I am a Filipino and almost always away from home because I worked abroad. She once said that what's wrong with having a boyfriend at her age? She also said that why wait until the age of 18, and she added that what is the difference between 14 and 18?
2007-02-11 03:35:24 · 23 answers · asked by Dadirac 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sixteen would be a good age but just for going to the movies, dances, things like that. Make it clear to her that she's NOT to sleep around.
If you're away from home, who is supervising your child? You need to have a good talk with her caretaker to make sure the kid doesn't get into trouble.
2007-02-11 03:51:09 · answer #1 · answered by Red Wolf Queen 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The difference between 14 and 18??? Oh man, a freaking continent. Legally you have more responsibilities. You are more mature. You have a High School Diploma. You are responsible for your actions and considered an adult in all 50 states.
There is a reason why 14 year olds can't drive and shouldn't vote. Think about it, if they voted....we would all be on a highway to hell.
Say no. I would say no. Tell her when she can drive herself to the date, then she can have a boyfriend. That way, you can install a tracking device on the car for extra piece of mind and you can have more control as to what goes on without actually shaperoning. The meer fact you are working all the time should send up a red flag too, just for the fact that she may take advantage of that.
Granted, kids never listen, but if you set this as a boundary and keep to terms, you will be much happier.
Nothing good comes of dating when you are fourteen. When I was fourteen, I knew this girl who was a near slut about it. She kissed all sorts of boys and did all sorts of things. Her parents had no idea. Needless to say, she is normal and all that jazz...but only in comparison to MTV spring break.
I personally didn't date until I was 17 for the simple fact that guys didn't seem to be mature enough until then. My parents said I could date at 16 and I fought it. I wanted to make out in the closet and all that stuff, don't get me wrong I had my first kiss at 13 and stuff like that....but really nothing good happens at 14. Too young, too immature. Her even asking "whats the difference between 14 and 18" is rediculos.
2007-02-11 03:48:10 · answer #2 · answered by Thera 9 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
At 14 most young ladies are experimenting in the field of boys and learning what they are. She is to young to be in a serious relationship and there is a big difference from 14 to 18. Just think back to when you were that age, I know my views were allot different from just a mere 4 year spread. It is a time of learning and growing into who we are. If a young man HER age would like to meet at the school dance or go for a Movie I do not see anything wrong with that but she really is too young to be doing any heavy dating so to speak. I do not think you will be able to keep the reins on her till she is 18 but I would hold tuff a little while longer. She will be glad you did someday.
2007-02-11 03:50:29 · answer #3 · answered by mellow 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I wasn't allowed to date until I was 16. I thought my parents hated me, but I got over it when I grew up. If you don't want her to date, that's your call. As amother, you have the right to lay down rules about that kind of thing. If she doesn't like it, too bad. It's not like any of the boys she would date in high school are going to stick around after she graduates.
If I had a 14 year old daughter, I would not let her date. Why? Because I wouldn't trust the 14 year old boys she'd be going out with. The difference between 14 and 18 is that 18 year olds are much more mature and more emotionally ready to handle the ups and downs that a romantic relationship brings. A 14 year old doesn't need to be spending her time crying about boys.
2007-02-11 03:44:10 · answer #4 · answered by Venin_Noir 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The difference between 14 and 18 is four years and alot of growing up. At 14, you want to be popular and you'll do anything to keep someone. At 18, hopefully, you've seen that some people aren't worth keeping.
Tell her she's just going to have to feel like you're horrible and don't love her. My daughter could go out with friends (as a group) at 14 with adult supervision, but wasn't allowed to date until she was 16...and we'd had some long serious talks about boys and what boys want. She also had a curfew, couldn't date on week nights, and I had to know where they were going because I reserved the right to check up on her.
2007-02-11 03:46:30 · answer #5 · answered by Kaia 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sorry -- no co-ed sleepovers. even however: I did enable a co-ed sleepover for a promenade final year -- 4 couples, 4 ladies and four adult adult males. yet I knew them o.k. -- and additionally knew that there wasn't going to be lots napping, on the grounds that they have been going to be watching video clips and enjoying video games all nighttime. the ladies collapsed around 3 AM and slept in my daughter's room upstairs. the adult adult males performed video games till 6 AM and then flaked out on the family members room floor. I woke them at 10 for breakfast, and all and sundry went domicile. I favored to have them putting out in my domicile after the promenade, the place i could keep an eye fixed on issues. i became up all nighttime, and caught up on sleep the subsequent afternoon! It became a undeniable social amassing, however. merely napping over so as that they could stay wide awake all nighttime because of the fact they are bored isn't a "specific social amassing". If she's mad -- hard cookies. feels like she needs to take heed to "no" somewhat greater in many situations! Frankly, my daughter is usual with of greater effective than to inquire from me something like this -- we are VERY close, yet she is usual with of the place the line is.
2016-10-01 23:17:59 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The more you fight it, the more she will get a boy friend just to spite you. The difference between 14 and 18 is maturity. If she wants to go out and have a boy friend get a chaperon to go with them.
2007-02-14 20:34:21 · answer #7 · answered by Peppermint Patti 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well truely as her parent only you can make this discision. how mature is she first of all. will she keep in mind every thing you've taught her. will she value herself enough to at least wait. these are the kind of Q you should ask yourself. personally i would tell you that she is too young. on the other hand though, if you deny her, a being a kid once upon a time yourself, you know she could sneak behind your back. and sneaking never got us ne whr as children. some times our parents let us win some and let us loose some. if she has your blessing then things could go more smoothly and she may keep in mind evrythg she was taught. make she you inforce absenance this is for her benefit and yours...happy parenting
2007-02-11 03:45:51 · answer #8 · answered by Allahu a3lam 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no she don't need no bf right now tell her get into her school work bf comes later , and you tell her the difference between 14 and 18 is that when you are 18 you are adult and when you are 14 you are still a child so tell her take her time no need to rush
2007-02-11 03:42:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Answer her questions. Give her some age appropriate information. Just because you work abroad, doesn't mean you get out of good parenting.
2007-02-11 03:39:47 · answer #10 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋