When I was pregnant with my daughter, I was really big. Turns out I had alot of extra amniotic fluid. I dealt with questions like "You're HOW far along? God, how many are in there?" and "How much weight have you gained? You're HUGE!" One person even told me I was fat! I know I shouldn't have let it bother me but it really hurt my feelings! I just smiled politely and answered the questions. Now I am pregant again and the same questions have started again and it really bothers me. How should I deal with the rude comments people make?
2007-02-11 03:17:41 · 13 answers · asked by sweet_and_fabulous_female 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I had polyhydramnios with my first, too. I got so cranky toward the end that when people made comments about my size or asked those questions I'd say, "What do you mean? I'm not pregnant." I also went so far as to return-question an obese woman--when she told me I was HUGE and asked if I was having twins, I said, "No, are you having triplets?"
Most people learned not to speak to me.
Just take it in stride and bask in the glory of fitting back into your skinny pants at the end--even if they're not as skinny as before. People will still tell you you look fabulous. :)
2007-02-11 03:26:31 · answer #1 · answered by pattypuff76 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think in most cases people aren't trying to be rude, pregnancy is just exciting and for some reason they seem to think it's not only completely appropriate, but actually a compliment to tell a girl "oh my, you're getting HUGE" or "you must have gained so much weight! how much do you weigh now" or "your gonna pop any day now", I even had someone tell me " wow, your really big, do you even know how much weight you've gained at this point? or can you not see the scale over you belly anymore?" that made me feel like a million bucks. I tryed not to be rude even though it does hurt your feelings sometimes, and we're already so hormonal and sensitive. Just realize they aren't trying to be mean, and smile and nod and leave. Although towards the end I did start telling people I wasn't pregnant.
2007-02-11 13:15:12 · answer #2 · answered by boo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't really stop the comments but what you can do is change your reactions to them. You know that it is the amniotic fluid. Of course, you are getting big, there is a baby inside of you. When you start to feel bad, look at your daughter and ask yourself, is it worth it. I hope your answer is yes. If it is close people to you making the rude comments explain to them how you feel. Or with the other peeps, you could totally come up with a way to put a guilt trip on them. I hope my advice helps.
2007-02-11 11:36:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just make a joke with them if they say your looking big say well didnt you know I was having an elephant!!! Or something along those lines, people seem to think they have a right when your pregnant to say whatever they feel about your size and it really does hurt I got the same having my twins. Just give as good as you get and let there comments go right over your head. Goodluck with the pregnancy hope everything goes well
2007-02-11 11:22:33 · answer #4 · answered by mumoffour 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have a right to accept or return any gifts, kindness, criticism or unkindness that does not fit you! :D
I like Natalie's response.. Sweet.. I had the same thing when I was pregnant. I was very sensitive to the opinions of others too, for my 5 pregnancies, I have 2 living kids, but for all pregnancies, I showed very fast and looked very big-- even before I was ready to tell anyone I was pregnant. Even before I was open to the inquiries or ready for the "rudeness". Most don't even realize they are hurtful.
Miracles take time, energy and yep a few pounds of water weight to produce. My answer to anyone wishing to comment would be to remind them of that fact, and that you plan on giving your best love and attention to what is working in your life, and this baby happens to be one of the treasures.
2007-02-11 11:31:24 · answer #5 · answered by Dawn M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just smile at thier ignorance and be safe in the knowledge that you are better than they are!
Of course it hurts your feelings, but you just have to let it slide right off your back and remember that you are growing beautiful new person...there's nothing better for bringing a smile to your face when you are feeling a little insulted :)
Congratulations on your pregnancy!
2007-02-11 11:26:09 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like the type of person that wouldn't be rude if you had to be so you could just tell them that it is normal and then quickly change the subject. Be ready.
2007-02-11 11:29:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some jerk at work I didnt like did that to me daily. So when the, "How much weight have you gained?" question came up, I just said...."I was going to ask you the same thing. She was shocked, Serves her right.
2007-02-11 11:22:13 · answer #8 · answered by natalie rose 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I would smile and politely tell them that it is a sensitive subject. Don't let people offend you. Most people if they know that they are offending you will stop.
2007-02-11 11:22:40 · answer #9 · answered by pretty_as_me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would be like get away from me i dont want to answer any questions and people did me da same way when i wuz pregnant with my daughter and now im pregnant again and its da same way
2007-02-11 11:42:28 · answer #10 · answered by ~L3_L3~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋