i recently moved to a small town i went to uni etc and have been independent for a while but all the guys my age still iive at home they say they are saving for a morgage but how many of them actually are i have to question...is his normal? All of them still have thier mum doing their ironing and picking up after them mothering them...im not use to this i use to live in a city where guys wanted their independence??? is this normal or is it the dossing way out?
2007-02-11 05:04:31 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Unfortuantely this is normal.
House prices are sky high and young single people are being priced out... even if they have a good job.
I suspect many young people would love their own home and independance but simply cannot afford it.
2007-02-11 05:07:37 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
The mums have to be Irish mums!
I think by the age of 25, most guys have moved out of home; some DO stay there, with the excuse they are saving for a mortgage.
My son recently moved out at the age of 23, he's the fourth of five; and the others had all moved out by the time they were 20. He did his own washing and ironing while he lived here, and he mostly cooked for himself too. I had always worked when my kids were young, out of financial need, so they had to learn these things, as I wasn't there to do them.
It depends a lot on the kind of home these guys grew up in; if there is a strong "mothering "presence in the home, then they won't be likely to move out and fend for themselves. However, if it's like our house, where I tried to foster a spirit of independence in my lot, then it seems very normal to fly the coop young.
2007-02-11 05:41:58 · answer #2 · answered by marie m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys want to be independent long before then. And if the parents don't encourage them to do so, they won't.And yes I believe at 25 yrs old they should be getting out there and see what the world is about, most people that age are away at school or living on their own. To me the longer a guy stays at home, the more he wants a woman to do for him, because of the mother thing. Now days woman are very independent and their not looking forward to waiting on a man hand and foot. So good luck to him finding a wife like his mother.
2007-02-11 05:13:41 · answer #3 · answered by glorene b 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't see a 25 year old living at home still a bad thing- if it's no problem to their parents and as long as they are paying their way and doing their bit around the house, why should it a be a problem? However if they have good jobs, refuse to pay their way and basically, expect their parents to play skivvy then it's not right. They are lazy and need to get a bit more independance
2007-02-11 05:15:11 · answer #4 · answered by MrsMatsuyama 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is normal, especially in places where houses are very expensive. What's not normal is for the moms to be cleaning up after them and stuff, they should be somewhat independent in their lifestyle even if not living independently. However, sometimes that's the moms not letting go, as opposed to the sons.
2007-02-11 05:27:17 · answer #5 · answered by calliope320 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, good for you that you have that sense of independence!
I hate to hear people say that because they want to save up some money they stay at home with mum and dad!
2007-02-11 05:45:06 · answer #6 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with a guy to still live with their parents, even after they'd become independent, or having a good job.
the Idea of leaving the parents for the sake of independence, is actually a very selfish one, and should be totally abolished. it is ok to live outside your parent's control. but adults should not
depend on them, on financial matters unless of course, need be.
being independent doesn't mean to abandon your parents. we won't feel their pain until we become them...
2007-02-11 05:18:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, it is normal nowadays, largely due to over-inflation in the housing market and graduate debt. But I think it is definitely best to try to do a fair share of the household chores etc. Your parents are getting older, and will appreciate the help, as well as the company.
2007-02-11 05:09:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't exactly think it's normal to want to stay at home that long.. it's a different situation if you're contributing to the bills and rent, but once you are working at a good job it's time to move out into the big world.
2007-02-11 05:09:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes
2007-02-11 07:20:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, its normal. Some people are smart enough to stay home to save for a house, instead of renting
(which is a nice way of saying "giving away my money for something im not going to keep!")
But the people who stay home that I know of, have reponsiblilities!
The ones having their parents still doing stuff for them are lazy bastards!
Other than that. Its normal. And its smart. But around here (US, California), some people love to GIVE money away for rent!
2007-02-11 05:09:05 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋