My girlfriend still cares what her ex-boyfriend thinks about her, he was a "bad boy" and hurt her terribly. She always fell into that "bad boy " trap of thinking she could change them. I am the first "good guy" she has ever had. She never even got one rose until me. So my question is. Does the fact that she cares what this guy thinks of her mean that she still has feelings for her? Or does it just mean that she doesn't want people to dislike her? Any comments please...!!!...
2007-02-11 03:36:54 · 14 answers · asked by fionnlagh20 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
What it means is that she needs closure with her last boyfriend...
The trouble with "bad boy", one of many I might add, is the fact that you can never have closure when it comes to breaking up with them. They may dump you and leave you hanging, or if it was you that dumped them, they will always make you feel that it was their idea. Either case scenarios, a girl feels bad about it and that it's not quite over, which brings us back to closure.
You asked for any comment and this is mine, unfortunately I really have no answers or advice as how to help her end it. My advice to you though, would be to let things pass, don't take it personally if she cares what the other guy thinks. Give it time...
2007-02-11 03:53:01 · answer #1 · answered by Blue 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the girl. Most girls find acceptance through people not being mad or disliking them.
If it was her first "love" then she will be sort of ****** up in the head for a while. You didn't mention your age. Judging by your writing style, you are probably pretty young. Age may play a roll in it. We are all a tad obsessive at that age.
Also remember relationships are habits, some are easier to break than others. You can't force her to break the feeling cycle, but what you can do is shower her with good love instead of bad, obsessive, unhealthy love. She will eventually realize what she has/had...either while you are together or after you break up.
2007-02-11 11:41:47 · answer #2 · answered by Thera 9 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She may care about what he thinks because she was hanging with cool people back then.I say don't worry too much about it but make sure you give her lots of compliments sounds like she needs them.She must feel down about herself in some way try to find out what that is and help her.You should also sit and have a talk to her about what she wants before you go and get yourself hurt.If she does like the bad boy type then your not for her you sound too nice.Don't be all over her all the time and make sure you give her some space to see what she really wants.
2007-02-11 11:45:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you love someone you always "care" about them. You may have realized this isn't the person for you, but that doesn't mean you don't want them to be happy.
My last bf cheated on me. He was my best friend up until that point, and I'll always care about him. I could even be friends with him again, after some time and distance has toned down the hurt. I'll always care about him and hope the best for him. That doesn't mean I want him back in my life.
2007-02-11 11:41:34 · answer #4 · answered by Kaia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me that she still moving on. You have to let her know how you feel, is part of a open communication in a relationship. Also if she stills in love with a loser then she has to do the math because a loser could only make you happy for five minutes and make you suffer for hours.
2007-02-11 11:42:10 · answer #5 · answered by LIZA 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For me I just don't like it when people dislike me. I can act like I don't care what people think of me but deep down it either pisses me off or hurts. If all she does is worries about what he thinks of her then I wouldn't assume she still has feelings for him.
2007-02-11 11:42:36 · answer #6 · answered by Scully 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should really ask to explain that to you...Tell her you are feeling like second best and that isnt good enough as you want to be No. 1....(If not No.1 to her, then be that to someone else) ..Everyone should be...the one...in anothers life....good luck no matter what happens....
2007-02-11 11:44:01 · answer #7 · answered by ozzy chik... 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just ask Alexis: My answer to your question put as you described.
From what you say, and if what you say is 100% accurate. My answer to you is a great big, YES!
2007-02-11 11:43:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
by the sonds of it it seems she still has feelings for him she probably thinks one day this guy will change but what you have got to do is convince her your who she is with now she shouldnt be thinking about what he thinks she should be thinking about youi think you should talk to her see how things work then good luck
2007-02-11 11:42:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
She still has feelings for him! Ask yourself, if the bad boy were to come back and ask her to dump you for him, would she do it?
2007-02-11 11:53:11 · answer #10 · answered by Red Wolf Queen 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋