2007-02-11 02:34:38 · 26 answers · asked by the man 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No , sex should be fun,pleasurable, fulfilling and equally enjoyable for both partners. Granted there are couples who enjoy role playing/fantasy in order to spice up their sex life, that's fine as long as it's consensual by both parties.If it feels awkward degrading, uncomfortable or isn't enjoyable, then No it isn't ok,sex is not all about you and what you want,and your own pleasure,wants and needs.Half of the act is being considerate too your partners needs.She may feel comfortable with part of your request or a variation of it,and may have some ideas of her own, and a compromise reached where you both feel satisfied.If not then you have too accept and respect her wishes,and her comfort zone.
2007-02-11 03:05:13 · answer #1 · answered by jennybuttins 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not ! Sexuality is very much connected to our sense of self esteem and it could be very damaging to the woman's self image if she allows herself to be treated in a way that feels wrong to her. That's really abusive to force someone to do something sexual they object to !If she goes along with it or he demands it she will build up a resentment and then a hatred and will end up divorcing or even killing him. Remember Lorainna Bobbit ?That began with sexual abuse! She may be "submissive" and go along with it but inside she'll be seething. If a person wants something sexually it should be discussed over dinner or something and planned out and either rejected or agreed to. Why do people plan everything in thier lives except sex ? If she is willing to try it and it doesn't bother her then you should decide on a "safe word" which is a word she will say if she needs it to stop. You always must stop the moment she says that word ! Slavery has been aboliushed ! Women are not required to be submissive to thier husband's every whim anymore ! Do you want to live with a woman who hates you secretly ? Do you want to pay thousands of dollars for her therapy ? Do you want her to kill herself ? A marrage is not always the best place to fulfill your kinky desires ! Go to a hooker! But use a condom ! You don't want to infect your wife with an s.t.d. ! I'm obviously even offended by your question !
2007-02-11 03:24:21 · answer #2 · answered by Clover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question for you and your wife to answer is, Is my wife open minded enough to enter into a submissive sexual relationship with me and to what extend can she and I can go without loosing the respect for each other? If you can answer that question and she can answer it as well (no alcohol taken) then you both can try... I am giving you a link for you to read and learn more about it.
2007-02-11 03:03:33 · answer #3 · answered by SemperLeader 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on what the request is. if it is like you get on top.... or lets do it in a different place other than the bed... then he is not asking that much. if it is lets bring in another person... a farm animal..lol or some other sick thing, then no.
However, remember that he has requested this and if you don't he probably will find a woman that will. so if he isn't a sick basta... and is just spicing up the sex.... go for it. if he is a sicko... be aware of it also.
2007-02-11 02:43:44 · answer #4 · answered by Patrick G 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everybody has a line they wont cross.Ofcourse they also say that depends on how much alcohol you drink!The husband can ask But the wife is a big girl and should in a healthy marriage to ask him ARE YOU CRAZY?
2007-02-11 02:43:53 · answer #5 · answered by april showers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its nice for a man to get what he wants to satisfy his needs. if a man doesn't get what he wants then he may become seriously unhappy and worse may cheat to get what he wants.
I have the same problem with my wife. I want things and she doesnt give them. I guess the problem is that men want to have their curiousity satisfied. He loves you and wants you to satisfy that curiosity. I can tell you that personally I;ve been frustrated by my wife's unwillingness to do certain things and it irritates me to no end. BUT i have never cheated. I'm different. Many men would.
It does matter what he is asking for though too. I mean if he is asking you to swing then that's a big deal because that involves group sex which can be dangerous for your health and relationship. But if he just wants to use certain toys and positions and/or different "holes" then that shouldn't be something to hold you back. Come on now.
Its sex. Its not supposed to be pretty. Its lustful at times and can be quite dirty. You live life once. Why not?
make him do something you want to see done. Make it a game.
Have fun with your genitals,.
2007-02-11 02:42:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
If you are referring to what the bible says, the answer is yes BUT only as far as she is not being hurt, and it only involves the two of you. If what the husband is asking for hurts her or in any way involves other people (voyerism, orgies, multiple partners, etc) she has the right to say no.
If you are not referring to the bible then it's her call, and hers alone. Good luck!
2007-02-11 02:57:16 · answer #7 · answered by Archangel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck NO! Just b/c your married doesn't mean that the wife is submissive! OMG - those days are LONG GONE! Get over yourself honey!
2007-02-11 02:48:41 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Only do what you are OK with, what feels good to you, if not you will hate him for it later. Talk to him about it, it is the best thing. What you think is "odd" might be just fun to him. If it involves other people or animals....Hell No
2007-02-11 02:44:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Odd? Only if they don't go against her beliefs......My husband made a request to me for anal sex...........it's disgusting and painful.............I refused him........guess what........he raped me and I've been scared ever since. He may be her husband but it's her body. He has right's to her body yes, but only what she allows him to have access to. A man is to love his wife as he loves himself. I'm pretty sure if you took a survey of men as to whether they wanted to try getting ****** in the *** they would all say no............expect for the freaky deaky type and you know who you are!
2007-02-11 02:43:29 · answer #10 · answered by corina381 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋