What should I do about horrible people who call a 10 year old girl "baby killer" because she had an abortion?

Question

Is it ok for me to wish bad things would happen to those people?

My friend went through a horrible experience. People who call her that don't have any compassion. They have no f**king right ot call her that. I wish they could experience what she had to go through. That's what it would take to change their minds.

She had consentual sex with a boy not much older than her. She was not raped. They were just experimenting. They didn't know how babies are made, because no one ever told them. The horrible experience was what came after that.

Answer 1

If someone says something bad about the girl, say just what you said in your question. Say, 'I'm sure if you knew what a horrible experience she went through, you wouldn't say such a mean thing about such a young girl.' Then walk away and let them think about it.

Answer 2

No, it is not OK to wish bad things on the people. Two wrongs never make a right. The truly sad thing is that a 10 year old was having sex in the first place. It is sad that she knew the mechanics of sex and not the outcome. It is sad that a child would consider sex something to experiment with. The fact is that the adults in her life were negligent in not educating her. She did kill a baby, that is what abortion is. Does she deserve to be shamed for it, no. We can only hope that people will open their eyes and see the direction we are going in and change the way we look at sex as not a recreation but a loving act of procreation. Sex should never have an outcome that causes hate or anger as it should be an act of fully committed love.

Answer 3

What in the hell is a 10 year old girl doing being pregnant? Where were her parents when this was going on? Where were the boy's parents when this was going on? Sick. Babies having babies. How did it get out that she had an abortion anyway? Who told? Did she tell? None of this makes any sense. I think instead of feeling sorry for this girl, you should stay away from her. Obviously, she thinks it's ok to have sex at 10. Maybe you do too? I don't know. I do know that this whole situation is f!@#$% up and children and family services need to be involved if this story is true. Obviously, these children are not being supervised properly and that is a form of neglect. TOOTLES!!!

Answer 4

WHAT THE HELL WAS SHE DOING HAVING SEX AT 10???
if the guy was much older than her and says he didn't know how babies are made sounds like a load of BS. If my daughter was 10 and got pregnant i would make her have an abortion. where were her parents? how would she even be in a postion to have sex at 10 yrs old. And no its not ok for people to call her a baby killer nor is it ok for you to wish bad things upon those people. At her age the right decision was made.

Answer 5

Explain them kindly that it's unlikely that a 10 year old could carry a pregnancy to full term. And if she did, the consequences for her health AND the baby's would be huge.
Besides, however that pregnancy happened, sex with a 10 year old IS ALWAS RAPE. Because she can't consent even if she did consent. The result of her being raped can't be her being physically disabled by pregnancy and delivery and mentally harmed because of the whole situation.
Have them picture THEMSELVES when they were 10 and trying to experience and understand pregnancy.
Abortion is, in this case, the lesser evil. Abortion is not an easy thing, but there's times when harm must be done in order to preserve people from higher harm. If they tell you that the baby will die, tell them that if the mother dies, the baby does as well.

Finally, there's some people you can't argue with. They won't listen. They are fundamentalist and unable to put themselves into other people's views. The better thing is trying to ignore them and keep on working for a better society when 10 years old are not pregnant.

Answer 6

Why do people even know this child had an abortion? This was a private medical decision.

By the way, she did *not* have consensual sex at age 10. To have consensual sex, you have to be able to make an informed decision. It is not possible for a 10 year-old to fully understand the physical, emotional, and mental ramifications of having sex.

But to answer those who would condemn a child for having undergone an abortion: A 10 year-old body is not prepared to give birth safely; it is very high risk to the child - the child being the mother.

Answer 7

this is in answer to your additional details. NOTHING and I mean nothing would make these types of people change their mind. They are not worth the bother or the strife they cause. I can only imagine what a 10 yr old girl went through to become pregnant, and I wouldn't wish that alone on anyone. People who say that she is a baby killer claim to be pro life, but what they really are is pro baby, most could give **** what happens to the woman or CHILD in this case who had an abortion. It's only whats convenient for them, ignore them as best you can, and avoid them as much as possible. That little girl needs compassion, understanding and professional help at this time, not idiot religious zealots shouting stupid nonsense at her.

EDIT: I think what alot of the, "she got what she was looking for" people and even the asker is overlooking here, is that a 10 yr old girl is NOT emotionally able to consent to having sex. Grow up people and start thinking with your head and NOT your bible.

Answer 8

although this is sad all the way around< the girl being pregnant, then having an abortion> people don't need to judge her. i belive it would be very dangerous for her health and the baby's health if she carried it to term. a ten yr old's body is not prepared for such a trauma and more than likely wither would have miscarried, or had some major complications in birth, causing her and the baby harm, and maybe even death. granted i believe a ten yr old should NOT be having sex, but who's fault is that? i think it is the parents fault, how could the child be with someone long enough to have sex and the parents not know? hmmmm? i do not judge the ten yr old. but i hope that the parents, the ten yr old, and the boy who had sex with her are all seeing what has become and hopefully learned a valeuable lesson here

Answer 9

You can't do anything. Face the facts. She killed a baby. This is now a child that will never get to experience life. All of these great experiences were taken away from a baby just because the mother was dumb or immature enough to "fool around" with some guy at the age of ten. Abortion is wrong, no matter what age. Sex is wrong if you're under 18. Pfff- Thanks for killing a baby, little girl.

Answer 10

She was 10 and had an abortion? OK first of all get her some help, and if people call her that go tell someone because that's harassment. So yea.