Does your mother talk about her experiences with her pregnancies?

Question

Does anyone else share this problem? I can hardly talk to my mother about my pregnancy without her bringing up her past pregnancies (in a negative way) that happened 38 years ago. She's not a very good listener first of all. But it seems like she's trying to make me feel bad about everything she went through. I'm getting sick of it.

I spoke with her yesterday and said I didn't want anyone in the room with me while I'm having my baby (on Valentines day). She was with me on my first baby and it was a total mistake. She talked about her deliveries like hers were so much worse and I had it made! Whatever. Anyway, she mentioned that she would cook us a meal after I got home. I told her that my husband's cousin would be there for the week so if she wanted to cook something it would be greatly appreciated the following week. Well, there she starts. " I didn't have anyone helping me after I had y'all (5 of us). I was left to fend for myself".

What is that suppose to mean?

Answer 1

I think you should be gratefull that you have a mother to share her stories with you. She's probably very proud of you that your able to experience the same things that she did and she wants to share them with you.
My mother passed away 14 years ago (I was 11) now that I'm married with two children I would love nothing more than to ask her about her experience and to know that she's proud of me!I would love to hear if she went through some of the same things. Unfortunatly I can't ask her and have no-one to ask, so be grateful your mother is here and she want to help you!!!
Maybe instead of nagging about her hug her cause you've been through it ones already and mayber tell your mom that your proud of her for having 5 with no help. I don't no where i'd without my sister's help i'm sure your mother will apreciate a HUG!!!
Don't forget about all us Stay At Home Mom's that are underpaid!!! Think about when your child gets to be your age, aren't you going to want to tell him/her all about your deliveries!!!

Answer 2

for sure you're not any further the in trouble-free terms one. i'm a recovered alcoholic myself (10 years sober) and at the same time as I managed to end ingesting (for the most area) throughout the time of my pregnancies I drank at the same time as I nursed my children. and that i understand what you advise. i fairly do. It sucks and the guilt grow to be overwhelming. i can not decide you for it because it got here about to me too. and that i'm an effective individual. i grow to be basically very ill again then. luckily, both my children are very healthy immediately. the most ideal aspect you need to do is to end in the present day and be conscious your medical professional. it is actual that the most harm would take position in the course of the first trimester, yet there continues to be time to practice solid food and to attend to your self. Your medical professional may even be in a position to furnish you drugs to shrink the yearning to drink--some thing suggested as Naltrexone, i trust. i don't understand no matter if it is approved to be utilized in being pregnant, yet your medical professional will understand. in case you experience that a help crew would help you, you are able to attempt AA or when you're fortunate sufficient to have smart fix on your area, you are able to attempt that. also smart fix has conferences on line the position they offer you with some fairly tremendous approaches and help. solid success my pricey. i'm completely rooting for you!!!!

Answer 3

well i can tell you this much, everytime we talk about my pregnancy she tells me how having a natural childbirth is not bad at all, she claims it as a piece of cake,
but i know i will be like...
epidural...PLEASE!
she stresses me out, like if i dont have a natural childbirth im not good enough or something. well good luck to you