im moveing 126 miles to be with someone that i have been with on and off with for a year my mates r behind me but my family are not.
2007-02-11 03:33:31 · 10 answers · asked by claire f 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
For the first person who helpfully replied in a sarcastic manner... whilst 126 miles in the US may seem like "just around the corner" it's considered slightly different here in the UK...
I think you need to think about what it is that YOU actually want.
Your family's problem is probably mainly that they don't want you to go because it means that you are not going to be near them. This is a natural response (some friends of mine are in similar situations with similar reactions from their families).
It's good that your friends are behind you as if they thought you were making a big mistake then I'm sure they'd be honest with you.
If you really think it's going to work and it will make you happy there is no reason not to do it - a change in your life can make the world of difference.
Plus remember - if things don't work out it's not the end of the world! Nobody will say "I told you so" or berate you for wanting something new out of your life. You can always move back and restart your life back home.
Go for it. :o)
2007-02-11 04:10:21 · answer #1 · answered by retroman68 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you believe that it is what you want, then go for it. If he is the one for you, then your family should not try to change your mind. Some of my family were against my boyfriend, who became my fiance and then my husband - and we are about to celebrate our 26th wedding anniversary and don't regret a thing. When we married, we moved away about the same distance as you - just far enough away to be able to visit, but not close enough to run back home if there was a problem. This has made our marriage more strong and we have always been able to trust each other, even if we have been apart through working away which has been a necessity in the past. I wish you all the very best - if it is to be, you will work it out together.
2007-02-11 03:42:43 · answer #2 · answered by Beanbag 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I moved 200miles to be with my partner, it was hard at 1st. I missed family, friends, my city, my old home, job, everything in fact. It takes 4hours to drive so not something you can do all the time. Because it had been long distance suddenly we were in each others faces all the time and it was a shock to the system and rocky at 1st.
I have lived here for several years now and I have got used to it. I still miss "home" but its bearable. We have got a home here are really happy and had a baby last year.
I would say what have you got to lose? If it doesn't work out you can always move back but just be aware that it is hard to leave everything behind.
Good luck with what ever you decide x
2007-02-11 03:45:25 · answer #3 · answered by lovelylittlemoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get gone! 126 miles isnt the other side of the world, tell your family you thank them for their concern but its something you have to do and if it ends up as a mistake then you will learn by it, but itcould be the best move you have ever made! good luck
2007-02-11 03:44:16 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Honesty ♥.•´ `*.¸ ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think he is the right person for you, then you can go on. But if your family is not behind you that does not mean you have to break all contact with them, you continue to call them or meet them in your free time. If your family find you happy with the person you wanted, they also will be very happy and proud of you that you have chosen the right guy and will soon be with you.
2007-02-11 03:53:05 · answer #5 · answered by sheil9 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-17 14:08:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
126 miles isn't that far, just assure your family that you'll come to visit and that they're welcome to visit you. If you love each other, then by all means go for it.
2007-02-11 03:53:25 · answer #7 · answered by pookieb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh, your family is not behind you on this? Don't do it. If you do, you'd make sure someone has your back if it don't work out.
2007-02-11 03:38:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow...all of 126 miles...that sure is far...
2007-02-11 03:37:04 · answer #9 · answered by IGH3Rat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not far at all.... don't even worry about it.
2007-02-11 03:41:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋