my best friend from kindergarden father and cousin died in a horrible car reck last year and her mom went to jail for 7 years 5 weeks later :-( and now she is just not the same.....she has been hagging out with the trouble makers and are doing bad things but not like drugs..like doing stuff to hurt or emmbaress people...egg peoples houses and writing curse words all over it.she also hasnt been coming to school.should i confront herabout the stuff she has been doing ?or what ...what should i do?
2007-02-11 03:13:45 · 7 answers · asked by kay kay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Maybe you can invite her over to your house and talk with her. Ask her what's bothering her because she's never acted this way before. It sounds like she's rebelling against all the sad things that have happened recently. Let her know that you are there for her and you care and don't want her to get hurt.
2007-02-11 03:20:21 · answer #1 · answered by Dorth 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would pick a day you could spend with just you and her, and really have a heart to heart talk with her. Then start spending extra time with her. You may be the closest thing to family that she has right now. She is probably (rightfully) very hurt and angry at world right now. However, it may just be the angry,rebellious side she chooses to let people see. When you spend time with her, let her know that you love her and are worried about her. Reassure her that her feelings of hurt and anguish are totally normal, but there are ways that are more productive to express it. Spend as much time with her as possible, and show her you really care about her and her future. If she's spending more time with you, it's less time she has for the others who are influencing her in the wrong direction. You sound like a very good friend, and your love and understanding can help her get through this difficult time of life. Let her know that she is special and unique and she is worthy and deserving to be happy in the future. You may also want to suggest counseling for her if she isn't already getting it. Best of wishes....
2007-02-11 11:29:53 · answer #2 · answered by sassy_395 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi
you did not say how old you are now, but if it has been a very long time she will know that you mean it in a good way, if you go to her. You can tell her that she is self- distructing, and remind her that you are her friend and friends don't let friends self-distruct. However you must be aware that she will not like what you say and may be angry at you for awhile, but she will come around, so as long as you can, tell her that you care, but in a loving way not an aggressive way. She may become definstive about her new way of living and about her ( new friends) so try to figure out the words that you want to say before you approach her
2007-02-11 11:26:34 · answer #3 · answered by bluejay_24_2002@yahoo.com 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely talk to her! She needs a good friend. Ask her what is wrong and talk to her about her feelings and actions. I just think that she needs an old friend to reconnect too. Get to understand her feelings. Try to make things better! Good Luck!
2007-02-11 11:49:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have a serious talk with her,tell her shes going down the wrong road and it will only destroy her life..tell her u really care,but cant stand seeing her that way...gl
2007-02-11 11:31:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could try to talk with her...just don't start down her same path.
2007-02-11 11:20:00 · answer #6 · answered by IGH3Rat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she needs your help but she cant good say. therefor she shows with bad act you have to take her to therapy
2007-02-11 12:53:25 · answer #7 · answered by dayana_rose2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋