How can I feel secure about myself and don't care about what other people think?

Answer 1

Learn to love yourself?

I don't know. Remind yourself of everything thats good about you.
Become an egomaniac.

Answer 2

You know what, feeling confident in yourself and being a strongly secured person is not so easy to do sometimes. I have days when I feel like am a nobody and wonder why and how some people let things get to them. My mind is constanly in a state of "Why" mode. Yes I question and analyse everthing. Oh, sorry back to ways of feeling more secure. I can't say what will work for you because I don't know you but I can tell you what works for me. When I have those feelings that everybody else is better than me thinking. I think about the qualities that I possess that nobody else has nearest to me and things I am good at. I have always loved individualness in myself and others, maybe I think that makes me feel faster more secure person. I know for sure that I am a different thinking black girl. I play piano, I read a lot, I can appreciate different types of music, and easily understand, and appreciate people in other cultures better than anybody else. Living in the south with its mostly slow way of like I am more updated on things progressing in the ways of the world. I know so for a fact and this gives me a feeling of confident, superiority complex. Most days I am very cute(nobody has to tell me b/c I already know this), some days I am not.
Ciao
and Bueno suerte!!!

Answer 3

Its very simple actually. When you come across a situation that makes you nervous, or when you meet someone who makes you feel small....remind yourself that this person was born exactly the same as you, and he/she will die one day....just like you will. We are all equal, we have the same opportunities in this life...some will sit and do nothing...some will surge ahead and achieve great things.....but that is not the important part.....because whatever you do with your life is your choice, and nobody is better or worse than you simply because of their deeds and what they class as success. A woman who chooses to stay at home and raise her children is no worse than a woman who chooses to go out and work. Its about putting life into perspective. Its about being logical and realising it is physically impossible for another human being to be worse or better than you...we are all human beings...we were all born, and we will all die.

Next time you walk down the street, look at everyone who passes you by and know that every single one of them has a problem. Maybe that will make you feel better about yourself. Looks are very deceiving. I was a counsellor and one day this woman came in off the streets...very well dressed, very well known and respected member of society....she was married to a decon of a church. Everyone thought they had the perfect marriage. She showed me the bruises to her stomach and her legs. She told me about the broken arms, the black eyes...the times where she would not go out publically and make excuses as to her being sick. This respected memeber of society...her husband, was a wife beater. No-one would have suspected a thing...so be assured that looks do deceive and someone who bignotes themselves will have problems....everyone does..some choose to share these problems, some keep them to themselves. So never ever think pf youse;f as a lesser person than anyone else, simply because you are not.

In saying that however, if you really do feel lesser, then go out and achieve. Start getting out of your comfort zone...do some voluntary work....become a helper....become a visitor to an elderly person who has no-one. When you start helping others and are appreciated, you will realise that you are providing someone with something that is making them feel worthwhile. If you can do that for someone else then you will finally realise that you have a lot to give, that you are not an insignificant person and you are definitely not worse than another human being.

Answer 4

It's really hard, but you have to Just Do It. Do what you want to do the next time your friends try to make you do something. Wear what you want to wear, listen to what you want to listen to. Be who you are but don't try to be others' vision of 'rebels' or 'against the crowd.'

It's easy to know what you want but hard to carry it out. Once you know what you want, you do it. Taking the consequences takes a pretty hard toll on your self-esteem though, just to tell you. You'll lose some friends, make some enemies, but hey, if it's who you are it's who you are and no one should have the right to tell you you're wrong. And the friends you lost were never your friends in the first place.

Eventually, you'll get used to it... The longer you've been yourself, the easier it gets. The more confident you get and the better life seems to be.

Hope this wasn't too garbled...

Answer 5

well... believe in what you are, rise up from those materialistic things like how's he/she looking, speaking, doing etc... etc...

and just be comfortable with yourself... whtever u dress however u dress whtever u think however u think just like it and stick to it...that no way means to be stubborn too... develop an attitude of always learning new and trying being better.

all the best. keep rocking...

Answer 6

Hey!
Say to yourself everyday as many times as you have a lull in your thoughts:
"I'm whole, I'm well, I am perfect just as God made me."
Say it every miserable and happy day!
Say it whether you believe it or not, sooner or later you will know it's true and then you will change.

Answer 7

Just do it.