my boyfriend is presurring me into sex i love him but im only 15 n i dont know if im ready yet i want to i just cant get round to having the courage to do it what should i do?
2007-02-11 04:28:38 · 9 answers · asked by katie babey 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
don't do it until you feel comfortable, he probably is not the right guy for you any way, if he has to pressure you.
With the right set of circumstances and the right guy you would gladly give it away,..so your age is dictating,..my suggestion is WAIT, and while waiting dump him.
2007-02-11 04:33:42 · answer #1 · answered by iroc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it, no matter how much pressure he puts on you. You are the one in control of your body and your decisions,don't let someone talk you into something when you know you aren't ready. You are correct that 15 is far to young to experiment with sex, there are many things that could go wrong and you end up pregnant or with a sexually transmitted disease. At the very least, ask your parents about birth control, tell them what you told us. I'm sure they will say to get away from that guy, and you probably should move on, he clearly isn't looking at what is best for you, he's looking to get off,that's it. Good luck, don't do it,be strong.
2007-02-11 12:33:54 · answer #2 · answered by fisherwoman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not worth it. If he is pressuring you, he only wants the sex and not a friend or relationship. Just remember, you're worth more than him having his way with you. You have a whole life ahead of you to make the mature decision of when YOU are ready and when YOU decide you are ready, it's not going to be with someone who pressures you into it.
You're a brave person. Treasure the person you are and skip the boys No male species is worth the feeling of denial that they will inflict on you by pressuring you. Having a b/f is fine and fun, but a pressuring b/f can hit the high road!
Good luck and stand proud that you are not ready! It's just not worth it. Save yourself for when you are ready AND for when the boy RESPECTS you. This one your with now obviously doesn't.
2007-02-11 12:38:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey katie. im 24 . had sex at 14. TOO EARLY. My boyfriend was pressuring me too , and i gave in , two months later it was over. Once you do it , its not like your gonna cuddle for hours and talk about how much you love eachother. Did you watch the o.c when summer and seth did it for the first time? a little like that. it sucks. theres alot of stuff you can to to enjoy your boyfriend without giving up the only thing you OWN. Once your boyfriend is relieved by ejaculation he is satisfied. So if you are ready for oral sex , or even have had it , you can definitly do that until your ready. But trust me , at 15 , your in highschool. if someone finds out at school....FORGET IT. Your reputation is tarnished as well , and other guys wont respect you. Please trust me , and if your close to your mom , or sister , or grama. Talk to them , truste me , my mom wish i did.
2007-02-11 12:36:39 · answer #4 · answered by soph_kate 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. that is no boyfriend right there.
if i were you i would tell him, that if he really cares about you that he would respect you and the fact that you are not ready for sex. Tell him that its nothin agenst him, but its a personal choice that your not ready to make yet.
if he cant deal with it, then hes not worth it.
you should never let a guy pressure u into doing anything that you dont want to do.
even if your just not sure. you shouldnt have sex until your completely positive about your decision.
stick up for yourself girl!
if your not ready, your not ready. its not your fault. so dont feel guilty.
if he cares, he will understand and wait.
2007-02-11 12:48:39 · answer #5 · answered by uninformed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the same exact thing happend to me!! my boyfriend pressured me into sex at 16 and i did it. i regret that more than anything. sex is amazing and feels incredible but think about it.....sex is something meant for sum1 special. can u picture urself marrying this boy? and if he really loved u he would not pressure u into sex and he would respect your decison. believe me, he wont last forever! and also even if u use a condom threres a good chance u could get pregnat. hunny seriously wait. u will know when u meet "the one" and u will kno wen its time to do it. b.c u wont be scared at all
2007-02-11 15:25:16 · answer #6 · answered by Italia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he should respect your wishes if you arent ready to do it he should allow time until you feel you are ready for it... if he is presuring you into having sex and doesnt want to give you the time you need then i would get rid of him because you dont want to be with someone who doesnt respect your feelings
2007-02-11 12:32:03 · answer #7 · answered by Morganna 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I wouldnt do it. If your bf cared at all about you, he would respect ur wishes to wait. Sounds as tho he just wants to have sex and that is it. Sex is something special and needs to be b/n 2 ppl with unconditional love.
2007-02-11 12:32:54 · answer #8 · answered by davids w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. What has he done for you? Wait. You'll be happier latter if you waited now. He ain't worth it trust me. I got knocked up and was a mom when I was 16.
2007-02-11 13:20:44 · answer #9 · answered by Angela T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋