If the baby's daddy doesn't sign the birth certificate can i get child support with out him seeing her?

Question

i'm 17wks pregnant and just found out im having a girl we have talked only 3 times since i found out i was pregnant...he has no job,lives with his mom,and has no car. he is 18 and im 16.

Answer 1

every state is different, in texas i was able to give my baby the last name but the father was out of town so we had to ammend the birth certificate later, you should have no problem receiving childsupport whatever the last name is, only if a different father is listed on the bc. for that matter, you shouldnt worry about all of that you should worry about him not having a job and not caring about the situation. visitation is seperate from childsupport, and there will be a seperate order established. you can always suggest the visitation be agreed upon, meaning he cant see the baby if you dont say he can.. good luck, go to school while you still can, because babys are expensive and you cant rely on the "dead beat" dad to provide anything. you have to do for yourself, so basically what i am trying to say is this. dont worry so much about him having to do what he is supposed to, it will either come or it won't, but you DO need to worry about bettering your chances for the future and your baby's. after you get your ged or diploma dont put off college for a second. that is valuable time and your goal should be to be self sufficient. kids are expensive and no matter what he pays it will never seem to be enough. good luck

Answer 2

If he doesn't sign the birth certificate then child support will be a private matter between you and him. If he DOES sign it .. you can go right to the courts and they can issue an amount. Given the information about him, I would try and get him to sign the certificate. When I had my daughter at 16 her father did not sign the birth certificate.. but he was much older and stable so he decided to give me a very reasonable amount. But if I had gotten pregnant by some one else .. I would be s hit out of luck with money. If there is no proof that they are the father (hense the birth certificate) then he will do whatever it takes to drag out the child support process, wanted praternity tests and all that. It is just one big headache. So I'de say, please try and get him to sign that little piece of paper.. it will save you a lot of stress in a very stressful time. The only way for him not to see her, is if he is deemed and unfit father for some reason, and u must do this through the courts. But just remember, as much as you may not like him, she will still always love him because he is her daddy. And every girl needs a possitive male roll model in her life. Trust me... Also feel free to message me if you have any questions or just want to talk .. it's always nice to hear from someone who has been through it all. Good Luck

Answer 3

In almost every case, custody issues are separate from support issues. It will probably take a DNA test for the court system to order child support, unless your ex signs a statement of paternity - in which case he's pretty much got to support the baby no matter what. If you can't get him to do that, I'd talk to someone about getting a DNA test.... but like I said, his paying support should have nothing to do with visitation. The courts generally like to keep those kinds of things separate.

Answer 4

please consider giving your child up for an open adoption, where you can know who will raise her and get some level of contact and reassurance over the years. Your child should not have to deal with a father who doesn't love her. The trauma of that will shape her psyche. In addition, day care is very harmful to babies. In addition, I can remember being 16 and I remember knowing I was grown up, mature. Now, I chuckle to think all I didn't know I didn't know.

You are still growing, this is no time to be a mother. Please give this child up to people ready to give her what she truly needs to have a decent shot at life. The odds are very very high that her life will be awful if she stays with you. Not because you are you, but because you haven't set up a proper home for her before making her. Let her go to someone who has made that home. Love her enough to give her what she needs.

The law will decide both issues, visitation and support.

Answer 5

If you go for child support then he has a right to see his kid.

Sounds as if you will not get anything from him anyways, since as you pointed out he has no job, nothing of his own.

Good thing of filling for child support is hopefully his family will get involved in the raising of the child. You will need help and more people involved in the child's upbringing will only lead to good things, think of the child first, then your wishes last.

Time to grow up....

Answer 6

You can get child support based on there being a paternity test. He will have to pay what ever the judge sets child support at.
The military takes pay automatically all the time when a mother tries to get it. All you have to do is go to a judge.

Answer 7

oh honey i know exactly how you feel. the only time my bays daddy comes around is when he wants some. but **** all that he can kiss my fat pregnant ***. i'm 38 weeks and 5 days and i haven't heard from my BD in like probably a month or more. he deleted his myspace even. he doesn't have a car he totalled it. he's dropping outta school (TTU) and he barely works. he works wth his dad so he works wen he wants money. if he doesn't sign the BC then you will take it to court where they will do a dna test. you can have your mother or whoever watch the baby like in the car or something and not let him see her. do the testing. then onceit gets to the point where he says he wants to see her tell em you wanna fight it. sometimes if you have good enough reason they won't let him. but be almost ready that they will.

Answer 8

child support and visitation are two completely seperate issues. You will have to go to court twice- for these. Unless you both can agree on custody etc etc and just sign a paper- otherwise you have to go to court and it's a COMPLETELY seperate issue than child support. Even if it's ruled he can have nothing to do with the children- he will still have to pay child support.

Answer 9

No, and from the sound of it, you are already planning to screw him out of seeing his child. Typical. If he doesn't sign the B.C. you cant do anything. Have a court ordered paternaty test once it is established he is the father you can apply for child support. He will get his rights to the child.

Answer 10

every state is different (slightly) about these things, so i would check with the links below (just click your state and find the section you need).

NO his name doesnt have to be on the birth certificate, to get child support. but they will more then likely order a DNA test to determine he is indeed the father of the baby. then they will require he get a job (because he obviously needs to be told to instead of getting one) and then figure out the child support.

child support today is figured on BOTH parents incomes in most states. if one parent isnt working they figure in an amount (minimum wage) and add it in for them. unless the baby is young, then they can add in the cost of medical care, daycare, etc that the child will need.

do his parents even know? brace yourself, they may try and convince him to fight for custody. so take parenting classes and make sure your home is a safe one. i would.

as for visitation, you can not deny him seeing his child, unless it is proven to the court that he is a huge danger to the child or a crackhead or something. you can get into serious trouble denying the visitation. the court may even take custody from you and give it to him if you try to deny him seeing his child.

courts today dont take kindly to it, keep that in mind.

so, get "set visitation". that is where the days and times are set. if he show up, thats great, if he doesnt have something else to do with your baby. NEVER, ever get "open visitation". thats where he can come and go as he pleases, on his schedule and demand to see the child. SET VISITATION solves lots of problems, so go for that kind only in a court order.

he's young, he's probably scared (like you are) and not sure what to do. but you need to tell him this isnt going to go away... sometimes young men think if they ignore it, they dont have to deal with it.

too bad. if you do, so does he.

some links; just click on your state and find what you need. one is a child support calculator; just click on your state and fill it in. this will be the amount (approx) what will be paid.

also try freecyle.org... lots of stuff for babys on there, all the time.

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