20 and pregnant?

Question

i am a month pregnant. and im only 20 years old. am i too young to have a baby? im trying to figure out how to tell my mother but i dont know how to tell my parents or my boyfriends parents. i talked to my best friend and she said if im not ready then get an abortion. but i dont want to, but im really afraid of my parents throwing me out the house. what should i do?

Answer 1

Tell you from personal experience I too had my first child when I was 20, I was also afraid of telling my mom, however my baby was more important to me than anything my mom could say or do to me. So I figured if she accepted it great, if not, oh well you'll do it on your own. I worked fast food actually all the way through the pregnancy to support my pregnant self, maintaining a car payment rent and utilities. I didn't have a whole lot left, but was able to manage. And if you are dedicated enough to this child you too can do it. My mom actually surprised me and was extremley excited about the baby and has been there for me every step of the way throughout the last 9 years. My daughter will turn 9 in April...good luck! And best wishes!

Answer 2

Your parents may be mad but they will eventually come around - especially when baby is born! My mom went through the same thing, my grandparents didn't even give her a wedding two months after they found out she was pregnant. But after I was born they turned around and we are very close to my grandparents... they have played such a huge role in my life - I wouldn't be here if my mom was worried and decided to get an abortion. I hope that you choose life for your child. Even if you decide you don't want to become a parent, tell your parents you want to place the baby in an adoptive home, you need to take responsibility for it and not make the baby pay for this. I would love to talk with ya! Email me or look me up on yahooIM: stitch604 at yahoo. Remember there are many people who would love to adopt your child if you decide not to parent (including my husband and I). And you can even have an open adoption to see your child grow up. Think about it.

Answer 3

Just tell them, Your pregnant which means your an adult now. You have a lil person inside you that is depending on you. Its an adult situation. Your not too young but it will not be an easy road.

You need to get a job if you dont have one and try to save what you can before the baby coms. So that you can take 6 weeks off before returning to work. And if your still living at home that should be pretty easy to do. Go see a dr. and get good care to have a happy and healthy baby.

Your parents might be mad at first but will help you after they calm down.

Answer 4

I know a woman who had her first child at 15, she was raped. She finished high school. She was able by keeping her grades up to get a really good job, that turned into a career. She eventually married my roommate and they had a couple of kids together. I also know a woman who had a baby at 15 and her kids are both adults and screw ups. However in both cases I do not think age had anything to do with their situations, the decisions they made did.
And there is always adoption. You could go to your local family planning clinic. There are counselors available to help you make whatever decision you decide is best for you. They can help you make informed decisions and then assist you with whatever you choose to do.

Good luck and believe me there are worse things in life then being 20 and pregnant. You could be 12.

Answer 5

You are an adult now and really you should be out on your own at age 20. I had my son at age 21, he was a planned baby and i have done very well with being a mother and a wife. I had no problems in telling anyone i was pregnant. Just tell them.
What do you expect to happen since you are pregnant? Continue to lie with mommy and daddy? Move out with your boyfriend and start your life with him as a family. It is time to grow up and stop relying on your parents.

Answer 6

if you want to keep your baby do so. Grow up and be an adult. You have to stand up to your friends or family if they try and pressure you into an abortion and you don't want one.

Being a young mom will be hard but a child is a joy like no other. You'll need a job and there are places that can help you find a job and a place to stay if your parents kick you out. You are an adult and being someone's mom will force you to act like one.

Answer 7

You are not to young, you will be just fine! I understand you are afraid to tell your mother, but you are an adult, not a child! Abortion is not the answer, that baby is a gift, that some never get the chance to experience. If you have an abortion it will haunt you for the rest of your life.......Good Luck to you ;)

Answer 8

if you really want to keep the babby do so! i mean its betta than wondering what if i did all your life and for that comment you made about being 2 young im 15 and 2 week pregnant! and scard to tell my mum and boyfriend too! for me adoption is out of the question cos i was! i would tell your boyfriend first! then figure out what you wnt to do from there!
thats what im going to do tomorro!
like i said im 15 thats 5 whole years younger than u and im facing up to it even tho me and my 17 year old boyfriend will probally dump me coz he only has skinny girlfriends!

Answer 9

all right you said you do not want abortion, do not get one.
You cannot hide pregnancy without going away someplace and giving the child up.
If do not want an abortion you probably when the time came not be able to hand the baby over.
sit down with whick ever parent you think understands you best and have that heart to heart.
It dosen't sound like you have much choice.

Answer 10

i dont think ur to young im 19 and 38 wks this will be my first my parents were happy when they found out. i think if ur ready to have sex then obviuosly ur ready for the consequences that comes with it. just think there are other teens younger than i am having children.