i need help??????

Question

hi it was my 15th birthday acouple of weeks ago and my bfs 17th on the same night!me, him and a couple of mates went out and got really drunk, and by the end of the night i lost my virginity, and yesterday i found out im pregnant and dont no what to do and im too scard to tel my parents cos ill be in heaps of trouble, please help me?

also my boyfriend dosent no eather and hell kill me when he fings out cos im surposed to be on birth controll pills!

also also adoption im not shore id consider cos i was adopted and i hate my real mum 4 it but like my real dad! my mum gave me up because i rewened her plans! but rigght after she had me she had my half sister korina and she kept her!

Answer 1

What you can do is find a local place like, HOPE pregnancy center and they will help you. You eventually need to tell your parents, but you also need to understand you have a baby inside of you. Do not think of killing it. You will regret it and have to live with knowing you murdered your baby for the rest of your life. But I'm just an answerer on Yahoo, I can't make the decisioin for you, I can only give you advice. If it was me, I'd tell my b/f and then together tell the parents. Then you have to decide if you want to keep the baby. What would be the best for the baby. Can you provide a future for the child and take care of the baby. Do you have the means of doing this when you yourself are a child. I would highly reccommend Open Adoption. You can still have contact with your baby with an open adoption. I have seen this and the baby is better off with adoptive parents who are financially and mentally ready for a chld. There are many couples out there that cannot have children and are waiting for one. I hope my advice helps.

Answer 2

First of all, let's look at the facts in a calm manner. You are 15 years old and you are about to become a mother. Your boyfriend, the father, is a mere 17 years old. This means that neither of you are ready to be parents, but parents you will be nonetheless. Because of that, you will have to face up to the responsibility of the adult act that got you to this place. The first responsible act is to talk to your parents. If it were me, I'd have his parents and my parents in the room with both of us and break the news. You need to get advice and soon, and for your health and the health of your unborn baby, you need medical care. Your decision on whether or not to keep the baby or place it up for adoption can be made a little bit down the road, so don't think about that yet, for now, find a responsible adult you trust to confide in. You can't be too far along if you just got pregnant 2 weeks ago. I always felt that if my son found out he was to be a father as a teenager, I would be highly supportive and love that child as my grandchild no matter what. Give your parents that chance, they may surprise you. I wish you the best, and the same to your boyfriend and the soon-to-be grandparents.

Answer 3

Heaps of trouble, yes, but your parents will also help you, after they get over the shock, with some necessary decisions. First, before you tell them, check the internet or the phone book for a reliable adoption agency in your community. Then, when everyone has calmed down, you and your parents call the agency together. Their counselors can help you, even if you decide that placing the baby with an adoptive family isn't the right thing for you. But it probably is. You will be able to go on with your promising life without being a parent too early. The child will have a home with parents who really want to raise a child. Things will work out, but you will need to go through some trying times. My child, by the way, was born to a 15-year-old birth mother and an 18-year-old birth father six years ago. She also got pregnant around the time she turned 15 (I don't know if it was her birthday). Stay calm, cry or yell if you need to, trust your parents to help, let them cry or yell too, and good luck to all of you.

Answer 4

My advise is to get it over quickly. Tell your parents asap. Waiting will only make it harder. It's like pulling off a bandaid it hurts less when done quickly. Your parents will be diappointed but that will pass and they will be able to help you. Also please know that no one, not even your parents can legally force you into abortion or adoption. Also if you live in the US they cannot legally kick you out (most parents wouldn't any way). If you need some support or have any questions don't hesitate to e-mail me :) Just click on my pic.

Answer 5

I think in order to make a proper decision about what to do, one that's right in the long term, you need to tell your parents. If you're too scared to approach them directly, perhaps there's someone else who could help you - a school nurse, or a friend's parent? Someone you trust and feel more comfortable approaching. I know it's really scary having to tell them, but really, what you're saying when you say 'I can't tell my parents' is 'I can't face up to the situation I'm in, I don't want it to be real'. The thing is, though, that you need to face up to it in order to deal with it.

Good luck, and best wishes.

Answer 6

your more worried about getting in trouble?? what about the future of this living thing inside of you?? I would seriously tell your parents, right now they are the best thing that could ever happen to you. Yes, they'll be mad but that's all part of the game. Please next time you have sex wrap it up cause your more worried about having sex and having the best time of your life right now, what happens if you contracted HIV or any type of STD, you'd be infected for life. you have no idea where that boy has been. Good luck.

Answer 7

You need to tell your parents right away because they will find out sooner or later. Does your boyfriend know yet that your pregnant? Good luck and I hope everything works out!

Answer 8

It may be that your parents shout at first but you really need to talk to them and get some support the longer you hide it the harder it will be to tell them, I would just tell them and get that part over with. Goodluck hope everything goes ok

Answer 9

oh dear. you'll have to tell your parents. pick the one that would be the most understanding, wait till they're in a good mood, then gently break the news. they might be upset at first... but they will help you get the medical attention you and your baby need. they will be thankful you came to them for help. i know if this ever happens to my kids, i would want to be one of the first to know. and i wouldn't be happy, but I'm a mom... I'm here to love and support my kids--bottom line! good luck honey.

Answer 10

definitely tell your parents. you will need their help. hopefully they are good enough parents to realize that. just remember that when they are mad at you its not because they hate you its because they know now what your going to have to go through for the rest of your life. and it probably breaks their hearts to know that there little girl has to go thru that already. the actual baby will be the wonderful part. its the crap you will have to go thru with the father if you two are not going to stay together. also what the child will have to go thru with no father around. My prayers are with you.