I was in hospital for more than a week last year because of bipolar, one of my best friends whom I've been friends with for 6-7 years didn't come visit me or even call to see if i were ok. When I was out of hospital, I called her serveral times asking her if she wanted to hang out, she turned me down every single time. I have bad impression of her ever since and think she's not a true friend. I stopped hanging out with her and don't think her as a good friend anymore.....would you do the same thing if you were me?
2007-02-11 05:03:11 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I most certainly would. True friends are those who are going to be there for you no matter what, to give support and guidance. She knows you needed a little help, and personally, I would have been there every step of the way. Now, I'm not saying completely cut her off, but after a while, I would seriously consider having a chat with her and discuss how you felt when she wasn't there for her, and see what she has to say about it.
2007-02-11 05:14:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being hospitalized for bipolar is probably something she didn't understand and was maybe even frightened about. She may have heard things about Bipolar and feared you wouldn't be the same person. She only needs to see that you are still the great friend and person but that will probably have to be by word-of-mouth since she won't return your calls.
Hopefully your other aquaintences will pass this on to her. If not, you may want to try writing her a letter. Don't sound angry and don't tell her you think she is not a true friend. Be friendly and keep it light, saying something like, How are you doing? We can't seem to connect these days so I just wanted to send this card to say hello and see whats up. Have you seen so and so lately or mention a movie or something. Remember, keep it friendly and upbeat. End it with, give me a call sometime when you can, I miss seeing ya. Take Care.
If you still don't hear from her soon after that, then its time to meet new friends. Hang in there.
2007-02-11 05:25:52 · answer #2 · answered by Alohalani 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've been friends with her for 6-7 years, and she didn't even have the decency to come visit you in the hospital, or bother to even call to see how you were doing, then she is not a friend at all. What is her reason for not visiting? And what is her reason for turning down your offer to hang out? It's obvious that she is not a true friend, but I am curious as to why she is acting like this. You should definitely find out, ask around, find out from other friends why she distanced herself from you, and why she turned on you like that. You made the right decision to stop hanging out with her. She's no friend at all. Could she be jealous of you? Find out.
Good luck.
2007-02-11 05:09:37 · answer #3 · answered by Loves It<3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not hang out with her. My best friend/"sister" is bipolar and has been hospitalized before in very serious situations and i had stuck by her the whole time! we've been friends since we were almost 10 and you know, your 'best friend' most likely just got scared and really stressed out over what you were going through, but didnt know how to react! So **** her!
2007-02-11 05:24:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think that there maybe something troubling her. Maybe she needs a little space, and lots of love. So, don't give up on your friend yet. After all, you said that she has been your friend for 6-7years.
Well, sometimes people are so occupied with some things they overlooked the others.
I would be patient and still try my very best to be a good friend to her.
Or may try to chat with her and find out what happen...
2007-02-11 05:27:50 · answer #5 · answered by Jers 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I agree with Kelly. Your true friends would of at least called, acted interested when you called to talk after. I mean we must remember our friends have a life too. I still think a long term friend would of made contact in some way while that sick.
Try not to beat yourself up over it. Move on, you can find better friends than that.
God bless...
2007-02-11 05:21:37 · answer #6 · answered by LavaHalo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,when a friend goes through a hardship a good friend will be right behind you. She should of been there,or at least considerate enough to call and see how you are doing. I'd let it go and move on, remember the only people you need in your life are the ones that need you in theirs.
2007-02-11 05:07:20 · answer #7 · answered by Kelly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes a true friend would of been their by your side the whole time no matter what unless she had mean has parents that wouldn't let her go. So yes you did the right thing.
2007-02-11 05:41:29 · answer #8 · answered by Elizabeth C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, I would do the same. She proved that she was not a true friend. True friends will always be with you during difficult times, and when you need them the most.
Find another friend who cares about you, and deserves your appreciation.
2007-02-11 05:47:56 · answer #9 · answered by wildrose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell yeah i would have done the same thing. but sense she don't care about you should leave her alone. a true friend would be there at a time like dat because dat shows you got there back when something bad happens. and you would help them when they are having problems like this.
2007-02-11 05:11:56 · answer #10 · answered by Alicia-brandon15 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋