my mom and dad got divorced a month ago. my dad is with a woman who does drugs and steels stuff. i hate her. she is fake and acts nice to us. i am 15 and she gives me and my 13 and 6 years old brothers time outs. she makes us write papers when we do things bad. i hate her. she only buys us stuff at the dollar store because she doensn't want us to have good stuff. everyone hates her and she is weird. my mom and my friend say i don't have to listen to her because she isn't my mom. is this true? what should i do? she is always acting like stupid daddy and she thinks bath is a bad word. i don't understand her sometimes.
2007-02-11 04:34:08 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ General Health Care ➔ Other - General Health Care
Sounds like a hard situation to be in . I think firstly that your mom shouldn't tell you not to listen to her . Your mom is only showing her own resentment in doing this and making it harder on you. The fact is that this woman is in your life to stay and you have to survive it . You don't have to agree with everything she says or does to get along with her. Just keep in mind who you are and the kind of person you choose to be. Meaning that the bottom line is how you choose to react. You can turn the whole situation around by the way you deal with it. For example if she tells you to do something and you choose to do it instead of fighting ..... then it's quickly done and over with and you get to go on with your day without an argument. If you choose to rebel against her authority then you will argue and ultimately feel worse.Just do your best to be nice and try to be respectful. She is who she is ..... so what.... you don't have to be like her . If you see things that you don't like then rise above it and do better for yourself. The thing is that this isn't about her .... it's about you. You need to be able to feel good about the choices you make and know you did the right thing . You will be surprised how much a positive attitude can change things for you. Good Luck !!! : )
2007-02-11 04:57:34 · answer #1 · answered by uncle louie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you try to show that you do like her. She could never be your mom, but she could turn out to be a nice friend, give her a chance. I was once a step mom myself. And my stepdaughter was 8 at the time. It was very difficult for her, and for me. By the time she turned 10 we were the best of friends. So again, give her a chance.
2007-02-11 19:43:27 · answer #2 · answered by Josie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like she's from another planet. Tell your dad, in private, how you feel. He may not come to his senses, but at least your feelings are out there. It's better you tell him now, early on in his relationship with her, before he becomes too attached. Let him know that you love him, but you think he could do alot better. Tell him you are unhappy. I went through a similar situation- I am 26 now, but when I was 17 my parents split. They were married for 22 years, so when they went their separate ways it was very hard to accept it. My dad started dating a woman he had only known a few weeks, and took her out for their first date on my birthday! A few months later, he had her and her 2 kids move in to our home with us and my two brothers. It was like our comfort zone was taken away. It was hell....she did coke, and bought cigarettes for her kids (ages 14 and 11), and my dad didn't know. I had to share my room with her daughter (now my stepsister), and my dad started acting completely different. I still refer to her as the evil stepbitch. It's not too late for you...I tried to put up a fight early on, but my dad didn't listen. Now they are married and have been for 6 years. I hope you don't make the same mistakes I did, but if your dad doesn't listen, at least try to bond more with your siblings. If you work together, maybe you can hook your dad up with a nicer lady.
2007-02-11 12:48:05 · answer #3 · answered by Klum 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
just try to get along at home as long as this lasts, hang out with your friends or at school so you don't have to see her... when you graduate get a job and move out of that house where this woman can't put you down, she can't steal from you or hurt you.
I'm telling you from my own experience, my dad married a monster too, she was vicious, hopped on antidepresives, heavy smoker, she went through my things constantly and invaded my space with her things. I understand it is hard to accept this kind of things. But your father married her. Just remember it is his choice not yours. So you don't have to be best friends.
Trust me when you move out of daddy's home you are going to be yourself again. Until then just try and get along, I know it is hard, and most importantly don't lose comunication with your father. He still loves you.
2007-02-11 12:52:44 · answer #4 · answered by Gabriel 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you don't HATE her, you just strongly dislike her. you should rephrase the question. talk to your dad, this woman can go do jail for doing drugs and stealing. doesn't your dad know she does those things? and she isn't your stepmom, she's your dad's girlfriend.
2007-02-11 12:39:44 · answer #5 · answered by lauren 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is a arabic proverb says that " If your mother and father die, so the dead ones are those who love you" you cant find anybody loves you as your mother....
2007-02-11 12:46:19 · answer #6 · answered by PharmaAce 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok.
2007-02-11 12:39:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋