · answer #8 · answered by dreamscrushed 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Good question, and when you find out, let me know too.
2007-02-11 05:17:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋