I've not spoken to my close female friend for 2 months as we got to close.I told her that I wanted no contact so that I could get over my feelings for her. She only wanted to be friends.
I've tried to get bck in touch as I've got over her now and I'm interested in another girl.She's been ignoring my attempts to get in touch-I've apologised if I wasn't tactful in the way I said I wanted no contact for awhile
She's ignoring me 'AS WE ARE ON A BREAK' - MEANING?
Also she thinks that I think of us as a couple!
Why would she say this - especially as I'm the one who wanted no contact TO GET OVER HER!!!
Advice
Why she hurting-she wanted to be friends!
2007-02-11 04:15:53 · 10 answers · asked by sircrazydude90 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i am wondering why you needed time out to get over her....... being frined sis all about being open about your feelings isnt it... my guess is that by you confessing to her you had feelings and her only wanting to be friends put quite a strain on your relationship.
shes probably hurting because she lost a friend..... you cut all contact with you and presumably you were close before you did that. She was probably upset that you were upset and more so that your friendship wasnt strong enough at the time to pull you through this.
suddenly you reappear after 2 months of no contact..... with another girl on your arms and want her to be ok about it all......... hmmmm
i dunno...... i guess if i was here i would be upset that you cut all contact in the first place... after all its ok to have feelings for your friends... but its important you stay within the boundaries of friendship... when you leave those boundaries then the frinedship is lost. i suspect you want your friendship to be like it was before..... i doubt this will ever be the case now..... you broke the trust i guess its just one of those things.
good luck with your new g/f
2007-02-11 08:10:04 · answer #1 · answered by ANNA G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you went about it the wrong way. Best to make a clean break, none of this "we need a break crap" If you are interested in another girl, then why are you in touch with the first one? Are you mixed up or what. You no, you can't have your cake and eat it too. There is an old expression. Goes like this SH-T or get off the pot.
2007-02-11 12:30:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was one of life's lessons. Maybe in future you'd be more tactfful. By the way, don't you think that you should have asked her how would she feel, instead of you deciding on the matter and the lifespan of that break?
As for your friendship, it seems over. Maybe you should tell her that you'd still be there for her as a friend but you would stop contacting her as it's clear that you might be irritating her after you did a stupid thing. Good luck!!!
2007-02-11 12:35:29 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a shame. She probably finds it hard to see you since it reminds her of 'what might have been'. It will probably get easier over time, especially after she's found one or two other love interests - be patient.
2007-02-11 13:40:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
definitely, she in love with you, if not she wont feel bad about you having a gf, if she a true friends she wont make any remarks of hating you having another girl.
2007-02-11 12:37:49 · answer #5 · answered by ironlady42 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think wat she though was if u really consider her as a friend u cant ignore her for 2 months/ i mean u can talk to her on light normal issues in period of forgetting her bcoz one remembers somebody most likely on intimate talk or something close to heart so its upto her wat her personality shes forgiving or immature stuff may be i cud have helped tied my best!
2007-02-11 12:25:18 · answer #6 · answered by ritirockz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she confused by the whole senario, give her time.
2007-02-11 12:21:38 · answer #7 · answered by Ms Mat Urity 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but i think it would be pretty hard for you two to be friends again.
2007-02-11 14:49:48 · answer #8 · answered by Emilee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
open mouth , insert foot. You just lost a friend.
2007-02-11 12:22:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Isn't life complicated?
2007-02-11 12:19:56 · answer #10 · answered by lulu 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋