scared of sex ? !?

Question

i am scared of having sex
1) getting pregnant
2) being first time it will hurt
im scared of having sex i know there is safety but it doesnt always work ! and it will really hurt! since im a virgin?
Also does after your first time all the other times hurt atfter to ?? or just the first time?

Answer 1

Everyone's apprehensive the first time..

It'll be better and easier if you're with someone u really like, not some guy who is pressuring u or someone u choose cos all your pals are doing it.

And there's no rush.. if you're underage just wait.. thats why there are age of consent laws, to give people a chance to mature and make smarter decisions.

Take care

Answer 2

random question, but how old are you?

cause age plays a factor.

But the point is, theres absolutely nothing wrong with being afraid of sex. Theres nothing wrong with still being a virgin while friends arent or anything like that. Yes, sometimes u may feel left out but its a personal choice of everyone. and if your not completely comfortable with the idea of sex or all the risks invovled with it. then you shouldnt have sex. and thats ok.

as for your other questions. yes for more people it doesnt hurt the first time. some more then others. For me it hurt, more then i expected but after a while it was gone. as long as u dont focus on it and are relaxed youll be fine. because being stressed or freaking out will just make it worse.

Some people say the first couple of times it hurt, but usually not as much as the first time. each time you have sex it will become more comfortable and enjoyable for you. For me, the second time did not hurt at all.

it all depends on the person.

Answer 3

Your first time will hurt but it's not a horrible pain. It's like when you get bad cramps when you get your period. You'll also bleed when you have sex for the first time so don't freak out when you see some blood. After a few times, it will stop hurting. It also helps if you have your first sexual experience with someone you like instead of just sleeping with some boy because he pressured you.
In order to avoid pregnancy, you have several options: you can take birth control pills, use condoms, or use both. You need to talk to you parents and ask them to take you a gynecologist to get birth control pills.

Answer 4

if you are afraid then that's a sign of you not ready yet. But if you are positive that you are ready to have sex, then yeah, the first time hurts but not that bad. After that, sex is usually quite comfortable and relaxing. Make sure that your partner wears a condom everytime you have sex and that he has it on porperly that way you are less likely to get an STD or pregnant.

Answer 5

You have every reason to be scared. For a lot of women, sex isn't always great...sometimes it hurts (you have to be really careful to be completely "warmed up" before doing it, there is always a high risk of pregnancy, a high risk of STDs (80% of women end up with HPV), and yes, it will really hurt your first few times.

I suggest that you wait until you are in a completely committed relationship, and always make sure that you use condoms, and make sure he gets tested for all the STDs (even if he claims he is clean).

Answer 6

Wait till it's with some you truly love, not your first or second
boyfriend, someone you truly love. If he's gentle and easy,
the emotions will take over and it won't hurt so bad. But you're
not even near ready. Sex is highly over-reted most of the time.

Answer 7

u r so beautiful
u r a jewel~ y would u even think to give ur body away freely like that ~ guys say if u luv me then do it ~ ya right, saying that shows how much respect they have 4 u... none!!

if i were in ur postion i would b scared a little 2 ~ because i would b my 1st ~ the thing is, if you save urself 4 the man that God made 4 u.... then u can tell him "I waited 4 u"

i want 2 b able 2 say that on my wedding day ~ idk about u but that is the sweetest thing u could probably say 2 the 1 u marry other than "i ♥ u"

Answer 8

I am only 15 and the thought if having sex grosses me out. I have the same fears as you...and it is just so gross! Lol that is just my opinion right now though, it may change when I get older.

Answer 9

how old are you? are if you are under 16 why are you asking you should be scared

but if you are older there is nothing to worry about, the first will be weird because you are not used to it

Answer 10

Easy answer. Than don't have sex. Wait till you are older and are ready.