Is it proper to for a mom in-law to be to tell the husband to be that she doesn't like his ring. She found out the her daughter does not like the ring. The daughter told her that she does not like the ring, it is not the one that she would have picked out, but he thought that the ring was nice and chose it, he picked it out alone. the daughter would have never told him.
The daughter lives with her birth mom. I am the adopted mother. Although the b-mother tells everyone that it is the daughters choice what people in the wedding should wear from head to toe, I haven't said one word. The b-mom has not had any role in the upbringing of the daughter. However, when the daughter became of age she moved in with the b-mom, they have known of each other since birth, and has had contact the whole time. on one hand the birth mother tells everyone it is the daughters choice of what to do for the wedding, but everytime the daughter makes a choice the b-mom tells her that she needs to compromize
2007-02-11 03:17:22 · 8 answers · asked by bluejay_24_2002@yahoo.com 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Of course it is in poor form. It was more than a nice thought, it is a symbol of the love the guy has for the woman he wants to be with forever. You shouldn't sit back and not say anything, this is your daughter, too. If you continue to be silent, you will burst with a resentful tearful outrage at the worst moment. Just take your baby by the hands and tell her how you feel. You don't have to mention any names, just tell her how you feel in general. Speak up, Mom. This is a special time for YOU, too. Peace and congrats on your daughter's nuptials.
2007-02-11 03:29:20 · answer #1 · answered by Sleek 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that her bio-mom needs to step back and keep her nose out of the whole thing. Your daughter is going to have to deal with her soon to Be's hurt feelings over the ring and he may think that she is materialistic. Not a good way to start a marriage or a life together. Her bio-mom could have a disastrous effect her daughters relationship not only with her but her fiances as well. No offense but your daughter should have said something to her fiance about the ring instead of saying something to her bio-mom. I feel bad for you and her fiance, what a mess to have to deal with. Good Luck
2007-02-11 11:28:59 · answer #2 · answered by truckerman96 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is that consumed over the engagement ring then the marriage probably is not going to work out anyway and the less said the better . she is acting like a spoiled little girl and it will end in no good . Dont worry about it . good luck to you .
2007-02-11 11:51:09 · answer #3 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's proper to hurt the guy's feelings like that. Is there anyone else that can talk to the b-mom and straighten her out?
2007-02-11 11:21:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice to the guy is not to get married into this family. There seems to be alot of issues in play here and to be forced to partake in them ( when your married, you have to) is a tremendous stresser.
2007-02-11 11:26:56 · answer #5 · answered by acedelux 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if she's that superficial and is that worried about something like that the marriage won't work anyway so it really doesn't matter what you tell him.
2007-02-11 11:22:03 · answer #6 · answered by BAN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bride-to-be needs to explain to anyone giving advice that it is her wedding.
2007-02-11 11:21:53 · answer #7 · answered by IGH3Rat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she should butt out and does she know, since she wants to stick her nose in everything that it is customary that she pays for the wedding
2007-02-11 11:29:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋