and her b-day is the day after the day we choose to marry. she was an alcoholic with major rage issues so we ended it. i of course still think about her. she is with someone else now but should i send her a b-day card? and what the hell is wrong with me we were together for a year. i wanted her to change so bad.
2007-02-11 02:21:42 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
oh my friend i have been there everyday is a new rollercoaster. alcoholics rob you and your soul. thank god everytime you think about her for the fact that he got you out of there. it seems like you were just a convienence, someone to care for her. its an alcoholic trait. bless you
2007-02-11 05:29:20 · answer #1 · answered by elliepenelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not say how long it has been since the relationship ended!
Only send the B-day card if you have no agenda.
If your only motive is to let her know that she is remembered on her birthday then by all means send the card.
Most importantly, the relationship broke off because of REAL issues. Don't forget that!!!
Try to remember the bad times too! It did not work for a reason.
You are better off without all the drama no matter how much you loved her.
2007-02-11 02:39:16 · answer #2 · answered by Mr realistic...believer in truth 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send her a birthday card, but nothing else. Your relationship is no longer what it was, but that doesn't mean you're not friends. You can't change a person; a lot of people get into relationships thinking the other person will change, but it will never happen. And if it does, the other person will never be the same person you fell in love with. It's time to move on; she has.
2007-02-11 07:16:30 · answer #3 · answered by Kelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U should send her a b-day card. After all she was your ex. I understand that she was an alcoholic and has angry issues, but it seems to me that you may still love her. Maybe you need to talk to her and try to see what the real issue is that she is hiding behind the anger and alcoholism. Offer her some help, as far as counseling.
2007-02-11 02:30:58 · answer #4 · answered by carebear_ss52 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you loved her so much you would of excepted her for her you have to take the good with the bad. You can't change anyone unless they want to change themselves. Me and my wife fight every day she is constantly trying to change me but I will never change. As far as sending her a card if she is with someone else I wouldn't that could cause problems with her and her new partner
2007-02-11 02:33:03 · answer #5 · answered by ♫Rock'n'Rob♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, do not send a card. let it go. You can't change anyone, they have to want to change themselves and apparently she didn't. Now she is doomed to repeat the same mistakes with the new guy.
You are maybe just a little lonely but you will find someone who will make you realize that you would have wasted a lot of time on her.
2007-02-11 02:30:06 · answer #6 · answered by Kiss My Shaz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't send her a card. She made her choice, the alcohol. it'll seem like your still hanging on. Move on.
2007-02-11 03:05:41 · answer #7 · answered by kc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're able to be able to desire to handle your very own subject concerns..Like why are you in love with somebody that's unavailable to you? you probable deep down interior have some form of worry of dedication and thanks to this you're choosing somebody that's unavailable. Dont tell her the way you experience it incredibly is going to purely make issues uncomfortable between the two one in all you, till of direction you think of that she feels the comparable way. You the two could come to words with your thoughts and settle for the fact which you are able to't have her and notice in case you are able to truly shield the friendship, which i think is uncertain. Or in case you think of that she is in love with you than tell her and enable her choose what she is going to do relating to the full messy concern. that's an all around undesirable concern for her and her family members. merely verify which you extremely think of this by using till now you act. There are going to be all varieties of judgmental human beings at here telling you that's misguided and it incredibly is.... yet that's actual existence and the form of factor occurs. good success.
2016-10-01 23:15:52 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send her a card, that way it shows that you have no harsh feelings towards her.
2007-02-11 02:41:45 · answer #9 · answered by KittenKisses R Us 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋