I moved to an other country to live with my boyfriend. I gave up everything and started a new life for him, of course willingly since I was deeply in love. We live together for a year now. Although there is not much passion as we started there is still love and sex.
He keeps telling me how monogomous he is and says he wouldn´t even stand the idea of cheating.
I just found out that (`cause he left his computer on) he created a profile in one of those web-sites which are mostly for sex. He says in his profile, he is single and looking for sex. I created an other profile in the same site with some photos of some guy I am sure he would like. Well, after seing the fake profile I created he immediately sent a messege. We exchanged a few messeges. I told him I wanna meet him in person, in order to see if he is only playing around or he really gonna go to that fake sex date. Sure if he goes, I`m gonna trap him. But I`m afraid of loosing him cause I still love him. What am I gonna do?
2007-02-11 01:59:58 · 25 answers · asked by dictionary 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should definitely "BUST HIM OUT". It would teach him a lesson & he'd probably never do that again!!! But you would never have the same trust. Just be prepared for the end to come. What I mean is start right now conditioning your heart for a break up. Cause I don't think he is the ONE! You can ride it out to see & say that you tried but you should still be feeling some gut wrenching, electrical, head spinning, blinding passion if it was ever really "the real love". That don't stop in a year! FIGHT FIRE WITH FIRE I ALWAYS SAY. I'd like to see the expression on his face, it will be painful for you now, but in years to come you will appreciate "that look".
2007-02-11 02:03:38 · answer #1 · answered by char__c is a good cooker 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you been in love before? I think we all think we're in love a few times during our lives until we really find the real deal. You could go meet up and catch him in the act, but that's kind of game playing just like he's doing. The whole meeting thing will just cause drama. Leave him, don't make a big deal out of it, get over it, take care of yourself. I think you should leave the computer on so he knows, that you know, what he's up to. Best of luck to you in the future, there are some really great guys out there.
2007-02-11 02:16:45 · answer #2 · answered by kisinabrit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, do not be afraid of loosing him...love is a decision he also needs to make.
If you cannot trust him now then it is better leaving the setting yourself up for more furture problems.
Its is funny how he considers cheating from you a taboo but he is ready to do the same to you.
Anything you should realise is that sex is not marriage...the passion you describe as being low is because his focus has shifted to sex with others.
I strongly believe he is having affairs with others behind you.
You first need to establish the truth by meeting him for the fake date and then leaving him. He is not worth it.
Also, it is better you do this now since you are not yet married.
2007-02-11 02:17:05 · answer #3 · answered by Dazanix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to spend the rest of your life with someone who is out looking to replace you on a sex site? Even if he is not looking to replace you then he is still looking to cheat on you which is just as bad. You gave up everything for this guy and this is how he shows his appreciation. I say trap him so he knows that you are no fool and then leave him. It will be hard and it will hurt but in the long run you will realize that you are better off.
2007-02-11 02:08:22 · answer #4 · answered by navy wife 1996 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I created an other profile in the same site with some photos of some guy I am sure he would like."
ummm. lemme see here. YOU MOVED, he likes it up his butt from other men. HE CREATES a profile and you are chasing after him? What the hell man?
where is his love for you? seriously?
Look, unless this guy has a ten pound penis and is insane in bed then it sounds like this is just a really bad idea. You don't deserve to be treated like this and he is just USING YOU completely. You could catch something from him sexually and that would be really bad. He is being dishonest and once you do it once then thats it.
2007-02-11 02:08:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay you said he likes guys... Well, I was going to suggest you two get married but... You made a mistake giving up your life for someone else but since you did that's water under the bridge now. You set the trap, (although immature) follow through and confront him on the other end. The best thing for you to do is move on. In this day and age of rising STDs you cannot afford to endanger your health if he can't stay true to you. Follow your instincts not your heart and leave him.
2007-02-11 02:08:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go through with it and meet up with him to see what he does. Don't get at the meeting place first, since he may see you and leave. When you finally show up, tell him that you still really love him and you don't like it when he gets on that site. Since you caught him, he can't lie to you about it. Tell him that if he does it again that you will leave him (if thats what you would do) and see what he says. Then try to fix it if he wants to stay with you. Good luck!
2007-02-11 02:06:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you are saying that he is bysexual. And a cheater. And you even have to ask what to do? I think if you stay, you are as nutty as the guy that you are with. Do you really want this kind of life? Is this all you think you are worth? I would go ahead and meet him just to see his face. But then I would leave and never talk or think about him ever again.
2007-02-11 02:05:55 · answer #8 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have laid a good trap. And, nothing wrong with it. He has taken the move of setting up his profile. That alone is a real red flag and justifies you taking things further. If he shows up and you meet him he will be shocked but it will also be a moment of reckoning for him. Good luck.
2007-02-11 02:05:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow.. dictionary... this is really complicated. i don't think you can get a real good answer, only peoples opinions. so here's mine:
if you find out that he is cheating and wanting to go on a sex date, talk about it, give him another chance. if he does want to go on a sex date, it's probably because he's getting bored at home. I'm not sure I'm allowed to go into much more detail, but you know what i mean. good luck and I feel your pain.
2007-02-11 02:10:12 · answer #10 · answered by Jimmy P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋