Confused Teen. =(?

Question

Well, basically i'm 16 This year. And where i'm from, it's not normal to have sex at all, underage ones i mean. But so far, i've already done it 4 times with 2 girls. and two guys. respectively. Firstly, i don't even know whether doing it was right or wrong. And i'm leaning towards the notion i really like guys better than girls.

So anyway, I tried being gay, and this guy i liked, which happened to be my best friend. he crushed my heart into little shards and threw them on the floor. Cause he was mad that the secret got out and he was taunted by others. He's homophobic now. And then i felt depressed. Without knowing where to go.

Lately, I found this girl, which i really really great, but i wouldn't know whether to go for her or not. I don't think i would get a lot of lust for girls, compared to guys. So I'm really really confused. Should i go for her? or not. Or should i just wait for this really great guy to accept me for who i am.

=| please don't judge gay people. It's very narrow minded. And btw, I'm an atheist, and a bhudist. So yea. Bite me.

Yea. I'm got the whole analogy on life down. I've even come up with a formula.

Ian's theory to the meaning of life. = Meaning of life -> meaning of life = 0

If you get what that means, of course. If you want to know more of course, you could always visit my blog and dig out my whole study on it. xanga.com/backflippingcow

I'm not smart. believe me. I'm more or less of an illiterate really. I live in Malaysia,

and yea, being bhudist is cool :d, I say that, because, the precepts of bhudism use the word, "refrain" instead of don't. and no, this is not meant to defame any other religion that uses don't in their commandments, or precepts.

Answer 1

You should follow your heart. Because you are interested in both males & females, even if you lust more for one than the other, means you could be bi-sexual.

If you like this girl, date her. Even if it is until your male friend makes up his mind on what he wants to do. To be honest though, your friend is probably never going to change.

How did your secret get out? Did you tell someone? Cause it could be that your friend is really just mad that it got out. If nobody knew, maybe he'd still be into you.

Good luck but always follow your heart!

Answer 2

Hi There. I'm Rob. i've been around the block a few times, but I remember those days. I had girlfriends too.(I don't sleep with women anymore) Look....It's gonna take some time to sort out your feelings and sexuality. I/We can't make those decisions for you here, but I can tell you that from what you have said in your previous statement that you already have the answers in your head.

A relationship that has gone bad,.....you're crushed.....you made bad decisions.....he hates you? All par for the course my friend. Not the gay course, but the course of life. Don't be so hard on yourself. Just learn from your mistakes is all you are required to do. Move on, ok?

You are 16. You've already had a good deal of sexual contact. You probably know what you want. I can see from your grammar that you're an intelligent person. Just take it easy, and remember that there are always other intelligent people to help you through it. Contact me by email if you want to talk more. have a nice day, relax, ok? Rob

Answer 3

There is nothing wrong with having sex. You should be safe and protect yourself, but there is nothing wrong with it -- so put that part aside.

Your friend was an *** - but those exist. If he was having and enjoying sex with you - and is now homophobic, he would still enjoy sex with males, he just has to conceal what he wants - or he thinks he does.

What is important here is that you love yourself. You must believe in and love yourself before anything else becomes possible. Once you let go of your own doubts and accept that you are who you are no matter who that is or what that is, and love you for being you -- not for being someone that local culture accepts --- THEN you are ready to make decisions about who you want to be with.

It sounds to me like you are a gay leaning bisexual, but you will only know for sure when you let go of the "I shoulds" and live with the "I ams" and the "I wants" -- because only then can the real you actually express what it wants to you, past the clamor of outsiders trying to tell you what to do and be. You could just as easily be gay as bi -- but only you can decide and know.

*hug*

You are wonderful.

If you need or want someone to just talk to, email me.

Reyn
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Answer 4

Date who you care about, who excites you. If the main reason you want to date this girl is for "cover", then that would be wrong-especially for her.

Answer 5

If you like both genders than I'm pretty sure you are bisexual?

Have you talked to anyone about this before?

Maybe these sites or links can help you?

http://www.pflag.org/
http://www.mogenic.com/
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bisexual

Answer 6

first of all, remember, god tought us to listten to our conscience if we do not listen to him. It is incorect to like boys, it is unnatural. god created girls and boys not for boys having sex with boys. besides look, you are just 16, at this age you are rulled not by your mind or real fillings but by your hormons... and you will be rulled by your hormons till 20-21 year.
Your life is not only for having sex, look around there are lot of things to do and enjoy in this world :)

Answer 7

i think your gaybi, your the gay side of bi which means you prefer guys, but you like certain girls.

nothing to be worried about! just be who you want to be :)

Answer 8

sounds to me like you just want to have someone...don't just use the poor girl if you really aren't into her...that's cruel.