My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 months. I got him something for x-mas but he didnt get me anything. Should I get him something for V-day? HHHEEEELLLPPPP?!?!?!?!?!?!
2007-02-11 03:46:11 · 13 answers · asked by slow_dancing_in_the_rain 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Valentine's Day
Get over it. Guys think differently than we do...accept that.
Holidays only help stores, not relationships.
There is far too much pressure put on everyone whenever a holiday approaches...is that the only time to show affection? I think not...there are so many other days in the year to be kind and loving to one another.
If for you it has to be on February 14 than just make him something...it won't deplete your wallet so much and forget the wrapping paper...guys don't care really.
Make a valentine card with a nice love poem.
Give him a favourite photo of the 2 of you.
Make him some heart shaped cookies in a tin.
If you constantly expect things from him that isn't a good element in the relationship...wait until there isn't an impending holiday to ask him where he stands as far as gift giving...maybe his family wasn't so gift oriented...express to him that you wouldn't mind the occasional token of his affection to carry around with you.
I say save your money for really important things or for a rainy day because that comes to everyone someday.
Do nice things for him if you'd like to because you want to not because you expect to get something in return.
A nice shoulder massage is always a nice treat.
Just my thoughts on the matter...good luck and try to relax about material things...they are so unimportant and impermanent. Go for the lasting gift of friendship and affection.
Happy V-Day!
2007-02-11 04:12:42 · answer #1 · answered by Gigi 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is a sweet day, and love is not the place to be keeping score. If you care for him, there is nothing wrong with showing that by giving him something special. Maybe at Christmas he thought since you were only dating a few weeks, it would seem like overkill to get you a gift, or maybe he's a little clueless and it didn't even cross his mind. Regardless, if he doesn't give you a Valentine's gift, I would ask him why not? ANYONE on earth should know it's a day for sweethearts, and he hopefully knows something is expected...if he just doesn't give you a gift becasue he's too cheap, that's another story--if he's too stingy to give a small gift, he's to stingy to give his love, and that's no good.
2007-02-11 11:58:51 · answer #2 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, first off guys are not the best sex when it comes to gifts. You need to tell him what you want and where to get it without actually demanding it. Say something like it would be nice to get flowers for Valentines day or maybe some candy. Do not repeat do not get him anything for Valentines day other then a fairly generic card saying happy valentines day. Men feel creepy about Valentines day. Sorry we do.
2007-02-11 11:57:43 · answer #3 · answered by redhotboxsoxfan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two hadn't dated for very long when Christmas came along and although maybe you expected him to get you something, maybe he didn't think the time was right. The best way to make sure it doesn't happen again is to talk to him about it.
If you think it might be awkward, bring it up casually. Tell him you're having a hard time deciding on what to get you for valentine's and ask him for suggestions.
This way he knows that you're getting something and if he understands that it's expected of him to get you something too.
2007-02-11 11:59:32 · answer #4 · answered by Sydney Slocum 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have only been together for 3 months, then that means at xmas, he was only 1 month into the relationship.
Sheesh...leave a man's wallet alone...give for the sake of giving, not to get back. If that's the case, then you go ahead and buy what you like, he can buy what he likes...there you go---Happy Valentine's day!
2007-02-11 11:56:17 · answer #5 · answered by ShaMayMay 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think the guy always will accept things, my gf/fiance did the samething to me when we first dated but i was just ignorant, and did think to buy her anything buy somthing for him and if he doesnt get you anything then give it to him anyways , he will get the point, just dont get upset or he will think that is all you want him to do, i mean my fiance did it and she got a tanzonite braclet last christmas, and a diamond ring and diand necklace and pearls this year i mean i was like DUHHH an i got the point so i spoil her as much as possible. you may ask WHY?!?! because when i had nothing to give her but me she was happy so i gave her my all and then some because she diservse it!!
2007-02-11 11:52:45 · answer #6 · answered by zach w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he fails to remember the day of Love, then I would say he thinks of himself and not you. He has already demonstrated such tendancies when he did'nt think of you on Christmas! (He should be beaten and rolled down a clif for that alone!) Get him a card, and nothing more. If he forgets you again, get a new boyfirend. This one does'nt have room for you in his heart.
2007-02-11 11:57:06 · answer #7 · answered by spikemode 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you really love him and if you think his love is more important than his money, then why worry bout if he gets you anything.All that matters is that you love him and you know that he loves you.But if you want to get him something then go ahead and if he doesn't get you anything, don't sweat it becuz ya'll relationship is based on "love", NOT "money." Rite?
2007-02-11 12:07:40 · answer #8 · answered by MRz.LYLES 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes mabyee even drop hints around before V-day so he will get the message!
2007-02-11 11:51:10 · answer #9 · answered by Courtney B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you give him a gift and then the boy does not? oh my baby. In short, the guy is not inlove with you but just a friend.
2007-02-11 11:54:55 · answer #10 · answered by Curious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋